Dear Chump Lady, I left my fiancee after finding out he had an affair with a subordinate of his at work. I still haven’t gotten the whole story out of him (to this day, he still sticks by his story that they only “made out a little bit” even though there were nights where he […]
Dear Chump Lady, What do I make of this “goodbye letter” from my ex?
Dear Chump Lady, What do I make of this goodbye letter from my cheater ex? It has been 7 months since since we said our goodbyes following D-Day #1. She left me to be with the affair partner. But she replied to my goodbye letter. I still cannot read it without crying. The letter starts with […]
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to remain friends?
Dear Chump Lady, My husband has said that he cannot bear the thought of never seeing me again after our divorce. He wants to remain friends and still visit me. I said his OW, who he admits he might marry one day, and who he is living with now, might not let him. His reply […]
The Hail Mary Play for Kibbles
Yesterday’s post we were encouraging JJ to leave her husband (who really left her… anyway go back and read). She’s got a one-way ticket back home for May, but here’s my fear for her, for anyone in JJ’s situation. When you finally get up your gumption to go — the wing nut comes back a […]
Dear Chump Lady, Did I do a bad thing?
Dear Chump Lady, My ex got involved with my daughter’s hockey coach. It lasted a year. I discovered months of “I love you more and more every day, if that’s possible” emails. Fortunately I didn’t do the pick-me dance, and we are now divorced. But I now coach my daughter’s hockey team, and the asshole […]
Dear Chump Lady, He wants to be FRIENDS?
Dear Chump Lady, I wish I had found this website a year ago. I would’ve of saved myself a lot of heartache. Reading the stories is so comforting. It’s nice to know I am not actually crazy! I do wish no one had to deal with this shit. After 11 years I was cheated on. […]
Dear Chump Lady, He’s worried about his girlfriend, WTF?
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my husband of 25 years and two children has been having five-year long affair. After he admitted that he was cheating, and as I’m doubled over in pyschic pain, trying not to puke, he says — “I can’t believe how I fucked up HER life.” Meaning — the GIRLFRIEND’S. WTF! […]
Ego Kibbles
Cheating is a profoundly narcissistic act. (Of course, cheaters don’t see it that way. Usually they cast it as selflessly liberating someone from the oppressive bonds of sexless marriage to a jerk…) But really cheating just all boils down to – ego kibbles. Cheaters need ego kibbles. Lots and lots of kibbles. Shrinks call ego […]
