Dear Chump Lady, I had been with my husband for 17 years and married 11 of those years. I found him emotionally cheating three times before and I chose to continue the relationship not realising I was being gaslighted and manipulated. I went down the If-I-Just-Fix-This-About-Me path and boy was he good at finding ways […]
Jealousy and ‘Just Friends’
Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were having issues. It got incredibly bad. I found evidence of something going on. I got suspicious when she suddenly was wearing kits of makeup and sexy underwear, I didn’t get to see. So I accused her of cheating when I saw a message. She admitted having feelings […]
Is an ‘Emotional Affair’ Reason Enough to Leave?
Dear Chump Lady, Can you tell me your theory about emotional affairs? My husband had an emotional affair two years ago. It lasted a couple of months, with two D-Days on my part, by checking both his email and then his voicemail. Supposedly it has been no contact between them for this whole time. I […]
Are ‘Emotional Friendships’ with Other Women Cheating?
Dear Chump Lady, I’m eternally grateful to my friends for directing me to your site, even though it complicates most of the advice I’ve been hearing about my marriage. Here’s my situation: I’ve been married to John for 9 years. We have an infant son. About four months ago, John told me he and one […]
Dear Chump Lady, I apologized to him for cheating on me
Dear Chump Lady, Like all other Chumps, I never thought I would be here. I met the love of my life when I was 18 and he was 22 in the most magical, serendipitous way possible. (Or is that the story I tell myself?) Anyway, we were both in college, and 6 months later I […]
Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater or a muse?
Dear Chump Lady, I am am 51 year old male who has been married to his wife for 27 years. There have been four distinct occasions when my wife “fell” for someone else, three of them led to no sexual or physical intimacy. The one came about when she was open with me about her “interest” […]
Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart
Hi Chump Lady, I am new here, however, I am not new to chumpdom. I am a young chump (just turned 30) and am going through the second breakup with a man who lied and had an “emotional affair” throughout our time together, then proceeded to proclaim fucking the other woman officially the moment our […]
Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave for an emotional affair?
Dear Chump Lady, I’m not sure if I belong among your chump ranks. My husband of 11 years developed an ongoing emotional affair with a woman at work. I could tell something was in the works with him and approached him with tears in my eyes, asking him to set boundaries with her and not […]
Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker
Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were good friends for 5 years, dated for almost another 5 and have been married for 8 years, have 2 kids, with our 9th anniversary coming up at the end of this month. Prior to marriage, she had dated only one other guy, I dated several others and […]
Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?
Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says this is all that ever happened. 1). Went to the strippers about 15 times since the year we had our kids). 2). Had 4 lap dances where strippers put breasts […]
