Hi Chump Lady, Your site is so important and has helped me find what I thought was my meh. D-Day was 4 years ago. Divorce finalized a year ago. I have two 13 year olds. My relationship with my X has been civil for the sake of the kids. No extra contact. Brief texts. After […]
My Sister Is the Marriage Police
Dear Chump Lady, My sister is a chump, she actually sent me to your site years ago when she still seemed to have some sense. I still read your articles (as I love your humour and spot-on advice) — but she doesn’t read this blog anymore as she is a firm unicorn believer. So, it’s […]
‘Other Chumps Infuriate Me’
Dear Chump Lady, I was cheated on years ago. It was a horrible, messy, painful two years. I wish I’d had your book back then to save me the heartbreak. I’m mostly over it, except for one thing. Every time I hear a chump making the same excuses I used to make, I get absolutely […]
When You Work With Your Ex
Dear Chump Lady I’m in the unfortunate position of having to continue to work in a business with my ex. I know this isn’t ideal, but we work on opposing days and most communication is via email and purely business related. I’m hoping that we can sell the business and finally go our separate ways […]
I Still Want Her Back
Dear Chump Lady, I am 44, she is 10 years younger. We’ve been together for over 11 years and are married less than 3. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage. She’s been part of their lives for many years, my daughter was just 2 when she entered her life and was like a […]
Is This Meh or Did I Just Give Up?
Dear Chump Lady, Here’s my problem (and I’m sure this is due to hopium): Three years ago I caught my cheating husband in an emotional affair with a friend of mine. Went to counseling. He used it as a shield to continue and escalate the affair to a 2.5 year physical affair. All the time, I feel […]
Should I Give Him a Fourth Chance?
Dear Chump Lady, I stumbled upon your blog after my husband cheated on me for the third time, and then left me shortly after our second child got home from the NICU. So firstly, thank you. Reading all of your articles got me through the first couple of dark months. I’m writing you because my […]
‘I’m Trying to Show Her the Guy She Fell in Love With’
Hi Chump Lady, Great website! I just discovered last Sunday that my wife of 13 years has been cheating on me with “some one she has very strong feelings for” for the past two months. We have 3 young beautiful children and this guy is married with two kids. My wife wouldn’t tell me his […]
This Is Your Brain on Hopium
Hopium is a powerful drug. You can hand a chump the most desperate set of circumstances, and goddamn it, that chump will work with it. Let’s just give it a year! I owe it to us to try! Sure, I can ionize my needs into tiny, undetectable particles! You’ll never get a whiff of my anger, […]
‘None of My Choices Are Acceptable’
Dear Chump Lady, Please help me with advice — I’m stuck. I’ve been reading your blog for a year and it has kept me alive in my darkest moments. Thank you. A year ago I threw my ex cheater out of our home. He wanted to come back, hence I’ve sent him to individual counseling, […]
