Dear Chump Lady, I’m not sure if I belong among your chump ranks. My husband of 11 years developed an ongoing emotional affair with a woman at work. I could tell something was in the works with him and approached him with tears in my eyes, asking him to set boundaries with her and not […]
Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker
Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were good friends for 5 years, dated for almost another 5 and have been married for 8 years, have 2 kids, with our 9th anniversary coming up at the end of this month. Prior to marriage, she had dated only one other guy, I dated several others and […]
Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?
Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says this is all that ever happened. 1). Went to the strippers about 15 times since the year we had our kids). 2). Had 4 lap dances where strippers put breasts […]
Emotional Affairs, Exit Affairs, and Ghosts
Dear Chump Lady, Can I still be in the CN club? Do I still get to hate my husband as much as everyone else here gets to hate their crappy spouses even though he was “a moral cheater”? Mine didn’t want even want cake….ghosts don’t eat cake. We were married for 5 years, with two […]
UBT: 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You For His Emotional Affair Partner
I think family therapist Lisa Bahar might be trolling us. I’ve read some asinine relationship listicles in my day (HuffPo I’m talking to you), but this one takes the biscuit — 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You for His Emotional Affair Partner. (Spoiler alert: It was you. You suck.) “She filled the gap and was […]
Dear Chump Lady, My husband is having an emotional affair with his HS girlfriend
Dear Chump Lady, I uncovered an emotional affair my husband was having that started before we began dating. They were “the ones who got away” from each other in high school — they had huge crushes on each other but were dating each other’s best friends and didn’t admit the crushes. Before she got married her […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I break through to her?
Dear Chump Lady, I’m at a loss about how to proceed with my marriage. Two years ago me, my wife and two kids were prepping to move overseas for a work commitment. Before we left, my wife connected with one of my foreign coworkers while he was visiting the United States. It seemed reasonable she […]
Dear Chump Lady, “I couldn’t forgive a mistake.”
Dear Chump Lady, Can you tell me your theory about emotional affairs? My husband had an emotional affair two years ago. It lasted a couple of months, with two D-Days on my part, by checking both his email and then his voicemail. Supposedly it has been no contact between them for this whole time. I […]
Dear Chump Lady, Is there any way back from an emotional affair?
Dear Chump Lady, Is there any way back from a 13-month-long emotional affair? My husband and our insurance agent carried on behind my back, talking, texting, sometimes meeting in the park near our home. They were just friends, blah, blah, blah. I know your friends and she’s not one of them. The worst part was […]
Dear Chump Lady, Reconciling from his emotional affair is not working
Hi Chump Lady, We’ve been married for 8 years and we were both working parents to 2 kids. I’ve always been the breadwinner and he has no problem with that until recently. Last year my husband lost his job and became SAHD ever since. He admitted that he was unhappy and bored so I tried to […]
