Category: Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse
The Unlikelihood of True Remorse
There’s an article over at HuffPo on how a cheater should tell their spouse they’ve been having an affair. There’s some discussion on tell versus …
Sorry Is as Sorry Does
One thing that surprises me about recently betrayed people (and frankly, surprised me about myself once) is how quick they are to accept a verbal …
Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
Dear Chump Lady: I potentially have that mythical unicorn in my life. It shares its body with the original transformer that sadly still becomes my …
Quit Waiting for an Apology
I think we should revisit the whole chump phenomenon of needing an apology from your cheater. It’s so galling. They broke this relationship, this family, …
Dear Chump Lady, He apologized. Now what?
Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 10 months (separated for almost two years) From my husband of 22 years. He cheated on me …
Dear Chump Lady, He says he thought he’d never get caught
Dear Chump Lady, When asked my husband why he kept cheating, his reply was — he never thought he’d get caught. What would have been a better response? …
Yeah, That’s Not An Apology
Given the news cycle this week, I thought it would be appropriate to have a little primer on Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse. GINR is full …
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he suck at remorse?
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he suck at showing remorse? I know what you’re going to say… “HE DOESN’T HAVE ANY,” and maybe that’s true, …
Dear Chump Lady, Is Affair Fog real?
Dear Chump Lady, My husband had drunk sex with a woman who works for him when our little boy was 9 months old and we …
UBT: “Please Don’t Give Up On Me!”
Dear Chump Lady, Long-time reader, first-time UBT submitter. I’m a gay man and was with my ex-boyfriend for about 7 years. I need some UBT …
UBT: “A letter to my husband from his cheating wife”
Sorry seems to be the hardest word if you’re a cheater. Oh sure, they can say it, but for some reason they just can’t seem …
Dear Chump Lady, He’s come out of the “fog” and wants us back
Dear Chump Lady, I’m in need of a situational bullshit translator. My story is long and ridiculous so I will do my best to give …
The Compassion Trap
“What we want most is only to be held…and told…that everything (everything is a funny thing, is baby milk and Papa’s eyes, is roaring logs …
Dear Chump Lady, He apologized to the OW for not leaving me
Dear Chump Lady, Please help, I feel so lost, I don’t know what to do. Earlier today I found my husband’s email open, it was …
Dear Chump Lady, She hated my poem
Dear Chump Lady, I am a male chump. My marriage went to shit after my wife went through a midlife crisis empty nest menopausal revisit …
Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word
An alert chump recently sent me this dollop of crazy: “My Husband Learned the Hard Way Why Women Cheat” by Marina Pearson on HuffPo. Ostensibly, it’s …
Dear Chump Lady, Is there a statute of limitations on this chump thing?
Dear Chump Lady, Love your website and your no bullshit approach to this nightmare. I am currently an attempted unicorn, (although sometimes I feel like an ass …
When Cheaters Do Therapy… Some Precautions
Chumps, hopeful creatures that we are, are often so encouraged when their cheaters do therapy. It doesn’t matter if we had to beg, plead, consult their …
Dear Chump Lady, My sister blames me for my husband’s affair
Dear Chump Lady, I just had a conversation with my sister about my cheating husband. I can’t seem to get it through her head that …
Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of spontaneous “confessions”?
Dear Chump Lady Reading a recent Dear Chump Lady brought an old question to mind. In your article on 11/8, Thomas’s wife suddenly fessed up …
