Category: Hopium
‘I’m Considering Just Giving Up’
Dear Chump Lady, I’m struggling. We have been married 5 years. He’s been cheating for 4. First it was with his boss and then with …
Don’t Tell Me to Leave Him
Hello Chump Lady, I just started reading your blog. I found it on Reddit after looking up “can a cheater change”. I’m not really sure …
How Can I Help Son Reconcile with His Cheater Dad?
Hey Chump Lady, I’m happily divorcing my cheater. It took me awhile to get to this place, but am now finally working my way to …
I Regret Unfriending My Cheating Ex
Dear Chump Lady, I just impulsively un-friended my soon to be ex-husband of 15 years on Facebook. He cheated on me with our daughter’s club …
Should I Sleep With My Ex?
Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of sex with the STBX? I’ve lost weight and am looking pretty good. I want him to see …
Trying to Divorce When the Cheater Won’t Move Out
Dear Chump Lady, I recently discovered yet another affair, after suspecting it for a year, I even knew who I thought the affair was. I …
He Left for OW, But Stays in Touch Daily
Dear Chump Lady, My gaslighting began on Halloween 2020. The now-ex and I finished walking the dogs and were sitting out on the patio drink …
It’s Different. He’s Been to Therapy.
Dear Chump Lady, Let me tell you my story because I find it quite impressive. And also because there are some things about it I …
How Do I Get My Cheating Wife to Reconcile with Me?
Dear Chump Lady, You mention the only way to have your spouse back is with them doing a full reconciliation. What’s that look like? Do …
She Won’t Leave Her Cheater
Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I don’t know what to do, his sister (my SIL) is a chump of epic proportions. She is 18 …
What If He Changes for the OW?
Dear Chump Lady, I called off my wedding three months before the big day, after discovering that my fiance was sleeping around with multiple women, including his …
Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat
Did your partner cheat? Nothing says accountability like a $12K spa retreat. Enjoy hopium snorting at your own private Shangri-La. Make sand castles while discussing your trust …
Is She Cheating Because She’s Bipolar?
Dear Chump Lady, My wife started hooking up with other men in 2018. After a brief trip back to her home in Asia she came …
Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?
Hi Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex started acting distant mid-March (2022) and moved to a spare bedroom. Two weeks later I discovered his affair: He was …
The Affair Partner Is Daughter’s Coach
Dear Chump Lady, My very handsome husband of 15 years (we have 3 kids ages 14, 13 and 11 and one on the way due …
Hopium and the ‘Power of Maybe’
You ever wonder why hopium is addictive? Apparently, there is some interesting brain science on this. You’d think, when you get a kibble (he went …
This Is Your Brain on Hopium
Hopium is a powerful drug. You can hand a chump the most desperate set of circumstances, and goddamn it, that chump will work with it. …
Maybe He’ll See What He’s Missing
Dear Chump Lady, I am a little over three months out from D-Day now and I feel I have given myself a major setback. I …
Bitch Cookie: ‘He Doesn’t Blame Me’
Hi Chump Lady, Chump me is getting a divorce, after catching my husband cheating on me for the third time. It was a “three strikes, …
Is He a Unicorn or a Narcissist?
He left her for the OW. Now he’s back on weekends. Planting a garden. Buying her gifts. Having sex. Is this… reconciliation? Chump Lady wields the clue bat.
