Category: Gaslighting

gaslighting

The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender

There must be a bazillion “How To Tell If He/She’s Cheating” articles on the interwebs. You know, the usual — new cologne, sudden penchant for …

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Does Mental Illness Make Him Less of a Cheater?

Hi Chump Lady, Your blog and book have sustained me since I learned last Monday (merry fucking Christmas) that my husband had an ‘emotional’ affair …

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Narcissist Goldfish

The Apology That Wasn’t

The UBT lives on a steady diet of cookies and non-apology apologies. Why just this week it regurgitated “I feel pain” and “I have grown …

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‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’

There is no mindfuck like the I Fail to Understand Your Hostility mindfuck. As mindfucks go, it’s Jedi-level mindfuckery. Oh sure your lesser manipulator can …

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jennifers

When It’s More Affairs Than You First Knew

Hi Chump Lady, I have been following for almost a year now and this has seriously helped me grow some balls to leave my cheating …

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He’s Sketchy, But Is He Cheating?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been married to a man for 20 years. From day one, he has done some questionable things. Maintained a dating profile …

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Is This Cheating?

I get a lot of letters that go something like this: Shady thing. Shady thing. Transgressive OH NO THEY DIDN’T thing. Shady thing. I’m mortified …

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mindfuck

The ‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’ Mindfuck

There is no mindfuck like the I Fail to Understand Your Hostility mindfuck. As mindfucks go, it’s Jedi-level mindfuckery. Oh sure your lesser manipulator can …

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mindfuck

‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’

He’s a serial cheater and he won’t leave the home. Now he’s trying to pretend like nothing happened.

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timid forest creature

UBT: ‘It’s Not Who I Am’

Dear Chump Lady, Can you please put this through the Universal Bullshit Translator? I do know what the affair did to you, and I’m sincerely …

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gaslighting

Why Gaslighting Works

As mindfuckery goes, it doesn’t seem like gaslighting should work. It isn’t concealing the truth (lying) — it’s denying a reality you have actual evidence …

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More Stupid Shit Cheaters Say

I know I have a page for this, but why hasn’t Stupid Shit Cheaters Say been a Friday Challenge? The time has come. When I …

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mindfuck

How to Deflect Gaslighting

Today’s How-To-Keep-Your-Sanity tips come from CN’s own Amiisfree, who sent in scripts she uses to deflect mindfuckery. If you’re anything like the average chump, (decent, …

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Serial cheater

Dear Chump Lady, My husband is a marriage counselor with a double life

Dear Chump Lady, My STBX is a marriage counselor, so when I met him (a couple of years after leaving a cheating and abusive husband) …

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gaslighting

Gaslighting — Who’s The Crazy One Here?

Dear Chump Lady, Can we talk about the horrible act and effects of gaslighting by cheaters and how they try to make you think you’re …

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jennifers

Dear Chump Lady, Am I just a chump stereotype?

Dear Chump Lady, When I found your book I had been one of the suckers that was searching the RIC sites for answers. I had …

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troll

UBT: ProJared’s Divorce Statement

The Universal Bullshit Translator was awakened from its slumber to several insistent tweets that it tackle some sort of ProJared bullshit. The UBT had no idea …

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shrink

Rethinking the Psychologists Rethinking Monogamy

An alert chump sent me this tidbit in his Apple News feed: “Psychologists Agree: It May Be Time to Rethink Your Monogamous Relationship Research makes …

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Beware the Timid Forest Creatures

After you’ve been cheated on, you’d think it’s a pretty simple decision tree — reconcile or divorce. Choose divorce, it doesn’t matter if your cheater …

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Rejection man

Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get my ex’s voice out of my head

Hi Chump Lady, I am heading toward the end of the divorce process for leaving my cheater. Overall things are progressing rather well for me. …

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