Category: Co-Parenting with a FW

Child Support Enforcement Can Bite Me

In the United States, child support enforcement is a joke. How big of a joke? A $113.5 billon joke. That’s the amount of promised — …

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cheater manifesto

Should I Reach Out to the OW?

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband had a year-long affair while on a military deployment. He came back to our hometown back in July and we …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: ‘I in no way want be looked at as a home wrecker’

Hi Chump Lady, My ex was a serial cheater, cheated on me our entire 7 year relationship (7 years together married for 4; 2014-2021), even …

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Olivia Newton John

Olivia Newton John’s Unwavering Positivity

Olivia Newton John, the Australian singer, passed away this week and by all accounts she was a class act — gracious, professional, philanthropic. (She left …

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Ex Insists Their Son Call OW ‘Mummy’

Hi Chump Lady, I’m in need of advice. The ex and I have been divorced for a year and a half. Usual story, he cheated …

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I’m a Civil Co-Parent. Isn’t That Enough?

Dear Chump Lady, I was married for 7 years and turns out had a sham marriage and was chumped throughout and left for younger OW. …

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Ex Thinks They Must Have a ‘Relationship’ for Their Daughter

Hi Chump Lady, Stress chump here. So for anyone who doesn’t know my story – I’m in the Armed Forces and my wife of 6 …

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UBT: ‘Respect My Relationship with the OW’

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been divorced from my lying cheating ex since January 2016 after I found out he was cheating on me with his client. …

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bitter bunny

When Your Kids Want You to ‘Get Over It’

Dear Chump Lady, Things are going very well post divorce. Everyone has moved on and both the ex and I are remarried to great people. …

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Voodoo doll

‘Hero’ Cheater Is a Deadbeat

Dear Chump Lady, December marks three years since D-Day with the 21-year-old babysitter (among others). We had been together for 5 years, married for 2. …

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Ex Tells People She’s ‘Liberated from a Loveless Marriage’

Dear Chump Lady, After being quarantined with Covid for the month of November 2020 my wife came home and announced that she wanted a divorce. …

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How Do I Set Boundaries with My Kids About My Ex?

Dear Chump Lady, My cheating ex-wife avoids me. We don’t speak on the phone. And she does not go to events with our kids if …

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Should I Send a Father’s Day Card?

Dear Chump Lady, I’m struggling right now because Father’s Day is coming. My dad is dead and I am nearly divorced from my husband. I …

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planet narcissist

UBT: Inform Me About Your Girlfriend

Some cheaters find it really objectionable when their ex-chumps start dating. I’m not really sure what they were expecting. (Shrine maintenance, castle walls, vows of …

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Getting a Friendly ‘Weird Vibe’ from Ex-Wife

Hello Chump Lady, My ex wife and I divorced in July and since then, I’ve gotten very strange vibes from her. I discovered she was …

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Narcissist Goldfish

Why Are They So Petty?

Hi Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your site for a long time now and it’s been really helpful to me especially after my wife left …

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Cool, Bummer, Wow

Dear Chump Lady, Please help! I do not know how to navigate this entire divorce mess with my two teenage daughters. My youngest sees her …

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Stay friends

Why Does Everyone Want Me to Be Friends with My Ex?

Dear Chump Lady, What is up with the world asking me to be friends or friendly to Cheater Ex-Husband (XH)?! I am two years out …

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Lawyer Thinks She Has an Anger Issue

Hello Chump Lady, My D-day was October 2019, I found you early and you have helped me keep sane. I have three children. At D-Day …

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Why Does He Ignore My Co-Parenting Questions?

Dear Chump Lady, Unfortunately, I have to text my Cheater every couple of days regarding logistics with our son, and divorce issues. What’s up with …

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