Dear Chump Lady, I stumbled upon your blog after my husband cheated on me for the third time, and then left me shortly after our second child got home from the NICU. So firstly, thank you. Reading all of your articles got me through the first couple of dark months. I’m writing you because my […]
‘I’m Trying to Show Her the Guy She Fell in Love With’
Hi Chump Lady, Great website! I just discovered last Sunday that my wife of 13 years has been cheating on me with “some one she has very strong feelings for” for the past two months. We have 3 young beautiful children and this guy is married with two kids. My wife wouldn’t tell me his […]
This Is Your Brain on Hopium
Hopium is a powerful drug. You can hand a chump the most desperate set of circumstances, and goddamn it, that chump will work with it. Let’s just give it a year! I owe it to us to try! Sure, I can ionize my needs into tiny, undetectable particles! You’ll never get a whiff of my anger, […]
‘None of My Choices Are Acceptable’
Dear Chump Lady, Please help me with advice — I’m stuck. I’ve been reading your blog for a year and it has kept me alive in my darkest moments. Thank you. A year ago I threw my ex cheater out of our home. He wanted to come back, hence I’ve sent him to individual counseling, […]
Hope versus Hopium
I wrote once that chumps need to “bludgeon hope with a fencepost and operate with total lucidity.” Which doesn’t sound exactly hope friendly. But I wanted to set the record straight today that I’m not against hope. It’s all about where you direct it. Are you going to bet on yourself or are you going […]
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
Dear Chump Lady, First I want to say I am so glad I found your site, it is beginning to counteract the damage all the “save your marriage” sites have caused me. Thanks for exposing me to harsh realities. I wish I would have found this site in the beginning. I am still in the […]
