Category: No contact

My Family Wants Me to Support My Cheating Brother

Hi Chump Lady, My brother is having an affair, he has denied it repeatedly for the last year, and has been gaslighting my sister-in-law by …

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I Thought We Were Monogamous. She Thought We Were Polyamorous.

Dear Chump Lady, I understand that the biggest demographic in your blog are people that have entangled their lives with the cheater’s: married, have kids …

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He Left for OW, But Stays in Touch Daily

Dear Chump Lady, My gaslighting began on Halloween 2020. The now-ex and I finished walking the dogs and were sitting out on the patio drink …

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What’s Your Ex’s Name on Your Cell Phone?

When it comes to a trust that they suck reminder, changing your FW’s cell phone name is a helpful hack. Proper names are for people …

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Tell Me About Your Boundaries

I think one of the hardest things to learn as a chump are boundaries. Not that chumps are doormats, but we have consciences. And caring …

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Ever Run Into an Affair Partner?

Here’s an etiquette dilemma Emily Post completely skipped over — how do you handle Schmoopie encounters? Must you say anything at all? What about compulsory occasions …

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‘I Hate No Contact’

Hello Chump Lady! I dated a guy for a while and decided that we weren’t a good match for marriage, so I broke up with …

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Do I Unfriend My Ex’s Family on Social Media?

Dear Chump Lady, My “husband” of almost 20 years was having an affair. I put a GPS on his car, revealing all kinds of deception, …

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How to Tolerate Ex in Close Proximity

Dear Chump Lady, I’m writing in hopes of finding some fresh advice. Quick backstory: My story is the same old, same old. Multiple D-days, lots …

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What Did You Want to Send But Didn’t?

You know you wanted to send it. The dating profiles to Schmoopie. An improving article to the unicorn you were imagining. My book… perhaps sent …

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UBT: ‘Sorry I Was So Lame’

Dear Chump Lady, I thought I had reached meh 3 1/2 years after D-Day till I received this email from FW the other day: blah …

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Why Is No Contact So Hard?

A lot of chumps falter when it comes to no contact (NC). It’s the most maddening thing — your brain will be very clear on …

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Closure and Other Myths

It must be part of the part of the human condition to want closure. Either that or we’ve all watched too much Law & Order. …

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UBT: ‘My Ex Owes Me Money’

Dear Chump Lady, I found out my 40-year-old ex-husband was cheating on me with a 19-year-old in Feb. 2018, shortly after found out she was …

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Attempted Hoovering Fails

You don’t happen to have that 19th century book on West Virginia coal mining, do you? How about my fountain pen? My grill brush? I …

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Can I Break Grey Rock Just This Once, Please?

Dear Chump Lady, Divorce papers have been filed. Cheaterpants STBX moved out 7 months ago. Fill in the gaps with your stereotypical serial cheater husband, …

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Cell Phone Names for FWs

By popular request, today’s Friday Challenge is… What do you call your ex on your cell phone? Blocky McBlockface? Do Not Answer? Do you have …

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I Unfriended Him

Dear Chump Lady, I unfriended and unfollowed my cheating husband on Facebook and Instagram. Apparently, he just found out and sent me this text, “You …

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‘I Still Have Nightmares About Her’

Dear Chump Lady, Long story short, my (now) ex-wife is in the military and was stationed in a highly populated city within our state (which …

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Mother-in-Law Says: ‘Let Girlfriend Take Over’

Dear Chump Lady, It’s 4 months now after D-Day (got a text message at the death bed of my mum in May with heartfelt birthday …

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