Category: Gaslighting

UBT: “Don’t Define Me”

Dear Chump Lady, I ran off a list to my cheating fiancé about why I didn’t think he respected women and I included him cheating …

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Dear Chump Lady, I just got HPV, but I’ve been monogamous for 30 years

Hi Chump Lady, I have good reasons to believe that I am a big ol’ Chump. I was recently diagnosed with HPV after over 30 years …

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Yeah, That’s Not An Apology

Given the news cycle this week, I thought it would be appropriate to have a little primer on Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse. GINR is full …

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If You Think I’m THAT Sort of Person…

Did anyone see the interesting story in the New York Times the other day about the fake Buddhist monks in Times Square? Apparently, there are …

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Surely You Must’ve Known

Are your powers of premonition pretty lousy? Me too. I have no idea who is going to win the election or what the stock market …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is the cheating my fault?

Dear Chump Lady, To this day, I have no proof that my soon-to-be-ex cheated on me physically. I do know for sure that’s he’s had many …

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The Cheater Work Ethic

“Gotta work late” is the oldest cheater excuse in the book. The lamest. The most worn. And a line nearly every chump falls for. Because, …

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Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater

Decided to rerun this one today. You Bitter People can obsess over that “meaningless fling” that doesn’t define your cheater. Feel free to comment! So …

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Dear Chump Lady, My ex denies that he cheated. Others believe it.

Dear Chump Lady, I am 33 years old and two months post-discovery of my ex-fiance’s affair, which was two months long with a sleazy girl …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do you think stress made him cheat?

Dear Chump Lady, Am hoping you will be able to help me. I will try and be brief with my background information. My husband and …

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not a unicorn

Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?

Dear Chump Lady, Four years ago I found out my husband was interacting with women online from a sex website. He was active on the …

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Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your site for some time and have found it extremely helpful. I love how you don’t “beat around the …

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Dear Chump Lady, I suspect an affair

Hi Chump Lady, I stumbled across your site a while ago. I wonder what your thoughts are on a situation I find myself in. While …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m confused, well sorta

Dear Chump Lady, I have been reading your blog since my husband left me in June 2013. I would like your opinion. I should start …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is he a decent man with a series of unfortunate events?

Dear Chump Lady, I meet this knight on a white horse 12 years ago when coming out of a violent relationship, he was charismatic, good …

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Oh hey! I know that mindfuck!

I’m sorry… I’m still obsessed with Weiner gate. Yesterday the NY Post reported: Pressed for specifics, the prickly pol said, “I sought the help of …

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Surely You Must Have Known

Are your powers of premonition pretty lousy? Me too. I have no idea who is going to win the election or what the stock market …

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Gaslighting — The Fine Art of Making You Believe You’re Crazy

The late comedian Richard Pryor had a joke that went… His wife walks in on him having sex with another woman. Pryor tells his freaked …

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