Category: Early days after discovery

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Check Your Bills for Boob Jobs and Other Great Advice

Dear Chump Lady, I found your website after all the drama and trauma of my divorce was wrapping up. Your advice and the stories of …

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Snooping in the Modern Age

I recently had to research a story on the modern phenomena of losing your job because of something you posted on social media. Back in …

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Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone ever love me with stretchmarks?

Dear Chump Lady, I am two weeks post partum. I was left by my husband when I was 6 months pregnant. He had been cheating …

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It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day

One of the lasting “gifts” of infidelity for me is that the holidays can’t roll around without me thinking, “Someone’s going to have a D-Day …

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“Feeling desperate, fearful, rage”

I often get letters that are written in crisis. Heart-breaking, gut-wrenching letters. And I don’t publish them mostly because they are just too long for …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?

It’s that season again and it’s time to rerun this column. If you’re in a bit of a holiday slump, this goes one out to you. For …

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Dear Chump Lady, I don’t miss him at all. Is there something wrong with me?

Dear Chump Lady, I just walked away from a 17-year marriage. He admitted to his second one-night stand in our marriage. I’m not chumpy enough …

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Dear Chump Lady, He loves me, he’s worried about me… he left?

Dear Chump Lady, I don’t know why I feel so compelled to write a complete stranger at 3 a.m. about this. I pretty much know …

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What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was

How many times do we write “tip of the iceberg” around here? When faced with a D-Day, chumps never get the full picture. And, fact …

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The Unlikelihood of True Remorse

There’s an article over at HuffPo on how a cheater should tell their spouse they’ve been having an affair. There’s some discussion on tell versus …

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Dear Chump Lady, When does this get easier?

Dear Chump Lady, A month ago was My D-Day where I found out my wife of 5 years (partner for 10) and mother of my two beautiful …

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It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day…

One of the lasting “gifts” of infidelity for me is that the holidays can’t roll around without me thinking, “Someone’s going to have a D-Day …

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The Pep Talk You Would Give Yourself at D-Day

Instead of our usual snarking, today’s Friday Challenge is to think back to your first (or 15th) D-Day and give yourself a pep talk. I …

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caught cheating

Dear Chump Lady, He says he thought he’d never get caught

Dear Chump Lady, When asked my husband why he kept cheating, his reply was — he never thought he’d get caught. What would have been a better response? …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over losing the dream?

Dear Chump Lady, It’s been 2 weeks since I found out I was a chump. After 7 years together, 1.5 in marriage my husband stated …

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Dear Chump Lady, My world has crashed around me

Dear Chump Lady, Hubby and I are in our late 30s, married for 12 years. We struggled with infertility and loss for years before I …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do you confront a cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an …

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Dear Chump Lady, The “Other Woman” wrote me a letter…

Dear Chump Lady, I discovered this site while trying to make sense of my current dilemma. My husband and I have been together 3 years, …

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Dear Chump Lady, The Zoloft Isn’t Helping

Dear Chump Lady, Approximately, five weeks ago, on Martin Luther King, Jr. day, I learned that my husband of 19 years was having an emotional affair …

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Being the Marriage Police

If you didn’t leave right after D-Day, you’ve probably spent some time in chump Police Academy. You know, those dark days of “trust but verify” …

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