Category: Divorce
Divorce? Hey, You’re Doing It All Wrong
Blogger, Happy Hausfrau, had a goofy Facebook post this week where she riffed on photoshopping old family pictures with the ex. I just read a funny article about …
Dear Chump Lady, How can I help my mom forgive herself for being a chump?
Dear Chump Lady, How can I help my mom forgive herself for staying with my narcissistic dad for over twenty years? Over the past year-in-a-half, …
Give Up on “Closure”
I got a really nice letter from a really nice reader “Chump Chap.” He wrote to me after he realized that he’d just gotten a …
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife wants me to go to therapy with her
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife (20-year marriage) went to my therapist. (Chump that I am, I recommended that the cheating ex-wife use my therapist to save …
Technology and Divorce: What you don’t know can hurt you financially
Today’s guest blog is by David Wilkinson Esq. CFLS While this information can apply to either the chump or the cheater, I thought it was …
Dear Chump Lady, Why is she sorry NOW?
Dear Chump Lady, Much of your writing is considering that the cheater wants cake. But what of the cheater who just cheated and then abandoned, …
Dear Chump Lady, What made her so special?
Dear Chump Lady, Eleven months ago, I found out that my husband of 20 years and two children had been having an affair with a …
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t evict him from my head
Dear Chump Lady, I want to know how to “discount your cheater’s perception of you” because after 26 years of marriage and 26 years of …
Dear Chump Lady, How do I heal my “kindness flaw”?
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop caring about my husband of 22.5 years — his health and state of mind? He has significant anxiety …
Dear Chump Lady, Make nice with the OW… or else
Dear Chump Lady, STBX and I are both 45. We have been married 18 years, together 23. We have a son, 15, who is disabled, …
Dear Chump Lady, The OW says she will “destroy” me
Dear Chump Lady, Thank you for the sanity you provide, as for so long I was doubting my own. I have been separated for three …
Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly being nice?
Dear Chump Lady, I am so confused. I am going through a divorce. Eight years of marriage and the discard was sudden and brutal. I am …
Dear Chump Lady, I’m wondering if I did the right thing divorcing him?
Dear Chump Lady, I have been separated since late April last year and in process of divorcing. My STBX gave all the appearances of cheating: …
So How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
Dear Chump Lady, Although he fits the readings, although the therapists tell you he is a narcissist, you don’t quite believe it. It isn’t quite …
Dear Chump Lady, How do you get through the middle of leaving?
Hi Chump Lady, I have a question for you: how do you get through the middle of this leaving-your-cheater process, as in, not the terrible …
Craziest Thing They Asked for in the Divorce?
Today’s post came to me yesterday from NoMoreDancing’s comment that her cheating ex enumerated all the things he was going to miss… about their HOUSE …
Forgive $38K in Back Child Support?
This past Sunday, the New York Times ran a Motherlode article that incensed me. Entitled “Forgiving $38,750 in Child Support, for My Kids’ Sake” by Kimberly …
Enough with Divorce Shame
My cousin got divorced yesterday and I noticed today on her Facebook page that she wrote a very kind thank you to her friends and family who …
How To Leave Someone, How to Be Left
I think chumps are often misunderstood as sore losers. People can be incredibly tone deaf about infidelity — she left you? Hey, it’s all for …
Please Don’t Take Their Word for It
Folks, I know this is going to seem like a really obvious post, but remember my audience — we’re all chumps. Cheaters lie, liars cheat. …
