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UBT: ‘My Ex Owes Me Money’

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Dear Chump Lady, I found out my 40-year-old ex-husband was cheating on me with a 19-year-old in Feb. 2018, shortly after found out she was pregnant. Also found out that he ran up my credit cards, told everyone he was taking half of my house and retirement funds and expected our divorce to fund his […]

Attempted Hoovering Fails

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You don’t happen to have that 19th century book on West Virginia coal mining, do you? How about my fountain pen? My grill brush? I don’t know. If you weren’t in such a hurry to boff strange, you might remember where you kept things.  Hoovering. When the centrality is slipping and they need to make […]

Can I Break Grey Rock Just This Once, Please?

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Dear Chump Lady, Divorce papers have been filed. Cheaterpants STBX moved out 7 months ago. Fill in the gaps with your stereotypical serial cheater husband, primary OW around for the last 10 years, D-Day 10 months ago, and you get the picture. I had an awesome 3+ month grey rock streak. I thought I was […]

Cell Phone Names for FWs

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By popular request, today’s Friday Challenge is… What do you call your ex on your cell phone? Blocky McBlockface? Do Not Answer? Do you have a special ringtone? (Hells Bells by AC/DC comes to mind…) In an ideal world, you’d just rock the total no contact, but many are still in the grey rock trenches […]

I Unfriended Him

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Dear Chump Lady, I unfriended and unfollowed my cheating husband on Facebook and Instagram. Apparently, he just found out and sent me this text, “You really unfriended me?” How should I respond? Thanks, Kathy Dear Kathy, You should not respond. Welcome to no contact, Grasshopper. No contact is a discipline. You’ll get the hang of […]

‘I Still Have Nightmares About Her’

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Dear Chump Lady, Long story short, my (now) ex-wife is in the military and was stationed in a highly populated city within our state (which included sleeping in a hotel Monday-Friday) to issue COVID tests. During this time, I found out she cheated on me with a fellow soldier in her hotel room. I found […]

Is This Hoovering?

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Dear Chump Lady I am no contact with my ex-boyfriend, and have been since August. He “wanted a break” in January, but I didn’t know that he already had his vastly inferior-to-me girlfriend already waiting in the wings. At this time, he would hoover me in once a month using some pretense (documents he could […]

I Just Want Her to Be Truthful

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Dear Chump Lady, I recently broke up with my girlfriend of two years. I had suspicion that she was seeing someone else after she came home drunk one day at 8 in the morning and I kicked her out of my apartment. Her iPhone was connected to her iPad, and she had left it here, […]