Category: Early days after discovery

broken heart

How Do I Help My Chumped Son?

Hi Chump Lady, You’ve helped me before, I’m wondering if you could help me help my older son. He’s 18 years old and getting ready …

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Mindfuck blender

The Phone Records Are Shady, Is He Cheating?

Dear Chump Lady, So I have been with my husband for 14 years, married for one. In late 2020 he started fighting with me often …

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She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’

Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …

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She Admitted to Cheating, Then We Had Great Sex… WTF?

Good Morning Chump Lady, I am probably going to word vomit on you, as I am still completely and utterly shocked. So I apologize in …

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Holiday D-Days Anyone?

They really pick their moments, don’t they? About this time of year, there’s an uptick in new members to the chump club no one wants …

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Mindfuck blender

A False Confession?

Dear Chump Lady, The other night when I was questioning my husband for the umpteenth time since D-Day, he said his counselor advised him not …

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His Double Life Was Revealed After Death

Dear Chump Lady, My husband was 55 years old, no known health conditions, he was taking no medication. Last August he was hospitalized and operated …

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Caught Him on the DoggyCam

Dear Chump Lady, First I just want to say I literally love you and your site has brought me so much comic relief into the …

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My Ex Gave Me an STD

Dear Chump Lady, It is now 7 months since D-Day. In 7 years, ex-boyfriend cheated with four women and only now “shows” some remorse over …

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How Do You Confront a Cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an …

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He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’

Dear Chump Lady, I can’t believe I am writing this but I really need some help. 5 weeks ago I discovered my husband was having …

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Muffin top

5 Things NOT to Do When You Discover Cheating

Very few people navigate chumpdom gracefully. Accept that you’re going to wobble and fail sometimes. It’s okay. The goal, upon finding out that you’ve been …

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broken heart

How Come I’m Not Over It Yet?

Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I’ve been doing all the “right things” to move on and heal from my soon-to-be narcissistic cheating ex-husband. I’ve …

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Mindfuck blender

Confrontation Flops?

On yesterday’s post, I advised “Jenn” to not, for the love of all that is holy, confront her husband about his Craigslist “adventures” ads. With …

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How Do You Leave a Cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an …

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gym cheater

Most Ridiculous Excuse After Being Busted?

Dear Chump Lady, I found several ads my husband posted on Craigslist, of all disgusting places, for group sex and friends with benefits. When I …

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maintain your dignity

When Does the Pain Stop?

Dear Chump Lady, Tonight is a hard night for some reason. It has been 11 months since D-Day. And since then stories of other affairs …

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‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’

Dear Chump Lady, I just found out after 5 or 6 years of absolute insane digging (mental breakdowns, trips to rehabs, gaslighting to the extreme, …

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What Kept You Stuck with a Cheater?

Very few people react to betrayal with calm and clarity. We’re broadsided. Flattened. Confused. Most of us ran with the unicorn herd for awhile and …

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Is This Intense Hate Normal?

Dear Chump Lady, Is it okay that I actually feel hate toward my cheater until I get to my Tuesday and meh? 20 years and …

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