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Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas

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Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 4 years now after going through an ugly divorce complete with 2 years of doing the pick me dance. We were together for 25 years with the last few years legally married (same sex marriage). My ex was having an affair and ultimately ended up moving in […]

UBT: The Huggy Ex and the OW

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Dear Chump Lady, I’ve had minimal contact with my ex until recently, when he started dropping round my house on a Tuesday while the kids are at school, (I’ve had to drop work hours due to COVID), purportedly to ‘catch up’. But he quickly resumed laying on the charm with the aim of seducing me. […]

UBT: “I Would Like to Have a Final Conversation”

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Dear Chump Lady, I am finally filing for divorce (with a 6 month processing time COVID wooo). I want some insight into my ex-spouse’s requests. I have been no contact for 11 months and blocked her 7 months ago, aside from getting the car signed over and getting the divorce application signed. In both situations, […]

Returning to Caretake a Cheater Late in Life?

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Dear Chump Lady, Yesterday I was speaking with a friend of mine who is now 82 and she mentioned she had moved to the nearby senior citizen home to take care of the person who had abandoned her for another woman. The abandonment took place over 30 years earlier. I wouldn’t be wondering about it, […]

Is This Jealousy?

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Dear Chump Lady, CN support helped me avoid a mindfuck my husband was trying to impose on me. Thanks to CN, I got up from my knees, hired a detective and in September I am starting the divorce process with judgement of guilt (I live in the EU). Anyway, right now my husband already lives with […]

Breaking No Contact: How’d That Go?

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The fastest path to healing after being chumped is no contact. We say that here a lot, and yet, when you’re in the early stages of this suckfest, it’s hard to do it. Surely you are the exception. Why, that’s not hopium you’re toking, that’s a reasonable request for closure! Perhaps she’ll explain her two […]

When Does the Pain Stop?

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Dear Chump Lady, Tonight is a hard night for some reason. It has been 11 months since D-Day. And since then stories of other affairs and how long I have been a chump has been trickling in. I finally said I can’t take anymore information and stopped all the asking of how many and how […]

‘I Trolled the Other Woman’

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Hello Chump Lady, I screwed up. I fed the beast. I know you say “If it feels good, don’t do it,” but I confronted my husband and the troll neighbor. Anyway, her kitchen window looks right into mine, so I taped a picture of a troll on to my window. I’m am just so creeped […]