Category: Early days after discovery
Busted Sexting Other Guys
Wassup Chump Lady, Recently I found out my girlfriend cheated and I don’t know how to feel about it. Part of me wants to take …
He Blindsided Me with Cheating, I Blindsided Him with Divorce
Oh Chump Lady— I need to thank you and Chump Nation from the bottom of my heart. You gave me a fuckwit decoder ring right …
Before D-Day, After D-Day
The Ashley Madison “science” finding that cheaters are happy having affairs and feel zero regrets squares nicely with my Unified Theory of Cake — the …
How to Get Over the Cruelness?
Hi Chump Lady, I’m struggling over here as my STBXH told me two months ago he wanted to split. He then moved out a few …
An Inconvenient Time for a D-Day
Dear Chump Lady, It’s Valentine’s Day, and in between reading your blog posts, I’ve cooked a steak dinner and given a lovely gift and card …
He’s Checked Out for OnlyFans
Dear Chump Lady, I am so confused. My partner of 10 years, and friend prior to that, has been interacting and subscribing to subscription accounts, …
How Do I Help My Chumped Son?
Hi Chump Lady, You’ve helped me before, I’m wondering if you could help me help my older son. He’s 18 years old and getting ready …
The Phone Records Are Shady, Is He Cheating?
Dear Chump Lady, So I have been with my husband for 14 years, married for one. In late 2020 he started fighting with me often …
She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’
Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …
She Admitted to Cheating, Then We Had Great Sex… WTF?
Good Morning Chump Lady, I am probably going to word vomit on you, as I am still completely and utterly shocked. So I apologize in …
Holiday D-Days Anyone?
They really pick their moments, don’t they? About this time of year, there’s an uptick in new members to the chump club no one wants …
A False Confession?
Dear Chump Lady, The other night when I was questioning my husband for the umpteenth time since D-Day, he said his counselor advised him not …
His Double Life Was Revealed After Death
Dear Chump Lady, My husband was 55 years old, no known health conditions, he was taking no medication. Last August he was hospitalized and operated …
Caught Him on the DoggyCam
Dear Chump Lady, First I just want to say I literally love you and your site has brought me so much comic relief into the …
My Ex Gave Me an STD
Dear Chump Lady, It is now 7 months since D-Day. In 7 years, ex-boyfriend cheated with four women and only now “shows” some remorse over …
How Do You Confront a Cheater?
Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an …
He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t believe I am writing this but I really need some help. 5 weeks ago I discovered my husband was having …
5 Things NOT to Do When You Discover Cheating
Very few people navigate chumpdom gracefully. Accept that you’re going to wobble and fail sometimes. It’s okay. The goal, upon finding out that you’ve been …
How Come I’m Not Over It Yet?
Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I’ve been doing all the “right things” to move on and heal from my soon-to-be narcissistic cheating ex-husband. I’ve …
Confrontation Flops?
On yesterday’s post, I advised “Jenn” to not, for the love of all that is holy, confront her husband about his Craigslist “adventures” ads. With …
