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Is an ‘Emotional Affair’ Reason Enough to Leave?

August 11, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Can you tell me your theory about emotional affairs? My husband had an emotional affair two years ago. It lasted a couple of months, with two D-Days on my part, by checking both his email and then his voicemail. Supposedly it has been no contact between them for this whole time. I […]

Filed Under: Emotional affair, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Emotional Affair, evidence, Marriage Police, Trust

Are ‘Emotional Friendships’ with Other Women Cheating?

November 5, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I’m eternally grateful to my friends for directing me to your site, even though it complicates most of the advice I’ve been hearing about my marriage. Here’s my situation: I’ve been married to John for 9 years. We have an infant son. About four months ago, John told me he and one […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Emotional affair, Reconciliation, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Emotional Affair, Marriage Police

Dear Chump Lady, I apologized to him for cheating on me

October 1, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Like all other Chumps, I never thought I would be here. I met the love of my life when I was 18 and he was 22 in the most magical, serendipitous way possible. (Or is that the story I tell myself?) Anyway, we were both in college, and 6 months later I […]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Emotional affair, Limbo Tagged With: Abandonment, divorce, Pick Me Dance

Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater or a muse?

September 16, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I am am 51 year old male who has been married to his wife for 27 years. There have been four distinct occasions when my wife “fell” for someone else, three of them led to no sexual or physical intimacy.  The one came about when she was open with me about her “interest” […]

Filed Under: Emotional affair, Spackle Tagged With: Emotional Affair, Is this cheating?, Narcissist

Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart

July 29, 2019 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, I am new here, however, I am not new to chumpdom. I am a young chump (just turned 30) and am going through the second breakup with a man who lied and had an “emotional affair” throughout our time together, then proceeded to proclaim fucking the other woman officially the moment our […]

Filed Under: Dating, Emotional affair Tagged With: Dating, Know Your Worth, Thaddeus Stevens

Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave for an emotional affair?

February 18, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I’m not sure if I belong among your chump ranks. My husband of 11 years developed an ongoing emotional affair with a woman at work. I could tell something was in the works with him and approached him with tears in my eyes, asking him to set boundaries with her and not […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Emotional affair Tagged With: emotional abuse, Emotional Affair

Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker

November 19, 2018 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were good friends for 5 years, dated for almost another 5 and have been married for 8 years, have 2 kids, with our 9th anniversary coming up at the end of this month. Prior to marriage, she had dated only one other guy, I dated several others and […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Early days after discovery, Emotional affair, Limbo, Pick me dance Tagged With: cake eating, Emotional Affair

Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?

July 11, 2018 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says this is all that ever happened. 1). Went to the strippers about 15 times since the year we had our kids). 2). Had 4 lap dances where strippers put breasts […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Bitch cookie, Deception, Emotional affair, False reconciliation, Gaslighting, Limbo, Sex addiction, Untangling the skein of fuckupedness Tagged With: Sex addiction

Emotional Affairs, Exit Affairs, and Ghosts

July 3, 2018 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Can I still be in the CN club? Do I still get to hate my husband as much as everyone else here gets to hate their crappy spouses even though he was “a moral cheater”? Mine didn’t want even want cake….ghosts don’t eat cake. We were married for 5 years, with two […]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Emotional affair, Untangling the skein of fuckupedness Tagged With: Abandonment, Exit Affair, Ghosting

UBT: 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You For His Emotional Affair Partner

April 17, 2018 by Chump Lady

I think family therapist Lisa Bahar might be trolling us. I’ve read some asinine relationship listicles in my day (HuffPo I’m talking to you), but this one takes the biscuit — 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You for His Emotional Affair Partner. (Spoiler alert: It was you. You suck.) “She filled the gap and was […]

Filed Under: Blameshifting, Emotional affair, universal bullshit translator Tagged With: Emotional Affair, Universal Bullshit Translator

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