Category: Deception

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Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth

Add to the list of Reconciliation Industrial Complex euphemisms I despise — “trickle truth.” I’ve ranted about “wayward” before and the “fog,” but it only recently …

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Your Time on the Marriage Police Force

If you didn’t leave right after D-Day, you’ve probably spent some time in Chump Police Academy. You know, those dark days of “trust but verify” …

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Situational Truth

Stephen Colbert coined the awesome word “truthiness” — when referring to politicians who spin their own versions of reality. They seem so sure of themselves, …

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Biggest lie you bought?

Yesterday’s post had a pretty great whopper — the cheater who refused to wear his wedding ring out of consideration for his wife, because a …

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Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?

Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says …

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“I’ve changed!” — The Chump Response

I reckon I’ve read tens of thousands of infidelity stories to date. Maybe hundreds of thousands. (I should crunch the numbers.) And one common recitation …

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Dear Josh

Dear Josh of Somewhere in the Mid-Atlantic, You don’t know me. I run an infidelity blog. I happened to have dinner the other evening seated …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit cheating?

Dear Chump Lady, What do you do when they will NEVER admit to the truth? Even after you have hired a Private Investigator who traced …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop the smear campaign?

Hey Chump Lady, D-Day was November 20, 2017. I was coming home late after working one of my 4 jobs I had taken to sustain …

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Most Audacious Lie?

Today’s Friday challenge is extra challenging. Of all the lies your cheater told, what was the most audacious? And I don’t mean the obvious, love …

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Your Days on the Marriage Police Force?

I was once approached online by a nice man Trevor, who sent a complimentary email introducing himself and his website, thinking we had much in …

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Dear Chump Lady, He lies about everything… and why won’t he watch our dogs?

Dear Chump Lady, I am trying to overcome my Chump title and to divorce my husband of 37 years after his two affairs. He had …

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You might be a chump if…

If you’re a chump, you were completely blindsided by cheating. I was. I mean it never occurred to me to ask if my cheating ex if …

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Situational Truth

Stephen Colbert coined the awesome word “truthiness” — when referring to politicians who spin their own versions of reality. They seem so sure of themselves, …

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What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was

How many times do we write “tip of the iceberg” around here? When faced with a D-Day, chumps never get the full picture. And, fact …

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Dear Chump Lady, He proposed… and then he cheated

Hi Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 8 years, engaged for less than a year. I didn’t push for a proposal, that was …

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Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?

Dear Chump Lady, I would love to hear your take on this: When my former significant other was sneaking around behind my back having her affair, …

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The Trickle Truth is Neither Trickle Nor Truth

Add to the list of Reconciliation Industrial Complex euphemisms I despise — “trickle truth.” I’ve ranted about “wayward” before and the “fog,” but it only recently …

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The Unlikelihood of True Remorse

There’s an article over at HuffPo on how a cheater should tell their spouse they’ve been having an affair. There’s some discussion on tell versus …

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UBT: “I can’t remember”

Probably no other statement gets sent to the Universal Bullshit Translator more than “I can’t remember.” What is it about cheating that fogs the mind? …

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