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Biggest lie you bought?

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Yesterday’s post had a pretty great whopper — the cheater who refused to wear his wedding ring out of consideration for his wife, because a wedding ring is a “signal” to predatory women, desperate to have affairs with him. Which makes me wonder how this studmuffin imagines himself — batting women off like fish flies? […]

Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?

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Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says this is all that ever happened. 1). Went to the strippers about 15 times since the year we had our kids). 2). Had 4 lap dances where strippers put breasts […]

“I’ve changed!” — The Chump Response

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I reckon I’ve read tens of thousands of infidelity stories to date. Maybe hundreds of thousands. (I should crunch the numbers.) And one common recitation I read time and again after D-Day, is when cheaters, threatened with the loss of cake, don unicorn costumes and tell chumps that they’ve changed. “I’m a new man!” “Let’s make […]

Dear Josh

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Dear Josh of Somewhere in the Mid-Atlantic, You don’t know me. I run an infidelity blog. I happened to have dinner the other evening seated next to your cheating wife. She was with this really douchey guy about 15 years older than she is (late 40s, early 50s). The kind of guy who flips his […]

Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit cheating?

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Dear Chump Lady, What do you do when they will NEVER admit to the truth? Even after you have hired a Private Investigator who traced him to two different hotel rooms in one week with the affair partner? He claims she slept on the couch. Sure, because that’s what adults who have been having inappropriate […]

Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop the smear campaign?

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Hey Chump Lady, D-Day was November 20, 2017. I was coming home late after working one of my 4 jobs I had taken to sustain my wife’s insatiable and inscrutable spending habit and found her asleep, phone still in hand in the middle of a text conversation with another man she had known for years, […]

Most Audacious Lie?

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Today’s Friday challenge is extra challenging. Of all the lies your cheater told, what was the most audacious? And I don’t mean the obvious, love and honor, “til death do us part” stuff. I mean the kind of disordered whopper that needs an avalanche of spackle and a Special DOJ Investigator. Lies so outrageous only […]

Your Days on the Marriage Police Force?

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I was once approached online by a nice man Trevor, who sent a complimentary email introducing himself and his website, thinking we had much in common. He wanted to inform me and my readers of his services. His website was a commercial sales site for catching cheaters and other miscreants — including lazy employees and […]

You might be a chump if…

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If you’re a chump, you were completely blindsided by cheating. I was. I mean it never occurred to me to ask if my cheating ex if he had a 20-year long affair, a kid, dodgy financials, or P.O. boxes. Whoddathunkit, right? But like all chumps, in retrospect I could kick myself for being such a trusting […]