Category: Hopium

Should I Sleep With My Ex?

Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of sex with the STBX? I’ve lost weight and am looking pretty good. I want him to see …

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leave a cheater

Trying to Divorce When the Cheater Won’t Move Out

Dear Chump Lady, I recently discovered yet another affair, after suspecting it for a year, I even knew who I thought the affair was. I …

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cake

He Left for OW, But Stays in Touch Daily

Dear Chump Lady, My gaslighting began on Halloween 2020. The now-ex and I finished walking the dogs and were sitting out on the patio drink …

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not a unicorn

It’s Different. He’s Been to Therapy.

Dear Chump Lady, Let me tell you my story because I find it quite impressive. And also because there are some things about it I …

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cheat on me

How Do I Get My Cheating Wife to Reconcile with Me?

Dear Chump Lady, You mention the only way to have your spouse back is with them doing a full reconciliation. What’s that look like? Do …

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Hopium

She Won’t Leave Her Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I don’t know what to do, his sister (my SIL) is a chump of epic proportions. She is 18 …

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What If He Changes for the OW?

Dear Chump Lady, I called off my wedding three months before the big day, after discovering that my fiance was sleeping around with multiple women, including his …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat

Did your partner cheat? Nothing says accountability like a $12K spa retreat. Enjoy hopium snorting at your own private Shangri-La. Make sand castles while discussing your trust …

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unicorn

Is She Cheating Because She’s Bipolar?

Dear Chump Lady, My wife started hooking up with other men in 2018. After a brief trip back to her home in Asia she came …

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not a unicorn

Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?

Hi Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex started acting distant mid-March (2022) and moved to a spare bedroom. Two weeks later I discovered his affair: He was …

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The Affair Partner Is Daughter’s Coach

Dear Chump Lady, My very handsome husband of 15 years (we have 3 kids ages 14, 13 and 11 and one on the way due …

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chasing unicorn

Hopium and the ‘Power of Maybe’

You ever wonder why hopium is addictive? Apparently, there is some interesting brain science on this. You’d think, when you get a kibble (he went …

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unicorn problem

This Is Your Brain on Hopium

Hopium is a powerful drug. You can hand a chump the most desperate set of circumstances, and goddamn it, that chump will work with it. …

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Hopium

Maybe He’ll See What He’s Missing

Dear Chump Lady, I am a little over three months out from D-Day now and I feel I have given myself a major setback. I …

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bitch cookie

Bitch Cookie: ‘He Doesn’t Blame Me’

Hi Chump Lady, Chump me is getting a divorce, after catching my husband cheating on me for the third time. It was a “three strikes, …

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not a unicorn

Is He a Unicorn or a Narcissist?

He left her for the OW. Now he’s back on weekends. Planting a garden. Buying her gifts. Having sex. Is this… reconciliation? Chump Lady wields the clue bat.

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Hopium

Seconding Guessing Yourself About Leaving

Dear Chump Lady, My husband has cheated on me with two different women over the course of the last year and a half. I found …

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chasing unicorn

It Was a ‘One-Off’ — Let It Go?

Dear Chump Lady, Been married 21 years, and late last year my wife was on a vacation with my adult daughter, where she had a …

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Hopium

UBT: The Apology That Never Came

Hello Chump Lady! I’ve got a fine bit of BS here and I’d like to see what you think. Brief background: My ex-wife had an …

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cheater overlap

When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend

Dear Chump Lady, Last week, I left my boyfriend of 11 months. I recently discovered that before meeting with me, he had been in a …

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