Category: Divorce

‘I Can’t Face Being a Single Mum’

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been thinking about writing to you for months but I just haven’t been brave enough… I found out in April 2020 …

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Don’t Send It, Three Reasons Why

Psssst! I have a little secret to lay on you…. People are not interested in your messy divorce. Okay, maybe your parents and closest friend. Certainly …

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Can I Tell His Family He Cheated?

Dear Chump Lady, My STBX informed me two weeks before Quarantine Thanksgiving that we had to talk. I shut the lid of my laptop and …

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Jealous of the Other Woman

Dear Chump Lady, I am sure that my story is the same one that you have heard a hundred times, I have read versions of …

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He Walked Out for OW But Doesn’t Want a Divorce

Dear Chump Lady, My story begins four years ago. My narcissist had an emotional affair with a much younger (30 years..) girl at the local …

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‘Replaced’ and Still Feels Empty

Dear Chump Lady, I was married for almost 30 years, have one now grown daughter, and I’m in my 60s. I managed to survive serial …

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What Happens to Couple Friends After Divorce?

Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity in September 2013. This holiday season my children (12, 8) are …

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‘I Can’t Talk to My Kids About Their Father’

Dear Chump Lady, I am having a problem. I was chumped 5 years ago this month. I am in a good place now, remarried, etc. …

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In-House Separation, She Won’t Move Out

Dear Chump Lady, Last September my wife of 17 years and 3 kids, informed me she had had an affair with the headmaster of our …

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What Did You Do With the Photos?

You are the curator of your own history, so I’m curious — what artifacts have stayed and what’s gone? Or is it all moldering in …

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He’ll Send Support If She’ll Send Naked Pictures

Hi Chump Lady, Thanks so much for your blog that always keeps me on track. I have been no contact for 6 months. The peace …

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Who Filed for Divorce?

One thing that I always find striking about the chump experience is that chumps are usually the ones who file for divorce. I don’t have …

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Infidelity, Divorce, Kids — How Did You Navigate It?

Hi Chump Lady, I wish I would have found your site a decade ago.. alas spilled milk… I’m in a 19 year marriage to a …

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cake man

He Left Me. Why Won’t He Agree to a Divorce?

Dear Chump Lady, How do you deal with a fuckwit who won’t do the things necessary to separate from you? On the very rare times …

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Serial cheater

‘He’s a Different Person Than I Used to Know’

Dear Chump Lady, The past several months have been some of the worst of my life. Three months after having a baby, I discovered that …

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UBT Responds to Ex Dictating Where Kids Can Open Presents

Dear Chump Lady, My ex, after a year and a half, thinks that we should still be buying joint gifts for the kids, and signing …

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Divorce Day Plans?

A thread broke out yesterday about what folks did on the day they got divorced, and I thought — hey, that’s a Friday Challenge. Tell …

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‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’

Dear Chump Lady, I discovered in September 2018 that my husband of 3 years (together a total of 13 years) had been having a 2-year …

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Spending Holidays with Your Ex ‘For The Children’

Chump Lady, Can you do a post about having to spend holidays with the ex or not see your kids? I’m in another chat room …

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Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?

Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post-divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity.  My question is what happens to couple friends after divorce? Can anyone …

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