Category: No contact

cheater manifesto

Should I Write the OW?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband left “temporarily” two years ago after my teenagers confronted him about his chronic emotional and verbal abuse. After a weird …

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Hooker Habit Revealed, Cheater Threatens Suicide

Hello Chump Lady, I have lived with my husband for 8 years now and have been married for only 1.5 years. I recently noted odd …

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His Family Says ‘I Should Be Happy for Him’

Dear Chump Lady, My ex lives 12 hours behind me in the Philippines, with the “Only One True Love Of My Life”, (at least that’s …

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Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?

Dear Chump Lady, My question for you and perhaps more so, Chump Nation, is when, how long does it take before the pain goes away? …

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maintain your dignity

No Contact Fails — The Blooper Reel

This “Fun” Friday contest was suggested by an intrepid chump this week — no contact fails, the outtakes. If your chumpy existence was a Bloopers show …

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Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference

Hi Chump Lady, I was married for 25+ years to a serial cheater, liar, sex addict, abuser, manipulator (yeah, he was all that and a …

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lysol ex

No Contact Wins

Freaks can fling some tasty bait at chumps. Why, just last Monday we read about the cheater who told everyone his chump ex was ISIS. …

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Mindfuck blender

Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry with myself for not leaving sooner

Dear Chump Lady. I recently read your book, and it’s helped me a lot to not contact my ex-boyfriend (which had previously been very difficult), …

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Serial cheater

How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, Although he fits the readings, although the therapists tell you he is a narcissist, you don’t quite believe it. It isn’t quite …

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You Don’t Need Closure

Once upon a time, a fellow “Chump Chap” wrote to me after he realized that he’d gotten a non-apology apology from his cheating ex. He’d …

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Meh Sightings?

Have you had a glimpse of the Promised Land? Are you Meh? “Meh” — that liberating place of acceptance — is where you no longer are …

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Facebook Is NOT Helping You Move on

Previous generations got to break up with people and never had to see the jerks again. A hundred years ago, if you were lucky your …

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Why No Contact Works

What’s the secret sauce to getting a fuckwit out your life? No Contact. I thought today I’d do a refresher course on why no contact …

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broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, Am I the toxic one?

Dear Chump Lady: I’m not sure it’s possible to get through this nightmare of truth-trickling and gaslighting without picking up a maladaptive strategy or two. …

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no contact

Dear Chump Lady, Do I owe him an explanation?

Dear Chump Lady, I was married 6 years. No kids. Three years ago was D-Day. Got the usual “I love you but…” A month later …

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Dear Chump Lady, Please be mean

Dear Chump Lady, I need help. Preferably the bitch slapping kind. I’m hoping just writing this will help. Your site was a breath of fresh …

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Dear Chump Lady, He moved down the street

Dear Chump Lady, I divorced my (abusive) ex-husband a year ago after 17 years of marriage and 4 children. That wasn’t fun for him, so …

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Playing the Victim?

Dear Chump Lady, During my shock of learning and trying to understand why he cheated on me, when I thought we had a great relationship …

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twu luv

Dear Chump Lady, He sees me as the Fixer

Dear Chump Lady, The other night as the Super Bowl was just getting started, my 18-year-old daughter called me into her bedroom. Her dad, (my …

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Narcissist Goldfish

Don’t Send It

Here’s a chump rookie mistake — sending cheaters improving articles. Please don’t do it. Worse, please don’t send them my articles. Because invariably I’ll get …

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