Category: Ego kibbles

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Ex Wants Chump to Go to Therapy with Her

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife (20-year marriage) went to my therapist. (Chump that I am, I recommended that the cheating ex-wife use my therapist to save …

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Galletillas de Ego

Galletillas de Ego

La infidelidad es un acto profundamente narcisista. (Por supuesto, los infieles no lo ven de esa manera. Generalmente lo ven como un acto desinteresado de …

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Ooh, pick me!

Is He Going to Regret Choosing Her?

Dear Chump Lady, Once I found out my boyfriend cheated on me, I desperately searched for answers and came across your book. I tried to …

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luggage

Jealous of the Other Woman

Dear Chump Lady, I am sure that my story is the same one that you have heard a hundred times, I have read versions of …

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ego kibbles

Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas

Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 4 years now after going through an ugly divorce complete with 2 years of doing the pick …

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sadz

He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him

Dear Chump Lady, It has been 9 months since D-Day #2 and today would have been our 9th anniversary. A few days ago my STBXH …

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ego kibbles

UBT: ‘My Life Is Rich and Full’…. That’s Why I’m Stalking You

Dear Chump Lady, I got divorced several years ago, then remarried this last summer. I’m meh. Everything’s been great. I’ve been no contact for 3+ …

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go away

‘I Lost My Meh’

Dear Chump Lady, I thought I was really close to meh, until I had a tough day with kids, and then ran into my XH …

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Coronavirus Hoovering?

Hi Chump Lady, Do you think that toxic relationships can be re-started — years later after both of you have had other partners and lived …

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Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference

Hi Chump Lady, I was married for 25+ years to a serial cheater, liar, sex addict, abuser, manipulator (yeah, he was all that and a …

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Serial cheater

How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, Although he fits the readings, although the therapists tell you he is a narcissist, you don’t quite believe it. It isn’t quite …

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The Plan B Offer

If things don’t work out with her, perhaps you and I could work things out. This was submitted to my “Universal Bullshit Translator” inbox. It’s so …

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conceited

David Brooks Can Bite Me

I’m sure you’re all thrilled to crumbs to learn that New York Times columnist David Brooks — deli meat snob, scourge of single mothers, and misunderstood …

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no contact

Dear Chump Lady, Do I owe him an explanation?

Dear Chump Lady, I was married 6 years. No kids. Three years ago was D-Day. Got the usual “I love you but…” A month later …

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Respond to Mindfuckery with Ridicule

Ideally, no one sticks around for gaslighting. The best response is no response — because you’re not there. But if you’re still in the thick …

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“Closure,” Don’t Do It.

“Closure” is just another word for hopium. Put down the crack pipe, chumps. Don’t confuse closure with acceptance. We’re all about the meh here. Acceptance …

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The Case of the Dangling Former Spouse

Dear Chump Lady, I am nearly at meh, three years from D-Day and two from my divorce from a world class Cluster B, alcoholic, successful …

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Dear Chump Lady, The OW must be really great for my wife to give up everything

Dear Chump Lady, You wrote on your post Ego Kibbles that: “Part of that problem is the cheater – they’ve got a hole in their …

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You Could Be Friends!

Among the more patently moronic submissions to Stupid Shit Cheaters Say is the assertion that if you knew the affair partner, you’d really like them. …

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butt dial

Dear Chump Lady, He butt-dialed me from the OW’s

Dear Chump Lady, I left my fiancee after finding out he had an affair with a subordinate of his at work. I still haven’t gotten …

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