Category: Forgiveness
I Don’t Write for You
Dear Chump Lady, I love the UBT letters. But, what if a cheater realized their affair was the biggest mistake ever, and they were truly …
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. I thought we should have a post on …
UBT: The OW apologizes…. 2.5 years later
Dear Chump Lady, After reading Amazon Chump’s UBT, I was “triggered” to recall a similarly bizarre and unsolicited email I received from Mr. Sparkles Other …
Apology Fails
If you’ve been chumped, either a) you received no apology, or b) you got a really lame apology. The best lame apology you got was …
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. I thought we should have a post on …
Chump Shaming as Competitive Sport
I once wrote an article over at Huffington Post on getting revenge on cheaters. (Spoiler alert: You don’t disembowel them, you move on to meh.) …
Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
Betrayed people get caught up a lot on the notion of forgiveness. Taking the high road. Turning the other cheek. Being the bigger person. Let’s …
UBT: “You’re incapable of forgiveness”
Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been divorced since February but now my ex is asking if we can “try again.” His last text tirade started with, …
Forgiveness Trolls
Once upon a time, I got my dander up when some troll commented on the Translating Other Woman-ese post. She was an artful troll though, the sort many …
Quit Waiting for an Apology
I think we should revisit the whole chump phenomenon of needing an apology from your cheater. It’s so galling. They broke this relationship, this family, …
Don’t Be Bitter!
There was an insipid article over at HuffPo Divorce recently, by Marina Sbrochi called “Signs You Make Your Divorce Bitter.” Flippant and jokey, it actually …
Dear Chump Lady, “I need to forgive the OW” — WTF?
Dear Chump Lady, My divorce was final just 3 months ago in October. I went back to using my maiden name. I have been living …
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. I thought we should have a post on …
Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
Dear Chump Lady, I stayed in a marriage with a serial cheater/sex addict. I know I should have been out of there thirty seconds after …
UBT: “You’re not capable of forgiveness.”
Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been divorced since February but now my ex is asking if we can “try again.” His last text tirade started with, …
Eat, Pray, Forgive? WTF?
An alert chump sent this recent Elizabeth Gilbert blog post on forgiveness. If you’re diabetic, you might want to skip this one. The sugar rush …
Dear Chump Lady, She wants to apologize for cheating on me
Dear Chump Lady, This past May I uncovered an affair my wife had been having for the past two years (possible longer) with her co-worker. …
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. After yesterday’s kerfluffle with the research …
Forgiveness Troll Says Take a Survey
I was recently asked by a graduate student of psychology to post a survey about infidelity. Here’s what she sent: Hello, I am wondering if …
Bitter Bunnies for Easter…
You asked and you have received. Bitter bunny is now yours. It comes in various commercial variations (coffee mug, whatever other gizmo CafePress sells). …
