Category: Forgiveness
UBT: Tim’s Review
Today’s Chump Lady rant goes out to “Tim,” a therapist who left a thoughtful review of my book on Amazon. He gave it 4 stars (out …
Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
Chumps get caught up a lot on the notion of forgiveness. Taking the high road. Turning the other cheek. Being the bigger person. Let’s face …
UBT: Sad Sausage Poetry
Dear Chump Lady, I’m seeking feedback on a text my ex sent. We were married over two decades and shared what I thought was a …
UBT: ‘It Has Not Broken Me’
Most of us understand being high on hopium, lost in the Reconciliation Industrial Complex. But a unicorn who polygraphed a Jesus-cheater-sex-addict? That’s some Pablo Escobar-level hopium. …
When Your Kids Want You to ‘Get Over It’
Dear Chump Lady, Things are going very well post divorce. Everyone has moved on and both the ex and I are remarried to great people. …
He Apologized. Now What?
Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 10 months (separated for almost two years) From my husband of 22 years. He cheated on me …
Do I Have to Forgive Him?
Dear Chump Lady, I am four years out from D-Day. I found out my husband was sleeping with a 25-year-old co-worker while we were trying …
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. I thought we should have a post on …
UBT: “I Forgive You”
Dear Chump Lady, Thank you for your insightful and supportive blog. I am a chump. Married 6 years and separated for 7 months, I have …
“I Need to Forgive the OW” WTF?
Dear Chump Lady, My divorce was final just 3 months ago. I went back to using my maiden name. I have been living with family …
UBT: “We Are Teachers, Not Demigods”
Dear Chump Lady, I have a small but delicious morsel for the UBT to chew on. I also have a predicament, and I would greatly …
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL
Dear Chump Lady, I am 10 years out from leaving my cheating ex-husband. I found out about his affair on July 4, 2009, and have …
Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
Dear Chump Lady, I stayed in a marriage with a serial cheater/sex addict. I know I should have been out of there thirty seconds after …
Forgiving the ‘Sex Addict’
Whenever I think I’ve overstated the pernicious ubiquity of The Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC), something pops up on my news feed and gobsmacks me all …
Dear Chump Lady, I want him to stay with the OW
Dear Chump Lady, I’m new to reading your column (just found it). I’ve been divorced 10-years after 14 years of being married. I found out …
Dear Chump Lady, My ex has cancer
Hi Chump Lady, I’ve been a former Chump for 8 years; I’ve got the fair settlement, a great house I bought and restored pretty much …
Pain Shopping, Anyone?
A chump wrote to ask me what I thought about “pain shopping.” I had no idea what it was. So I asked her, “What’s pain …
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to stay ‘friends’?
This column goes out to JB from yesterday’s post. Who seemed to be suffering a bad case of Bargaining Stage of Let’s-Be-Friends grief. What’s in …
Dear Chump Lady, Is this apology total baloney?
Dear Chump Lady, It’s hard to know where to start, but I divorced a serial cheater. Not only did he cheat with multiple women over …
I Don’t Write for You
Dear Chump Lady, I love the UBT letters. But, what if a cheater realized their affair was the biggest mistake ever, and they were truly …
