Category: Early days after discovery

Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone ever love me with stretchmarks?

Dear Chump Lady, I am two weeks post partum. I was left by my husband when I was 6 months pregnant. He had been cheating …

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It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day

One of the lasting “gifts” of infidelity for me is that the holidays can’t roll around without me thinking, “Someone’s going to have a D-Day …

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“Feeling desperate, fearful, rage”

I often get letters that are written in crisis. Heart-breaking, gut-wrenching letters. And I don’t publish them mostly because they are just too long for …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?

It’s that season again and it’s time to rerun this column. If you’re in a bit of a holiday slump, this goes one out to you. For …

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miss you

Dear Chump Lady, I don’t miss him at all. Is there something wrong with me?

Dear Chump Lady, I just walked away from a 17-year marriage. He admitted to his second one-night stand in our marriage. I’m not chumpy enough …

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Dear Chump Lady, He loves me, he’s worried about me… he left?

Dear Chump Lady, I don’t know why I feel so compelled to write a complete stranger at 3 a.m. about this. I pretty much know …

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What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was

How many times do we write “tip of the iceberg” around here? When faced with a D-Day, chumps never get the full picture. And, fact …

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The Unlikelihood of True Remorse

There’s an article over at HuffPo on how a cheater should tell their spouse they’ve been having an affair. There’s some discussion on tell versus …

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mindfuck

Dear Chump Lady, When does this get easier?

Dear Chump Lady, A month ago was My D-Day where I found out my wife of 5 years (partner for 10) and mother of my two beautiful …

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It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day…

One of the lasting “gifts” of infidelity for me is that the holidays can’t roll around without me thinking, “Someone’s going to have a D-Day …

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The Pep Talk You Would Give Yourself at D-Day

Instead of our usual snarking, today’s Friday Challenge is to think back to your first (or 15th) D-Day and give yourself a pep talk. I …

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caught cheating

Dear Chump Lady, He says he thought he’d never get caught

Dear Chump Lady, When asked my husband why he kept cheating, his reply was — he never thought he’d get caught. What would have been a better response? …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over losing the dream?

Dear Chump Lady, It’s been 2 weeks since I found out I was a chump. After 7 years together, 1.5 in marriage my husband stated …

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Dear Chump Lady, My world has crashed around me

Dear Chump Lady, Hubby and I are in our late 30s, married for 12 years. We struggled with infertility and loss for years before I …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do you confront a cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an …

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Dear Chump Lady, The “Other Woman” wrote me a letter…

Dear Chump Lady, I discovered this site while trying to make sense of my current dilemma. My husband and I have been together 3 years, …

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Dear Chump Lady, The Zoloft Isn’t Helping

Dear Chump Lady, Approximately, five weeks ago, on Martin Luther King, Jr. day, I learned that my husband of 19 years was having an emotional affair …

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Being the Marriage Police

If you didn’t leave right after D-Day, you’ve probably spent some time in chump Police Academy. You know, those dark days of “trust but verify” …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m due to give birth and found him sexting…

Dear Chump Lady, I am with who I thought was the love of my life. Everything was going so smooth. We were perfect! We were so …

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When Cheaters Do Therapy… Some Precautions

Chumps, hopeful creatures that we are, are often so encouraged when their cheaters do therapy. It doesn’t matter if we had to beg, plead, consult their …

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