Category: Reconciliation

Cheaters, You’re Not Entitled to Reconciliation

I know my message — “leave a cheater, gain a life” is not popular with cheaters. I mean, duh. At times, I’m asked do I mean …

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When Unicorns Meet Ashley Madison…

Lots of you sent me that article on Yahoo news last week: “For the Thrill of the Affair — Why Married Women Cheat.” As expected, …

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Visiting Unicorns

Hey chumps! I can’t type much today as I’m on an iPad and my fat stubby fingers get frustrated on a virtual keyboard. But I’ll …

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Dear Chump Lady, Unicorns are real

Hi Chumps,  Just a note that today’s blog post letter is being answered by fellow chump Chris DiRico while I’m away from the blog for …

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Love Without Respect

I’ve tackled the question of can cheaters really love you while they are cheating on you (as many of them claim). My opinion is that …

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A Word about Reconciliation

An extra post today, guys. We have new chumps joining our ranks each day, and all are welcome. But I wanted to clear up some …

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Dear Chump Lady, Should I give him another chance?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I are in our 40s with two young children. This past year, he started an affair with a 25-year …

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Dear Chump Lady, Can “meh” exist for a unicorn?

Dear Chump Lady, Well, my husband and I are one of the Unicorns that reconciled last February of 2013. I was strong, kicked him out, …

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Reconciliation and Entitlement

As anyone who reads here knows, I’m not hopeful about reconciliation after infidelity. It’s not that I don’t believe successful reconciliations are possible — it’s …

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Real Remorse? Or Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse?

So you’ve been chumped and you’re trying to decide if your cheater is truly sorry. Is it real remorse? Or is it genuine imitation Naugahyde …

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The Unlikelihood of Immediate Remorse

There’s an article over at HuffPo today on how a cheater should tell their spouse they’ve been having an affair. There’s some discussion on tell …

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Dear Chump Lady, The dreaded unicorns are trying to pull me back

No, REALLY the comments should work now. Damn you Word Press! — CL   Hi Chump Lady, I’m struggling – and I should know better. …

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Dear Chump Lady, Not everyone who reconciles is pathetic

From a comment in yesterday’s post: Chump Lady, At the risk of inviting a pile on, I don’t agree that infidelity is always abuse. While …

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Dear Chump Lady, My cheater promises to live like a “dog in a cage”

Dear Chump Lady, Do narcissists ever beg, plead, offer to let you track them via GPS, never go out, etc. to get you back? He …

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The Futility of ‘Affair-Proofing’

Many chumps ask after they’ve been broad-sided by infidelity — What did I do wrong?  And how can I make sure this never, ever happens …

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The Trap of the False Equivalency

I was posting over at talkaboutmarriage.com and someone, very conveniently, posted several tropes about reconciling that are false equivalencies. A false equivalency is a logical …

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Dear Chump Lady, As a unicorn, I am offended

Dear Chump Lady, I am writing on behalf of us unicorns. We exist, those people who reconcile (who you say are as rare as unicorns). …

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