Category: Gain a life
More Mightiness!
Hey, it is the first back-at-work Monday in the New Year and I believe it’s time for another Mightiness Check here at Chump Lady. I’m …
Roto-Rooter and the Dawn of a New Year
I’ve told the story here many times about how on my 40th birthday I shoveled cow manure. Ordered a truck load of the stuff for …
Chump Encouragement from the Other Side
Hi folks, just home from epic holiday travel. Airport delays, sullen teenagers, those horrible people in coach who recline their seat all the way into …
Don’t Let Them Steal Another Day
I don’t have any sassy snark for you guys today, sorry. Last night I learned my dearest friend Yoma lost her husband, Warren yesterday. When …
Life Post-Cheater — What Did You Change?
You know how something around your house can just bug the hell out of you? (I see you all raising your hands… I’m not talking …
Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
Dear Chump Lady Here is a silly question. I have been through years of hell. In short, like most people here, my husband of thirty …
Don’t Need It That Bad
I get a lot of mail and many of my questions boil down to — How will I ever manage? How can I be alone? Surely …
Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
Cartoon from http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/06/this-is-why-ill-never-be-adult.html I was reading on Facebook this morning and a friend of mine (a fellow former chump) recently lost her mother. She requested …
Time for More MIGHTINESS
Okay chumps, I need some uplift. This week it’s been abandoning daddies, abortion, and blogging. I think it’s time for another “Tell Me How You’re …
Real Love. The Antidote to Douchieness.
(Photo: Curt Chergosky) After two consecutive posts on Alain de Botton, I feel like we chumps need to collectively cleanse our palettes. Instead of effete …
Who Did You Become While Married to a Cheater?
In our post on Joseph’s Letter, a lot of you shared that you wrote similar self-abasing dreck. Nomar wrote: “What humiliating dreck! What unholy drivel! What …
Problem, Adult Solution, Cheater Solution
So yesterday Chris came up with this great shorthand about how cheaters react to adult problems in selfish ways. His example: PROBLEM: My wife and I argue …
How Do You Trust Again?
After our epic thread on Friday about how we all found out we were chumps, several folks asked for a post on trusting again. To …
All the Good Ones Are Gone
I’m sure by now you’ve realized you did not get the life you were expecting. You can react to that in two ways — you …
What Are You Taking Back?
One of the ugly repercussions of infidelity are triggers. Mercifully, triggers go away in time — really, I swear — as you approach “meh.” I …
Nice vs. Kind
There was an interesting side discussion the other day on Chump Lady about the difference between niceness and kindness. Many people noted that their cheaters …
How Did You Get Unstuck?
Lately, I’m beginning to wonder if I’m everyone’s divorce fairy godmother. At least in my real life here. (I mean, I ask for it on …
Dear Chump Lady, How do I ever trust again?
Dear Chump Lady, My tragicomedy of chumpdom is well-known here, so I won’t waste space rehashing it. I’m pretty far out at this point: my …
Dear Chump Lady, I made a fool out of myself
Dear Chump Lady, Thank you so much for your articles. They have been immensely useful and have given me deeper insights about relationships. I was …
