Category: Deception

can't remember

UBT: I Can’t Remember

Probably no other statement gets sent to the Universal Bullshit Translator more than “I can’t remember.” What is it about cheating that fogs the mind? …

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gaslighting

The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender

There must be a bazillion “How To Tell If He/She’s Cheating” articles on the interwebs. You know, the usual — new cologne, sudden penchant for …

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But He’s Such a Nice Guy!

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 25 years is a really good father/uncle/church member, who is friendly to everyone and is generally a very nice …

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glorious asshole

UBT: Married Trader with a Sugar Baby

New York magazine runs a feature called “Sex Diaries,” sort of like Penthouse forum but without the improving articles. Readers anonymously send in details of their …

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Mindfuck blender

Confrontation Flops?

On yesterday’s post, I advised “Jenn” to not, for the love of all that is holy, confront her husband about his Craigslist “adventures” ads. With …

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Close Encounters of the Fake Tears Kind

I don’t know about you, but one of the most shocking discoveries I had being chumped was that my ex could cry on demand. I …

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gym cheater

Most Ridiculous Excuse After Being Busted?

Dear Chump Lady, I found several ads my husband posted on Craigslist, of all disgusting places, for group sex and friends with benefits. When I …

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ego kibbles

UBT: I Was Too Much Into My Own Lies

Hey Chump Lady, I finally heard from my ex-wife after almost a year. Quick recap — she admitted to having affairs in our marriage and …

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broken heart

He Told Me He Loved Me

Dear Chump Lady, My boyfriend of 5 years has been cheating on me for 6 months with another “woman”. She claimed she didn’t know about …

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gym cheater

Biggest Whopper You Bought?

Every now and then as a Friday Challenge, CN tries to out-do each other with Most Outlandish Lie we were fed. Which is bad enough. …

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Avoid feelings of paralysis

Lies Are Exhausting

A primer in mindfuckery today — exhaustion as manipulation tactic. If you’re a cheater and you want your chump to back off? Keep ’em running …

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Chumped by Dating, Still Heartbroken

Hello Chump Lady, I have a pretty straight forward situation. I was dating a man for about 8 months. I thought it was hands down …

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Serial cheater

‘He’s a Different Person Than I Used to Know’

Dear Chump Lady, The past several months have been some of the worst of my life. Three months after having a baby, I discovered that …

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twu luv

Soul Mates vs. Life Partner?

Hi Chump Lady, I was hoping you might do a post on the whole love-of-my-life soulmate thing. I feel that a lot of us get …

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Duped for a Quarter

Who doesn’t love a mighty story? I’m reading a really good book right now and I want to turn you all on to it — …

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When They Cheat in Your Home

Dear Chump Lady, I recently found out my husband of 25 years had a mistress for around 15 years of that marriage. Boy was that …

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mindfuck

Called the Other Woman, Got ‘Vague’ Answers

Dear Chump Lady, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He is 17 years older than me. Well, the first 3 months …

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word salad

Lies Are Exhausting

Another primer in mindfuckery today, and that is exhaustion as manipulation tactic. If you’re a cheater and you want your chump to back off? Keep …

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More Stupid Shit Cheaters Say

I know I have a page for this, but why hasn’t Stupid Shit Cheaters Say been a Friday Challenge? The time has come. When I …

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Serial cheater

Dear Chump Lady, My husband is a marriage counselor with a double life

Dear Chump Lady, My STBX is a marriage counselor, so when I met him (a couple of years after leaving a cheating and abusive husband) …

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