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Dear Chump Lady, What kind of person DOES this?

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Dear Chump Lady, A few months ago my world was turned upside down. I received a letter from a someone claiming that she was the other woman. My story is a little bit different from most that I read on your site, as I have only been married about two years, from what she says, […]

Situational Truth

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Stephen Colbert coined the awesome word “truthiness” — when referring to politicians who spin their own versions of reality. They seem so sure of themselves, who cares if it’s not the truth? It’s truthy! Similarly, the food writer Michael Pollan in his book “In Defense of Food” distinguishes between actual food (things “your great-grandmother would […]

Standing on Lies

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Thank you Dr. Anna Fels! I urge every chump to read yesterday’s opinion piece in the New York Times “Great Betrayals” by Dr. Fels. It’s the rare article on infidelity that recognizes the traumatic injury of deception — especially the sort we encounter here at Chump Lady — making sense of the double life. Fels […]

What’s the Stupidest Lie You Bought?

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We’ve all been chumped in some pretty outlandish ways. This especially came to mind reading the comments on yesterday’s post. (The “banana bread” in the Victoria Secret bag.) Okay chumps, lay it on me — what’s the dumbest lie you fell for? Other than “forsaking all others til death do us part.” I’m not even […]

Your Best Resentments

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Okay, I know it’s not healthy to hang on to resentments. The goal here is “meh,” but that said, cheaters create some of the most ridiculous situations to resent. At the core is some over the top narcissism, that is still jaw dropping. I want to hear your best moment of resentment. You may have […]

Technology and Cheating

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Eons ago, I studied at the London School of Economics and took a course entitled “The Ethics of War.” It was my favorite class, taught by a very old, tweedy philosophy professor. One day the subject was the history of British submarines. Apparently, the technology for submarines, and then submarines themselves had been around for […]

Oh hey! I know that mindfuck!

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I’m sorry… I’m still obsessed with Weiner gate. Yesterday the NY Post reported: Pressed for specifics, the prickly pol said, “I sought the help of my wife. And like problems that people had, this one thankfully is behind me and this one hasn’t recurred and the facts to a large degree have not changed.” “Do […]

Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit it?

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Dear Chump Lady, What do you do when they will NEVER admit to the truth? Even after you have hired a Private Investigator who traced him to two different hotel rooms in one week with the affair partner? He claims she slept on the couch. Sure, because that’s what adults who have been having inappropriate […]

Sure Doesn’t Look Like Love…

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I got a letter this morning from an old college friend who found this site. Sadly, she had her own chump story to share. Her ex is a screwed up narcissist of the most dysfunctional sort, and she’s fortunate that the courts recognize it, and the guy has limited, supervised visitation. Which he doesn’t exercise […]