Category: Reconciliation

cheat on me

How Do I Get My Cheating Wife to Reconcile with Me?

Dear Chump Lady, You mention the only way to have your spouse back is with them doing a full reconciliation. What’s that look like? Do …

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Hopium

She Won’t Leave Her Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I don’t know what to do, his sister (my SIL) is a chump of epic proportions. She is 18 …

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unicorn

How Much Did You Spend on Reconciliation?

Today’s Friday Challenge is a spin-off from Monday’s discussion of the $12K reconciliation ranch retreats featured in Elle magazine. Okay, maybe you didn’t dish out …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat

Did your partner cheat? Nothing says accountability like a $12K spa retreat. Enjoy hopium snorting at your own private Shangri-La. Make sand castles while discussing your trust …

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Franklin Graham

Franklin Graham Encourages Woman to Take Abuser Back

Go back to your abuser? Patch things up? Stop “embarrassing him” with your story? The Reconciliation Industrial Complex is in the news this week. North …

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shrink

Therapy Homework Fails

Raise your hand if you ever did therapy with a cheater. Raise both hands if you didn’t know they were a cheater. (Free now? Then …

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not a unicorn

Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?

Hi Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex started acting distant mid-March (2022) and moved to a spare bedroom. Two weeks later I discovered his affair: He was …

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My Friend Won’t Listen to Your Advice

Dear Chump Lady, My friend reads your blog, but doesn’t take your advice. I (and several other friends) have coached her through the hurts and …

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bitch is crazy

‘I Believe the Other Woman Is Psycho’

Dear Chump Lady, I found out my husband cheated on me about 2 months ago. How you ask? The woman he was sleeping with sent …

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4 Reasons Affair Fog Is Not a Thing

The Fog. The Fog, the Fog, the Fog. She is deep in the Fog. Great update, it sounds like she’s finally coming out of the …

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unicorn

Stupid Sh*t the Reconciliation Industrial Complex Says

I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.” What should the betrayed partner do? Often, …

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bitch

Help Me Not Be a Bitch

Dear Chump Lady, Hi. I’m hoping you’ll be able to provide some guidance because my therapist is at a loss. My husband cheated, we’ve been …

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shrink

UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity

Every crime needs an investigation. Not to worry, Inspector Esther Perel is on the case! And now you can be an amateur sleuth too thanks …

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lying

UBT: How to Get Proof They’re Cheating

People send a lot of dumb articles to the Universal Bullshit Translator, so it takes a whole lot of stupid for the UBT to be …

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Hopium

Maybe He’ll See What He’s Missing

Dear Chump Lady, I am a little over three months out from D-Day now and I feel I have given myself a major setback. I …

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shrink

The ‘Dual Accountability’ Therapy Fallacy

Hi Chump Lady, I thought you would line to see the “official point of view” of the majority of therapists that treat infidelity: “Infidelity occurs …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

UBT: The Mayo Clinic

The un-chumped people of the world sometimes think I exaggerate The Reconciliation Industrial Complex. When my book was first being pitched to publishers, this came …

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Unicorn cage

Am I the Jerk for Wanting to Leave?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband cheated almost three years ago. Since that time he has been remorseful and been the husband that he was before …

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opportunity

Debunking “Affairs Are About Opportunity”

One tenet of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex is that  “Affairs are about opportunity.” (Also known as the Chris Rock line, “You’re only as faithful as …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

I Want My Cheating Wife to Read Your Book

Dear Chump Lady, I have been cheated on by my wife a few times. She has also committed financial infidelity a few times. I have …

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