Category: Hopium

unicorn

Is She Cheating Because She’s Bipolar?

Dear Chump Lady, My wife started hooking up with other men in 2018. After a brief trip back to her home in Asia she came …

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not a unicorn

Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?

Hi Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex started acting distant mid-March (2022) and moved to a spare bedroom. Two weeks later I discovered his affair: He was …

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The Affair Partner Is Daughter’s Coach

Dear Chump Lady, My very handsome husband of 15 years (we have 3 kids ages 14, 13 and 11 and one on the way due …

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chasing unicorn

Hopium and the ‘Power of Maybe’

You ever wonder why hopium is addictive? Apparently, there is some interesting brain science on this. You’d think, when you get a kibble (he went …

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unicorn problem

This Is Your Brain on Hopium

Hopium is a powerful drug. You can hand a chump the most desperate set of circumstances, and goddamn it, that chump will work with it. …

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Hopium

Maybe He’ll See What He’s Missing

Dear Chump Lady, I am a little over three months out from D-Day now and I feel I have given myself a major setback. I …

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bitch cookie

Bitch Cookie: ‘He Doesn’t Blame Me’

Hi Chump Lady, Chump me is getting a divorce, after catching my husband cheating on me for the third time. It was a “three strikes, …

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not a unicorn

Is He a Unicorn or a Narcissist?

He left her for the OW. Now he’s back on weekends. Planting a garden. Buying her gifts. Having sex. Is this… reconciliation? Chump Lady wields the clue bat.

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Hopium

Seconding Guessing Yourself About Leaving

Dear Chump Lady, My husband has cheated on me with two different women over the course of the last year and a half. I found …

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chasing unicorn

It Was a ‘One-Off’ — Let It Go?

Dear Chump Lady, Been married 21 years, and late last year my wife was on a vacation with my adult daughter, where she had a …

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Hopium

UBT: The Apology That Never Came

Hello Chump Lady! I’ve got a fine bit of BS here and I’d like to see what you think. Brief background: My ex-wife had an …

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cheater overlap

When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend

Dear Chump Lady, Last week, I left my boyfriend of 11 months. I recently discovered that before meeting with me, he had been in a …

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Hopium

Your Long, Strange Hopium Trips

Chumpy hearts die hard. Armed with the smallest evidence that a freak still cares, a chump will assign great significance to scraps. HE CALLED (to …

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‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’

Dearest Chump Lady, Why does the Reconciliation Industrial Complex annoy me so much? I don’t want to name any names, but while looking for support …

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limbo

5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater

Are you on the fence about leaving a cheater? Is this not their first rodeo? Here are some common traps that keep you stuck with …

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Hopium

Chump Won’t Stop Doing Her Ex Favors

Hello, Chump Lady. I am hoping that you and Chump Nation can help me help a chump. My cousin, who is like a sister to …

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Hopium

Discovered CN by Googling ‘I Hate Esther Perel’

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve only very recently stumbled on your blog (actually, last night at 2 AM, and I’ve read about a hundred posts so …

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Hopium

A Chump Off the Old Block

Dear Chump Lady, My beautiful, intelligent daughter has now joined the ranks of lovable trusting Chumpdom. She’s a Chump Off the Old Block. I left …

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maintain your dignity

When Does the Pain Stop?

Dear Chump Lady, Tonight is a hard night for some reason. It has been 11 months since D-Day. And since then stories of other affairs …

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‘I Let Him Come Over with Pizza’

Hi Chump Lady, Your site is so important and has helped me find what I thought was my meh. D-Day was 4 years ago. Divorce …

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