Category: Gaslighting
Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
Dear Chump Lady, Four years ago I found out my husband was interacting with women online from a sex website. He was active on the …
Dear Chump Lady, I need confirmation that he cheated
Dear Chump Lady, A few years ago I discovered that my husband was actively writing on a reddit-style message board. Based on what he wrote …
The Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels
I have a cousin who is going through a miserable divorce with a cheater. Long marriage, double life, financial abuse. You guys know the drill. I’ve …
Dear Chump Lady, He won’t admit to cheating
Dear Chump Lady, I am almost a year out from DD. My ex and I are still going through divorce and I thought I was …
Dear Chump Lady, When does this get easier?
Dear Chump Lady, A month ago was My D-Day where I found out my wife of 5 years (partner for 10) and mother of my two beautiful …
UBT: There Is No Right or Wrong in the World
Dear Chump Lady, I am well on my way to meh after divorcing and dealing with texbook cheater speak for the last 5 years. The …
The “I Fail to Understand Your Hostility” Mindfuck
There is no mindfuck like the I Fail to Understand Your Hostility mindfuck. As mindfucks go, it’s Jedi-level mindfuckery. Oh sure your lesser manipulator can …
Dear Chump Lady, Husband said OW’s name during sex
Dear Chump Lady, My husband had a six-year affair with Jackie. I found out six months ago and we have been diligently working to reconcile. He …
UBT: “Don’t Define Me”
Dear Chump Lady, I ran off a list to my cheating fiancé about why I didn’t think he respected women and I included him cheating …
Dear Chump Lady, I just got HPV, but I’ve been monogamous for 30 years
Hi Chump Lady, I have good reasons to believe that I am a big ol’ Chump. I was recently diagnosed with HPV after over 30 years …
Yeah, That’s Not An Apology
Given the news cycle this week, I thought it would be appropriate to have a little primer on Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse. GINR is full …
If You Think I’m THAT Sort of Person…
Did anyone see the interesting story in the New York Times the other day about the fake Buddhist monks in Times Square? Apparently, there are …
Surely You Must’ve Known
Are your powers of premonition pretty lousy? Me too. I have no idea who is going to win the election or what the stock market …
Dear Chump Lady, Is the cheating my fault?
Dear Chump Lady, To this day, I have no proof that my soon-to-be-ex cheated on me physically. I do know for sure that’s he’s had many …
The Cheater Work Ethic
“Gotta work late” is the oldest cheater excuse in the book. The lamest. The most worn. And a line nearly every chump falls for. Because, …
Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater
Decided to rerun this one today. You Bitter People can obsess over that “meaningless fling” that doesn’t define your cheater. Feel free to comment! So …
Dear Chump Lady, My ex denies that he cheated. Others believe it.
Dear Chump Lady, I am 33 years old and two months post-discovery of my ex-fiance’s affair, which was two months long with a sleazy girl …
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think stress made him cheat?
Dear Chump Lady, Am hoping you will be able to help me. I will try and be brief with my background information. My husband and …
Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
Dear Chump Lady, Four years ago I found out my husband was interacting with women online from a sex website. He was active on the …
Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”
Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your site for some time and have found it extremely helpful. I love how you don’t “beat around the …
