Category: Deception
Gaslighting — Who’s The Crazy One Here?
Dear Chump Lady, Can we talk about the horrible act and effects of gaslighting by cheaters and how they try to make you think you’re …
DNA Testing Surprises
Dear Chump Lady, I was wondering if you could address a topic on your site. I know you use humour a lot, and while this …
Surely You Must Have Known
Are your powers of premonition pretty lousy? Me too. I have no idea who is going to win the election or what the stock market …
Dear Chump Lady, The lies are crazy
Dear Chump Lady, I am 18 months out from D-day and 12 months from divorce. Your blog had helped keep my sanity in check and …
Dear Chump Lady, He says he cheated to protect me
Dear Chump Lady, My STBX got caught over 3 years ago in an affair. The truth came out that he had cheated with about 25 …
Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
Add to the list of Reconciliation Industrial Complex euphemisms I despise — “trickle truth.” I’ve ranted about “wayward” before and the “fog,” but it only recently …
Your Time on the Marriage Police Force
If you didn’t leave right after D-Day, you’ve probably spent some time in Chump Police Academy. You know, those dark days of “trust but verify” …
Situational Truth
Stephen Colbert coined the awesome word “truthiness” — when referring to politicians who spin their own versions of reality. They seem so sure of themselves, …
Biggest lie you bought?
Yesterday’s post had a pretty great whopper — the cheater who refused to wear his wedding ring out of consideration for his wife, because a …
Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?
Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says …
“I’ve changed!” — The Chump Response
I reckon I’ve read tens of thousands of infidelity stories to date. Maybe hundreds of thousands. (I should crunch the numbers.) And one common recitation …
Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit cheating?
Dear Chump Lady, What do you do when they will NEVER admit to the truth? Even after you have hired a Private Investigator who traced …
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop the smear campaign?
Hey Chump Lady, D-Day was November 20, 2017. I was coming home late after working one of my 4 jobs I had taken to sustain …
Most Audacious Lie?
Today’s Friday challenge is extra challenging. Of all the lies your cheater told, what was the most audacious? And I don’t mean the obvious, love …
Your Days on the Marriage Police Force?
I was once approached online by a nice man Trevor, who sent a complimentary email introducing himself and his website, thinking we had much in …
Dear Chump Lady, He lies about everything… and why won’t he watch our dogs?
Dear Chump Lady, I am trying to overcome my Chump title and to divorce my husband of 37 years after his two affairs. He had …
You might be a chump if…
If you’re a chump, you were completely blindsided by cheating. I was. I mean it never occurred to me to ask if my cheating ex if …
Situational Truth
Stephen Colbert coined the awesome word “truthiness” — when referring to politicians who spin their own versions of reality. They seem so sure of themselves, …
What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was
How many times do we write “tip of the iceberg” around here? When faced with a D-Day, chumps never get the full picture. And, fact …
