Category: Reconciliation

The Unicorn of Reconciliation

UBT: Tell Me How to Reconcile

Miss Chump Lady, I am writing to you as one of those you loathe. I’ve cheated on my husband, through repeated patterns of emotional cheating …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: Tim’s Review

Today’s Chump Lady rant goes out to “Tim,” a therapist who left a thoughtful review of my book on Amazon. He gave it 4 stars (out …

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Therapist Says Not to Tell People He Cheated

Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …

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The Infidelity Fallacy of ‘Unmet Needs’

If I could wave my magic Chump Lady wand and rid the world of one founding principle of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex, it’s that affairs happen …

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Do You Believe in ‘Affair Fog’?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband had drunk sex with a woman who works for him when our little boy was 9 months old and we …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: A Million Dollars to Reconcile

Dear Chump Lady, I separated from my partner of 20 years after I found out about his porn and prostitute addiction. The FW wants to reconcile …

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cheat on me

How Do I Get My Cheating Wife to Reconcile with Me?

Dear Chump Lady, You mention the only way to have your spouse back is with them doing a full reconciliation. What’s that look like? Do …

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Hopium

She Won’t Leave Her Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I don’t know what to do, his sister (my SIL) is a chump of epic proportions. She is 18 …

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unicorn

How Much Did You Spend on Reconciliation?

Today’s Friday Challenge is a spin-off from Monday’s discussion of the $12K reconciliation ranch retreats featured in Elle magazine. Okay, maybe you didn’t dish out …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat

Did your partner cheat? Nothing says accountability like a $12K spa retreat. Enjoy hopium snorting at your own private Shangri-La. Make sand castles while discussing your trust …

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Franklin Graham

Franklin Graham Encourages Woman to Take Abuser Back

Go back to your abuser? Patch things up? Stop “embarrassing him” with your story? The Reconciliation Industrial Complex is in the news this week. North …

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shrink

Therapy Homework Fails

Raise your hand if you ever did therapy with a cheater. Raise both hands if you didn’t know they were a cheater. (Free now? Then …

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not a unicorn

Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?

Hi Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex started acting distant mid-March (2022) and moved to a spare bedroom. Two weeks later I discovered his affair: He was …

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My Friend Won’t Listen to Your Advice

Dear Chump Lady, My friend reads your blog, but doesn’t take your advice. I (and several other friends) have coached her through the hurts and …

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bitch is crazy

‘I Believe the Other Woman Is Psycho’

Dear Chump Lady, I found out my husband cheated on me about 2 months ago. How you ask? The woman he was sleeping with sent …

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4 Reasons Affair Fog Is Not a Thing

The Fog. The Fog, the Fog, the Fog. She is deep in the Fog. Great update, it sounds like she’s finally coming out of the …

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unicorn

Stupid Sh*t the Reconciliation Industrial Complex Says

I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.” What should the betrayed partner do? Often, …

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bitch

Help Me Not Be a Bitch

Dear Chump Lady, Hi. I’m hoping you’ll be able to provide some guidance because my therapist is at a loss. My husband cheated, we’ve been …

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shrink

UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity

Every crime needs an investigation. Not to worry, Inspector Esther Perel is on the case! And now you can be an amateur sleuth too thanks …

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lying

UBT: How to Get Proof They’re Cheating

People send a lot of dumb articles to the Universal Bullshit Translator, so it takes a whole lot of stupid for the UBT to be …

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