Category: Reconciliation
UBT: A Million Dollars to Reconcile
Dear Chump Lady, I separated from my partner of 20 years after I found out about his porn and prostitute addiction. The FW wants to reconcile …
How Do I Get My Cheating Wife to Reconcile with Me?
Dear Chump Lady, You mention the only way to have your spouse back is with them doing a full reconciliation. What’s that look like? Do …
She Won’t Leave Her Cheater
Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I don’t know what to do, his sister (my SIL) is a chump of epic proportions. She is 18 …
How Much Did You Spend on Reconciliation?
Today’s Friday Challenge is a spin-off from Monday’s discussion of the $12K reconciliation ranch retreats featured in Elle magazine. Okay, maybe you didn’t dish out …
Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat
Did your partner cheat? Nothing says accountability like a $12K spa retreat. Enjoy hopium snorting at your own private Shangri-La. Make sand castles while discussing your trust …
Franklin Graham Encourages Woman to Take Abuser Back
Go back to your abuser? Patch things up? Stop “embarrassing him” with your story? The Reconciliation Industrial Complex is in the news this week. North …
Therapy Homework Fails
Raise your hand if you ever did therapy with a cheater. Raise both hands if you didn’t know they were a cheater. (Free now? Then …
Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?
Hi Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex started acting distant mid-March (2022) and moved to a spare bedroom. Two weeks later I discovered his affair: He was …
My Friend Won’t Listen to Your Advice
Dear Chump Lady, My friend reads your blog, but doesn’t take your advice. I (and several other friends) have coached her through the hurts and …
‘I Believe the Other Woman Is Psycho’
Dear Chump Lady, I found out my husband cheated on me about 2 months ago. How you ask? The woman he was sleeping with sent …
4 Reasons Affair Fog Is Not a Thing
The Fog. The Fog, the Fog, the Fog. She is deep in the Fog. Great update, it sounds like she’s finally coming out of the …
Stupid Sh*t the Reconciliation Industrial Complex Says
I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.” What should the betrayed partner do? Often, …
Help Me Not Be a Bitch
Dear Chump Lady, Hi. I’m hoping you’ll be able to provide some guidance because my therapist is at a loss. My husband cheated, we’ve been …
UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity
Every crime needs an investigation. Not to worry, Inspector Esther Perel is on the case! And now you can be an amateur sleuth too thanks …
UBT: How to Get Proof They’re Cheating
People send a lot of dumb articles to the Universal Bullshit Translator, so it takes a whole lot of stupid for the UBT to be …
Maybe He’ll See What He’s Missing
Dear Chump Lady, I am a little over three months out from D-Day now and I feel I have given myself a major setback. I …
The ‘Dual Accountability’ Therapy Fallacy
Hi Chump Lady, I thought you would line to see the “official point of view” of the majority of therapists that treat infidelity: “Infidelity occurs …
UBT: The Mayo Clinic
The un-chumped people of the world sometimes think I exaggerate The Reconciliation Industrial Complex. When my book was first being pitched to publishers, this came …
Am I the Jerk for Wanting to Leave?
Dear Chump Lady, My husband cheated almost three years ago. Since that time he has been remorseful and been the husband that he was before …
Debunking “Affairs Are About Opportunity”
One tenet of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex is that “Affairs are about opportunity.” (Also known as the Chris Rock line, “You’re only as faithful as …
