Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife (20-year marriage) went to my therapist. (Chump that I am, I recommended that the cheating ex-wife use my therapist to save money because she knew the story.) Now she wants me to go to a meeting with her this coming Monday the 14th! Therapist called, told me it was about finding […]
Galletillas de Ego
La infidelidad es un acto profundamente narcisista. (Por supuesto, los infieles no lo ven de esa manera. Generalmente lo ven como un acto desinteresado de liberar a alguien que esta oprimido con el vínculo de un matrimonio asexual con un imbécil…). Pero realmente la infidelidad se trata de una cosa: las galletillas de ego. Los […]
Is He Going to Regret Choosing Her?
Dear Chump Lady, Once I found out my boyfriend cheated on me, I desperately searched for answers and came across your book. I tried to hang in there, but here I am 4 months later moving my stuff out. He has treated me terribly our entire relationship, between talking to other women, the lies, cheating, […]
Jealous of the Other Woman
Dear Chump Lady, I am sure that my story is the same one that you have heard a hundred times, I have read versions of it on your site and others… married 9 years, together 18, one small daughter and poof! He is gone. Like emotionally gone. Except that he did not physically leave. My […]
Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas
Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 4 years now after going through an ugly divorce complete with 2 years of doing the pick me dance. We were together for 25 years with the last few years legally married (same sex marriage). My ex was having an affair and ultimately ended up moving in […]
He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him
Dear Chump Lady, It has been 9 months since D-Day #2 and today would have been our 9th anniversary. A few days ago my STBXH made a public social media post about his mental health — admitting contemplating suicide, being in counseling and on meds — even (and this made me sick) making a vague […]
UBT: ‘My Life Is Rich and Full’…. That’s Why I’m Stalking You
Dear Chump Lady, I got divorced several years ago, then remarried this last summer. I’m meh. Everything’s been great. I’ve been no contact for 3+ years… but then the other day my ex started following my current wife on Instagram (which she uses for her business) and she promptly sent me a screenshot. I probably […]
‘I Lost My Meh’
Dear Chump Lady, I thought I was really close to meh, until I had a tough day with kids, and then ran into my XH and his howorker at a trailhead and ended up wishing my XH would “disappear or just go somewhere and never come back,” to his face. Worst part is that the […]
Coronavirus Hoovering?
Hi Chump Lady, Do you think that toxic relationships can be re-started — years later after both of you have had other partners and lived separate lives? So many of my exes are reaching out to me during this COVID time… I find it fascinating and traumatizing. What are your thoughts? Too Many Bad Options […]
Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
Hi Chump Lady, I was married for 25+ years to a serial cheater, liar, sex addict, abuser, manipulator (yeah, he was all that and a bag of chips). I finally threw him out last summer and we were divorced last fall — best thing I ever did. We haven’t communicated much (a good thing), but […]
