Category: Gain a life

Mother Jones

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

Today, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I’m rerunning this column about Mother Jones. Raise a glass to hard-fought child labor laws and the 8-hour …

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So, What Are You Taking Back?

One of the gifts that keeps on giving after you’ve been chumped are triggers. Now, I know the word “trigger” has become freighted lately as …

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lysol ex

Ever Run into Your Ex?

OptionNoMore suggested a column the other day — share the time you stood tall after having to face your ex or Schmoopie 5.0 at an …

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monkey love

How Do I Fix My Picker?

Dear Chump Lady, Do you have any advice on how to fix a broken picker? I’m nowhere near ready to date yet. Not even close. …

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What’s Your Post-Infidelity Super Power?

Ever notice that every superhero got his or her superpower after a calamity? Get bitten by a radioactive spider? Wham. You can climb skyscrapers. Head …

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Be the Support You Wish You Had

I begrudge no one their meh. It’s so hard won. But do me one favor as you move on to happier pastures — be the …

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The Walls in Your House Will Sing

My Aunt J’s birthday is next week and I thought it was time to rerun her story. She gave Chump Nation the powerful line: “The …

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cyclops lonely

Connecting with Other Chumps?

One of the very best things about running this blog is that people occasionally send me their chump meet-up photos. Even better, they tell me …

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Fear, You Don’t Own Me

We answered a letter from Trapped this week, afraid to leave her cheating husband, and a lot of the wonderful, supportive comments from CN were …

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Tales from the “Gain a Life” Side?

Dear Chump Lady, First of all I have to say thank you to everyone in CN for all the support and for sharing their experiences, …

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limbo

Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity

I remember once upon a time when my life was going to Hell, a friend wrote me a cheer up email and ended it with …

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You Don’t Need It THAT Bad

I get a lot of mail and many of my questions boil down to — How will I ever manage? How can I be alone? Surely …

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mindfuck

Dear Chump Lady, The Hallmark Channel Is Fucking with My Head

Dear Chump Lady, In my quest to do something normal after he goes to bed drunk and angry (because it’s my fault I found out …

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Time for Another Mightiness Check In

Well, I sure am feeling the CN mightiness after yesterday’s epic blog birthday. THANK YOU for the Patreon love. But I wanted to check in, …

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Dear Chump Lady, The cheater doesn’t know I’m pregnant

Dear Chump Lady, Please chump some sense into me. I separated from my soon-to-be-ex-husband almost 2 years ago… following so many D-days that I won’t …

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Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit

I get a lot of sad letters at Chump Lady. Letters like: “I know I should leave him. But I am in pain, I really …

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lysol ex

How Is Your Life Better Without a Cheater?

I was thinking the other day that I should start a testimonials page for Chump Nation. I get the sweetest letters, like this one from …

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A Valentine’s Day Reset

Dear Chump Lady and CN, Two years ago on Valentine’s Day (which also happens to be my birthday) I discovered my husband was carrying on …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the unfairness?

Dear Chump Lady, How do I get past this righteous thought of “it’s not fair!”? I found out my ex was cheating on me with …

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Don’t Need It THAT Bad

I get a lot of mail and many of my questions boil down to — How will I ever manage? How can I be alone? Surely …

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