Category: Gaslighting

gaslighting

4 Reasons Why Gaslighting Works

As mindfuckery goes, it doesn’t seem like gaslighting should work. It isn’t concealing the truth (lying) — it’s denying a reality you have actual evidence …

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Will Smith

Will, Jada…. Esther?

I’m sorry to interrupt your regularly scheduled Friday challenge to bring you this resurfaced 2019 video clip of Jada Pinkett-Smith mindeffery (that half of CN …

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Mindfuck blender

He Denies He Cheated… And Our Friends Believe Him

Dear Chump Lady, I am 33 years old and two months post-discovery of my ex-fiance’s affair, which was two months long with a sleazy girl …

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Ex Thinks They Must Have a ‘Relationship’ for Their Daughter

Hi Chump Lady, Stress chump here. So for anyone who doesn’t know my story – I’m in the Armed Forces and my wife of 6 …

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D-Day and The Silent Treatment

Dear Chump Lady, My cheater is a very recent discovery, courtesy of the other woman who so very graciously sent me in the mail, a …

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Gaslighting: What They Said, What It Actually Was

Today’s Friday Challenge is gaslighting. Okay, not the cheeriest of subjects, but consider the deep vein of mordant humor. “Who you gonna believe? Me, or …

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Is She Really Just a Close Friend?

Dear Chump Lady, My fiancee has a (married) BFF who is an ex-lover. They used to hook up whenever they were single. Early in our …

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Busted by Doorbell Cam

If you’re going to cheat on your wife, probably best to turn the doorbell cam off first. On this viral TikTok video, @kaylie271 found her …

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Her Husband Wishes She Were More Porn-like

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 20 years has been replaced by a terrible person. He has gaslighted me in the strictest sense — insisting …

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mindfuck

He Says ‘It’s Not What It Looks Like’

Dear Chump Lady, I feel crazy, that my mind can even be wavered, or try so hard to not believe what my eyes saw!! I …

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The Crying of Gabby Petito

Hi Chump Lady, I don’t have a specific question and the Gabby Petito murder may or may not have anything to do with infidelity but…… …

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Mindfuck blender

I Keep Getting Messages He’s Having an Affair

Dear Chump Lady, About 2 months ago I got an message on Facebook stating my husband of 28 years was cheating on me and to …

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It Took Balls to Cheat on Him?

Dear Chump Lady, Been married 15+ years, to the sweetest person ever. One reason I was attracted to her was because I knew there would …

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‘I Thought You Knew’

So this was submitted to Stupid Shit Cheaters Say this week: “I thought you knew about my romantic and sexual relationships all along and were …

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Jealousy and ‘Just Friends’

Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were having issues. It got incredibly bad. I found evidence of something going on. I got suspicious when …

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UBT: This Isn’t the Real Me

Ben submitted this glorious bit of bullshit from his not-terribly-remorseful wife. She’d like to set the record straight that the woman who cheated on him …

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Reconciliation with the Timid Forest Creature

After you’ve been cheated on, you’d think it’s a pretty simple decision tree — reconcile or divorce. Choose divorce, it doesn’t matter if your cheater …

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UBT: I Can’t Remember

Probably no other statement gets sent to the Universal Bullshit Translator more than “I can’t remember.” What is it about cheating that fogs the mind? …

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The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender

There must be a bazillion “How To Tell If He/She’s Cheating” articles on the interwebs. You know, the usual — new cologne, sudden penchant for …

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Does Mental Illness Make Him Less of a Cheater?

Hi Chump Lady, Your blog and book have sustained me since I learned last Monday (merry fucking Christmas) that my husband had an ‘emotional’ affair …

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