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Can I Tell His Family He Cheated?

February 3, 2021 by Chump Lady

cheater manifesto

Dear Chump Lady, My STBX informed me two weeks before Quarantine Thanksgiving that we had to talk. I shut the lid of my laptop and asked, “What do you want to talk about? Do you want to watch something together?” (I was deep into an episode of something that he hated.) He said, “I want […]

Filed Under: Divorce, No contact, Revenge, Telling people Tagged With: divorce, Grey Rock

Struggling with No Contact

January 27, 2021 by Chump Lady

no contact

Dear Chump Lady, Holy crap, Chump Lady, I feel like hell today. This No Contact is killing me. I woke up with a sense of dread and the whole day sucked. I could barely function. I was out of my PJs long enough to go for a drive but that’s it. All I did was […]

Filed Under: No contact, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Hopium, No Contact

UBT: “I Made a List”

January 25, 2021 by Chump Lady

promise bullshit

Dear Chump Lady: After my divorce from an abusive man, I didn’t date seriously until 4 years later when I met the SparkleD*ck. He was an accomplished professional engineer, as were all his friends, and I’m a first responder. I didn’t want to be “judgey” in this relationship or seem like the “lower educated one.” […]

Filed Under: No contact, universal bullshit translator Tagged With: No Contact, Sorry Not Sorry, Universal Bullshit Translator

When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend

December 21, 2020 by Chump Lady

cheater overlap

Dear Chump Lady, Last week, I left my boyfriend of 11 months. I recently discovered that before meeting with me, he had been in a relationship with a woman who had two kids and a husband for a year and a half. He lied about her for 11 months (the entire length of our relationship, […]

Filed Under: Hopium, No contact, Pick me dance, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Hoovering, No Contact, Pick Me Dance

Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas

November 24, 2020 by Chump Lady

A bag of narcissist ego chow

Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 4 years now after going through an ugly divorce complete with 2 years of doing the pick me dance. We were together for 25 years with the last few years legally married (same sex marriage). My ex was having an affair and ultimately ended up moving in […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, Ego kibbles, No contact, Pick me dance Tagged With: Cake, No Contact, Triangulation

UBT: The Huggy Ex and the OW

November 16, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve had minimal contact with my ex until recently, when he started dropping round my house on a Tuesday while the kids are at school, (I’ve had to drop work hours due to COVID), purportedly to ‘catch up’. But he quickly resumed laying on the charm with the aim of seducing me. […]

Filed Under: No contact, Other Women Tagged With: Other Woman

UBT: “I Would Like to Have a Final Conversation”

November 10, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I am finally filing for divorce (with a 6 month processing time COVID wooo). I want some insight into my ex-spouse’s requests. I have been no contact for 11 months and blocked her 7 months ago, aside from getting the car signed over and getting the divorce application signed. In both situations, […]

Filed Under: No contact Tagged With: Closure, No Contact, relationship autopsy, Stupid Shit Cheaters Say, Universal Bullshit Translator

Returning to Caretake a Cheater Late in Life?

October 13, 2020 by Chump Lady

no contact

Dear Chump Lady, Yesterday I was speaking with a friend of mine who is now 82 and she mentioned she had moved to the nearby senior citizen home to take care of the person who had abandoned her for another woman. The abandonment took place over 30 years earlier. I wouldn’t be wondering about it, […]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Gain a life, No contact, What Not to Do Tagged With: Caretaking, Taking back a cheater

Is This Jealousy?

August 31, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, CN support helped me avoid a mindfuck my husband was trying to impose on me. Thanks to CN, I got up from my knees, hired a detective and in September I am starting the divorce process with judgement of guilt (I live in the EU). Anyway, right now my husband already lives with […]

Filed Under: No contact, Pick me dance, Untangling the skein of fuckupedness Tagged With: Pick Me Dance, Untangling the Skein

Chump Won’t Stop Doing Her Ex Favors

August 24, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hopium

Hello, Chump Lady. I am hoping that you and Chump Nation can help me help a chump. My cousin, who is like a sister to me, was with a loser for over a decade and finally married him a couple of years ago. Less than six months after they were married, he was fucking strange. […]

Filed Under: Hopium, No contact, Untangling the skein of fuckupedness Tagged With: Hopium

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