Category: Pick me dance

Dear Chump Lady, 2×4 me. I slept with my ex.

Dear Chump Lady, I have been an absolute idiot and an asshole. For almost one year after X and I split (we hadn’t gotten married …

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How Pretty Did You Dance?

If you’re a chump, you’ve performed the Humiliating Dance of “pick me.” Actually, you probably have an entire repertoire of dance moves. The Self-Improvement Shuffle. Done with …

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Dear Chump Lady, The OW calls me for advice!

Dear Chump Lady, I have a unique situation that I would appreciate your take on. My husband began an affair (his THIRD affair that I …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m jealous of the OW

Dear Chump Lady, I am sure that my story is the same one that you have heard a hundred times, I have read versions of …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW. Do I give his wife the details?

Dear Chump Lady, I am a new reader to your blog and I am disgusted to say I was the OW. So why, you might …

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Grieving the Affair Partner… And Other Indignities

Well, Chris asked for it, so chumps, how about that unholy crap about chumps being patient as their cheater “grieves” the affair partner? Ain’t that …

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Dear Chump Lady, Hysterical bonding… WTF?!

Dear Chump Lady, Why hasn’t anyone mentioned hysterical bonding related to finding out about adultery? I am a recent chump. I found out 30 days …

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Dear Chump Lady, Did I do a bad thing?

Dear Chump Lady, My ex got involved with my daughter’s hockey coach. It lasted a year. I discovered months of “I love you more and …

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Dear Chump Lady, Sex with the STBX?

Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of sex with the STBX? I’ve lost weight and am looking pretty good. I want him to see …

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Dear Chump Lady, Complicated love rhombus…

Dear Chump Lady, I had a partner of 12 years, Kathy. We had a house, two dogs, joint checking account, and we did grow complacent …

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Dear Chump Lady, I am jealous!

Dear Chump Lady, How does one get over the horrible feeling of jealousy? I ended our 33 year marriage eight months ago after many years …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m still having sex with my STBX. What gives?

Dear Chump Lady, I am currently going through a separation/divorce. I honestly don’t know what the hell it is because he keeps saying he can’t …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is she prettier?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband cheated on me with some woman, but he won’t tell me who she is. I don’t know anything about her …

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Ooh, pick me!

The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!

One of the most common mindfucks the cheated upon may experience after discovery of an affair, is the expectation that they will try harder to …

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