Category: Limbo

‘I Have a Hate in My Heart Where Love Used to Be’

Dear Chump Lady, My husband had an affair during our 19th year of marriage with a person in his graduate class. She sent me a …

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Marine Chump: This Is Worse Than Being in Iraq

Dear Chump Lady, Here’s my story and I’ll try to keep it short. I married my high school sweetheart and we’ve been married for almost 20 …

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‘I Turned the Tables’

Dear Chump Lady, Married 31 years, chumped the last 2 (that I know of), 2 kids early 20s. I did it all, untangling the skein …

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How Do I Find the Courage to Leave?

Dear Chump Lady, I married my husband in June of 2015 after being together for 6 years. He is the only man I have ever …

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Is Being Alone Worse Than Being with a Cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, Is being alone worse than being with a cheater, if by alone you mean something like “alone for at least the next …

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What Got You Unstuck?

For today’s Friday challenge, I’m wondering about the long-suffering chumps out there and your hopium habits — what got you unstuck? I have some sympathy …

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‘I Work with the Other Woman’

Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with the following situation? I work at the same organisation as my husband though in a different team. …

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‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’

He’s a serial cheater and he won’t leave the home. Now he’s trying to pretend like nothing happened.

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When You Want to Leave, But Just Had a Baby

Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for almost 3 years and we have a one-year old. I discovered he was cheating with random strangers …

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‘Should I Divorce Him?’

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 15 years had been having an affair for over three years. Should I divorce him? I feel like our marriage …

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Dear Chump Lady, I apologized to him for cheating on me

Dear Chump Lady, Like all other Chumps, I never thought I would be here. I met the love of my life when I was 18 …

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Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says don’t tell anyone he cheated

Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …

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Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date

Dear Chump Lady, Am I being unreasonable for having a problem with my husband’s ongoing relationship with a woman he tried unsuccessfully to seduce? One …

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Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?

Dear Chump Lady, Tonight is a hard night for some reason. It has been 11 months since D-Day. And since then stories of other affairs …

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Dear Chump Lady, I want closure

Dear Chump Lady, Leaving my cheater has been a real struggle for me. I started going to a trauma therapist to get some help with …

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Dear Chump Lady, My husband prefers porn to me

Dear Chump Lady, I am very new to this site and honestly I’m just trying to wrap my head around if what is happening in …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’d divorce her, but she wants that

Dear Chump Lady: I’ve read your advice and I want to divorce her. But that’s what she wants and she is manipulating me into being …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is all this pain worth it?

Dear Chump Lady D-Day for me was Aug 12, 3 weeks after our 20th anniversary. He admitted, after I basically squeezed it out of him, …

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Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker

Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were good friends for 5 years, dated for almost another 5 and have been married for 8 years, …

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Dear Chump Lady, We’re divorcing… and still living in the same house

Dear Chump Lady, My D-day was August 27th, 2017. He just came up to me out-of-nowhere once the kids were in bed and said that …

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