Decided to rerun this one today. You Bitter People can obsess over that “meaningless fling” that doesn’t define your cheater. Feel free to comment! So as of yesterday Esther Perel now follows me on Twitter. Which is big of her considering I told her to bite me. On the other hand, there might be something […]
UBT: “Sometimes You Need to Betray the Social Order”
God, I love me some Orwellian doublespeak. I like to end the week on a participatory note. So your homework today until Monday is to write Chump Nation some doublespeak in the vein of this Esther Perel gem I found on her Facebook page: Betrayal is awful but sometimes you need to betray the social order to create […]
Where’s Esther?
As this Ashley Madison hack has unfolded over the last couple months, I’ve begun to wonder, “Where is Esther Perel?” Surely this is the biggest Infidelity News Story of the last year? Decade even? It’s huge! Millions of Ashley Madison users on Quests for Aliveness, committing Exuberance Acts of Defiance (in secret, with credit cards […]
UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
Raise your hand if you think good sex is an important part of a good relationship. Oh, hey, is that all of you? I think most of us can agree that good sex is a Good Thing. How do you define good? Well, that’s between you and your partner to figure out. (Enjoy those experiments, kids!) […]
UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us such genius. Sorry. “Leading Mindful Living Expert” and “Certified Yoga Therapist” Ira Israel broadcasts to The Good Men Project and Huffington Post that Esther Perel is nothing short of GENIUS. (Like picnics are a few […]
Searching for Meaning in Ambiguity
This evening someone left a comment on “Affairs Are Exuberant Acts of Defiance“, my riff on the idiotic essay Esther Perel wrote on infidelity. “Stephanie” writes: “I stumbled upon this while looking for works by Esther Perel and was horrified. Perel’s research and writing comes from a place of thoughtfulness, growth, and understanding. She searches for […]
Esther Perel Should STFU
If anyone’s bullshit ever deserved to be fed through the patented Universal Bullshit Translator (or a chipper shredder… or left at the bottom of a radioactive well) it’s Esther “Affairs Make You Feel Alive!” Perel. Perel, as you’ll recall, wrote “Mating in Captivity.” The title alone gives you an idea about Perel’s notions of marriage. Who mates in […]
Sugar Babies Saving Marriages?
An alert chump sent me this Dr. Phil clip on “Sugar Babies.” For those of you who have more prosaic affair partners (and probably retain your retirement savings accounts), Sugar Babies are those um, scholarship recipients of Sugar Daddies — men who meet young girls online and financially support them. This one claims she doesn’t […]
It’s not an affair! It’s an act of “exuberant defiance.”
Esther Perel can bite me. I know that’s not the level of erudite discourse called for when debunking a pre-eminent Belgian psychotherapist. Perel is the best-selling author of “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.” I mean, who am I to quibble with “one of the world’s most original and insightful voices on personal and professional relationships“? Who dares to […]
