Category: Forgiveness

Hopium

UBT: ‘It Has Not Broken Me’

Most of us understand being high on hopium, lost in the Reconciliation Industrial Complex. But a unicorn who polygraphed a Jesus-cheater-sex-addict? That’s some Pablo Escobar-level hopium. …

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bitter bunny

When Your Kids Want You to ‘Get Over It’

Dear Chump Lady, Things are going very well post divorce. Everyone has moved on and both the ex and I are remarried to great people. …

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He Apologized. Now What?

Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 10 months (separated for almost two years) From my husband of 22 years. He cheated on me …

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forgiveness troll

Do I Have to Forgive Him?

Dear Chump Lady, I am four years out from D-Day. I found out my husband was sleeping with a 25-year-old co-worker while we were trying …

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Forgiveness troll

Fairy Dust Forgiveness

One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. I thought we should have a post on …

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forgiveness troll

UBT: “I Forgive You”

Dear Chump Lady, Thank you for your insightful and supportive blog. I am a chump. Married 6 years and separated for 7 months, I have …

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forgiveness troll

“I Need to Forgive the OW” WTF?

Dear Chump Lady, My divorce was final just 3 months ago. I went back to using my maiden name. I have been living with family …

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UBT: “We Are Teachers, Not Demigods”

Dear Chump Lady, I have a small but delicious morsel for the UBT to chew on. I also have a predicament, and I would greatly …

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Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL

Dear Chump Lady, I am 10 years out from leaving my cheating ex-husband. I found out about his affair on July 4, 2009, and have …

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stitched heart

Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?

Dear Chump Lady, I stayed in a marriage with a serial cheater/sex addict. I know I should have been out of there thirty seconds after …

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mask

Forgiving the ‘Sex Addict’

Whenever I think I’ve overstated the pernicious ubiquity of The Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC), something pops up on my news feed and gobsmacks me all …

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bitter bunny

Dear Chump Lady, I want him to stay with the OW

Dear Chump Lady, I’m new to reading your column (just found it).  I’ve been divorced 10-years after 14 years of being married. I found out …

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Dear Chump Lady, My ex has cancer

Hi Chump Lady, I’ve been a former Chump for 8 years; I’ve got the fair settlement, a great house I bought and restored pretty much …

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Pain Shopping, Anyone?

A chump wrote to ask me what I thought about “pain shopping.” I had no idea what it was. So I asked her, “What’s pain …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to stay ‘friends’?

This column goes out to JB from yesterday’s post. Who seemed to be suffering a bad case of Bargaining Stage of Let’s-Be-Friends grief. What’s in …

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not a unicorn

Dear Chump Lady, Is this apology total baloney?

Dear Chump Lady, It’s hard to know where to start, but I divorced a serial cheater. Not only did he cheat with multiple women over …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

I Don’t Write for You

Dear Chump Lady, I love the UBT letters. But, what if a cheater realized their affair was the biggest mistake ever, and they were truly …

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Fairy Dust Forgiveness

One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. I thought we should have a post on …

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UBT: The OW apologizes…. 2.5 years later

Dear Chump Lady, After reading Amazon Chump’s UBT, I was “triggered” to recall a similarly bizarre and unsolicited email I received from Mr. Sparkles Other …

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bitch cookie

Apology Fails

If you’ve been chumped, either a) you received no apology, or b) you got a really lame apology. The best lame apology you got was …

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