Category: Polyamory
An Inconvenient Time for a D-Day
Dear Chump Lady, It’s Valentine’s Day, and in between reading your blog posts, I’ve cooked a steak dinner and given a lovely gift and card …
I Thought We Were Monogamous. She Thought We Were Polyamorous.
Dear Chump Lady, I understand that the biggest demographic in your blog are people that have entangled their lives with the cheater’s: married, have kids …
Her Husband Wants an Open Marriage
Dear Chump Lady, You’ve written cogently about the way cheaters employ a double standard rather than asking for open marriage. So I’d like your take …
Ethical Non-Monogamy Was a Bust
Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — …
Is Monogamy Abuse?
Dear Chump Lady The thing that I wanted to talk to you about has nothing to do with cheating, but everything to do with monogamy. …
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think he’s a narcissist
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump who discovered my husband’s year-long affair that took place nine years ago while dealing with the fallout of me …
The Pick Me Dance and Polyamory
Hi Chump Lady, I think I’m almost out of the woods with getting over my cheater, but right as I get to “meh,” I realize …
Chump Lady on Orgies
An alert chump once sent me an article in Vogue, “That Time I Went to a Sex Party” by “Slutever” Karley Sciortino. As it appeared …
Dear Chump Lady, We divorced… and now she wants to reconcile
Dear Chump Lady, Prior to finding your site, and just after D-Day in 2012, I was an active member on another infidelity site. Fortunately many …
Open Marriage Skepticism
I love the New York Times, but last week they irritated the ever-living fuck out of me by running their Open Marriage series on the …
UBT: “Please Don’t Give Up On Me!”
Dear Chump Lady, Long-time reader, first-time UBT submitter. I’m a gay man and was with my ex-boyfriend for about 7 years. I need some UBT …
Dear Chump Lady, My husband is trying to pimp me out to strangers
Dear Chump Lady, So my husband confessed to pimping me out to random strangers on the Internet in pursuit of sex (for the third time). A …
UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
Raise your hand if you think good sex is an important part of a good relationship. Oh, hey, is that all of you? I think …
Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants a polyamorist marriage
Dear Chump Lady, My husband has just announced that he is a polyamorist. He is sleeping with at least two other woman at the moment …
A Polyamorist Speaks Out
Dear Ms. Schorn, Reading your blog post “Monogamy Is Not the Problem” made me feel quite frustrated, misunderstood and mocked. I wholeheartedly agree that cheating …
Monogamy Is Not the Problem
I’d like to give a shout out for monogamy. It’s really been maligned of late, called “unnatural,” — or worse, hegemonic and bossy. It gets …
An open letter to Dan Savage
Dear Dan, I’ve always been a big fan of yours. Coining the acronym for Dump the Motherfucker Already (DTMFA)? Brilliant. Creating the “It Gets Better” …
