Category: Narcissism

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UBT: I’m a broken empty person searching for meaning and happiness before I die

Dear Chump Lady, It’s nearly one year to the day since ex walked out on me and our two kids into the arms of the …

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Want to spot a narcissist? Just ask one.

So this psychological study popped up in my feed recently. Researchers at Ohio State tried to simplify the Narcissist Personality Inventory test. You know that …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do they turn bad or were they always bad?

Dear Chump Lady, It’s been almost 10 months since D-Day. Things are slowly but surely getting better for me after finding out that my tramp …

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Cheaters Suffer from “Low Self-Esteem”?

If you spend any time on reconciliation boards, you’ll read a lot of creative excuses being thrown around about the deep shame and inadequacy that …

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Stupid Shit Schmoopies Say

If you’ve ever had the pleasure of discovering your partner’s secret correspondence to a fuckbuddy, you know how ridiculous kibble-speak can be. Devastating? Sure. But …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid he’ll turn the kids against me

Dear Chump Lady, My covert good guy narc is killing me with his fake “I’m an awesome person and an awesome dad” act. Mine never …

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UBT: “This Isn’t the Real Me”

Ben recently submitted this glorious bit of bullshit from his not-terribly-remorseful wife. She’d like to set the record straight that the woman who cheated on …

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How Do I Divorce a Narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, Although he fits the readings, although the therapists tell you he is a narcissist, you don’t quite believe it. It isn’t quite …

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The Power of Ridicule

Yesterday’s post we discussed the “I Fail to Understand Your Hostility” mindfuck. I suggested that when faced with gaslighting the best thing to do is …

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Yeah, That’s Not An Apology

Given the news cycle this week, I thought it would be appropriate to have a little primer on Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse. GINR is full …

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Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?

Dear Chump Lady, I know that my ex probably has NPD, but why didn’t I see any of this in over 27 years (believe me …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is he just your average narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now and am learning tons about all the different kinds of fuckwits out …

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Dear Chump Lady, I need to be needed

Dear Chump Lady, I’m a little over three months out from my STBXW meeting a new guy, and beginning a divorce a little over a …

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UBT: “The Ethicist”

Several people, (including my husband) asked if I would UBT last Sunday’s New York Times column in “The Ethicist” by Kwame Anthony Appiah — Should I Tell My …

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UBT: “How Having an Affair Saved My Life.”

Sorry the Universal Bullshit Translator is getting to this late. A bunch of you sent me the HuffPo piece “How Having an Affair Saved my Life” …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why is she sorry NOW?

Dear Chump Lady, Much of your writing is considering that the cheater wants cake. But what of the cheater who just cheated and then abandoned, …

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The Narcissist Checklist

I noticed in the comments the other day, on Eat, Pray, Kibble (or as my husband has renamed it “Cheat, Prey, Wuv”), you guys were …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly being nice?

Dear Chump Lady, I am so confused. I am going through a divorce. Eight years of marriage and the discard was sudden and brutal. I am …

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Most Pathetic Play for Kibbles?

So lately we’ve been discussing all the ways cheaters lose their shit when they realize their precious kibble supply is dwindling. Narcissistic rage, self pity, …

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So How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, Although he fits the readings, although the therapists tell you he is a narcissist, you don’t quite believe it. It isn’t quite …

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