Category: No contact
The Cheater Was My Best Friend And I Dumped Her
Heya Chump Lady, This is kinda outside your norm. I’m not a Chump but instead the ex-friend of the Cheater. I’m reaching out because I …
The OW Calls Me for Advice
Dear Chump Lady, I have a unique situation that I would appreciate your take on. My husband began an affair (his THIRD affair that I …
I Feel Stronger Breaking Up This Time
Dear Chump Lady, I recently got back together with my cheater, after a horrible breakup of discovering he had a prolific hooker problem, (I’m going …
I Regret Unfriending My Cheating Ex
Dear Chump Lady, I just impulsively un-friended my soon to be ex-husband of 15 years on Facebook. He cheated on me with our daughter’s club …
Strategies to Protect Against Mentally Unstable OW?
Dear Chump Lady, I recently found out that my husband of almost 21 years has been having an ongoing relationship with a woman for 11 …
My Family Wants Me to Support My Cheating Brother
Hi Chump Lady, My brother is having an affair, he has denied it repeatedly for the last year, and has been gaslighting my sister-in-law by …
I Thought We Were Monogamous. She Thought We Were Polyamorous.
Dear Chump Lady, I understand that the biggest demographic in your blog are people that have entangled their lives with the cheater’s: married, have kids …
He Left for OW, But Stays in Touch Daily
Dear Chump Lady, My gaslighting began on Halloween 2020. The now-ex and I finished walking the dogs and were sitting out on the patio drink …
What’s Your Ex’s Name on Your Cell Phone?
When it comes to a trust that they suck reminder, changing your FW’s cell phone name is a helpful hack. Proper names are for people …
Tell Me About Your Boundaries
I think one of the hardest things to learn as a chump are boundaries. Not that chumps are doormats, but we have consciences. And caring …
Ever Run Into an Affair Partner?
Here’s an etiquette dilemma Emily Post completely skipped over — how do you handle Schmoopie encounters? Must you say anything at all? What about compulsory occasions …
‘I Hate No Contact’
Hello Chump Lady! I dated a guy for a while and decided that we weren’t a good match for marriage, so I broke up with …
Do I Unfriend My Ex’s Family on Social Media?
Dear Chump Lady, My “husband” of almost 20 years was having an affair. I put a GPS on his car, revealing all kinds of deception, …
How to Tolerate Ex in Close Proximity
Dear Chump Lady, I’m writing in hopes of finding some fresh advice. Quick backstory: My story is the same old, same old. Multiple D-days, lots …
What Did You Want to Send But Didn’t?
You know you wanted to send it. The dating profiles to Schmoopie. An improving article to the unicorn you were imagining. My book… perhaps sent …
UBT: ‘Sorry I Was So Lame’
Dear Chump Lady, I thought I had reached meh 3 1/2 years after D-Day till I received this email from FW the other day: blah …
Why Is No Contact So Hard?
A lot of chumps falter when it comes to no contact (NC). It’s the most maddening thing — your brain will be very clear on …
Closure and Other Myths
It must be part of the part of the human condition to want closure. Either that or we’ve all watched too much Law & Order. …
UBT: ‘My Ex Owes Me Money’
Dear Chump Lady, I found out my 40-year-old ex-husband was cheating on me with a 19-year-old in Feb. 2018, shortly after found out she was …
Attempted Hoovering Fails
You don’t happen to have that 19th century book on West Virginia coal mining, do you? How about my fountain pen? My grill brush? I …
