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Dear Chump Lady, We’re divorcing… and still living in the same house

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Dear Chump Lady, My D-day was August 27th, 2017. He just came up to me out-of-nowhere once the kids were in bed and said that he wanted a divorce. Exactly one week prior we were at my family reunion making plans to visit family out West next year, and exactly 2 weeks prior we were […]

Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the OW

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Dear Chump Lady, I know you’ve heard this saga for years. I just read a similar letter from a woman who was angry and jealous at the happiness of her ex and the other woman and the response from you. My situation differs in that my cheating husband did come home, he has changed his […]

Dear Chump Lady, I want out, but I can’t afford it

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Dear Chump Lady, I have been working at this marriage for 34 years to someone with a supposed sexual addiction. This included exhibitionism, one-night stands, hookers, phone sex, and that’s only what I know. What I know trickled out over the years and he had great, believable explanations. And great skill to minimize and to […]

“Does divorcing her make me the Bad Guy?”

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump guy here. Trying to make sense of how drastically my life and marriage has changed over the last several years. Its been a year and a half since I finally had enough evidence and confidence to confront my cheating wife. She had been having an affair for over 3 […]

Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?

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Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says this is all that ever happened. 1). Went to the strippers about 15 times since the year we had our kids). 2). Had 4 lap dances where strippers put breasts […]

Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?

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Dear Chump Lady: I potentially have that mythical unicorn in my life. It shares its body with the original transformer that sadly still becomes my spouse on occasion. In the morning light with dew on the grass, the unicorn seems legit. Doing and saying the right things. Making good changes and taking responsibility for his […]

Dear Chump Lady, He wants me back

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Hi Chump Lady, Thanks in large part to a daily diet of your advice, things have gotten pretty good for me recently. I’m almost at my 2 year No Contact anniversary, during which time I recovered my sanity, made new friends and reconnected with old, started doing well at my job, bought a house, and […]

“What do I tell my crying children?”

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Dear Chump Lady I have been reading your site for weeks now after discovering (after several years of suspicion) that I am an enormous chump and finally plucked up the courage to ask for help. I don’t know what to say to my two children when they are crying because they feel that their family […]

Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity

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I remember once upon a time when my life was going to Hell, a friend wrote me a cheer up email and ended it with a quote from Bob Dylan — “I embrace the chaos.” I laughed. When you’re in a free fall, you’re going to go splat on the pavement whether you “embrace” it […]