Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 2 years (total 4 years with the separation) and my ex quickly moved on with another woman. Even though I know for a fact their relationship is dysfunctional I still feel he “won” and that he is viewed as a happier person because he is in a […]
Dear Chump Lady, I’m suddenly a single mom
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a mom of two young kids. (My son will be 3 in August and my daughter turned 1 two weeks ago). Six months ago my husband of four years (together nine years total) told me he wanted “out.” He said he tried marriage, but it wasn’t working out for him. He […]
Dear Chump Lady, My mother doesn’t support my divorce
Hi Chump Lady, I am writing this letter after another deflating conversation with my mother in which she takes what small victories I can muster (today I put a deposit down on an apartment for myself and my 16 month old daughter) as I approach my divorce and crushes them, most likely unintentionally, but it […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do they flip so fast?
Hi CL, I’m guessing by now you’ve heard it all but here’s my story: My soon-to-be-exhusband and I have a one-year old together, we never had any marital problems and he was actually one of the most caring, involved fathers I’ve ever met. Then we found out he was deploying (military) and he said “well if […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I help my friend move on?
Dear Chump Lady, I looked at your website because my dear friend (the chump) posted on her facebook a recent cartoon. It’s been over 3 years and all of us are trying to help her move on, especially for her 22, 19, and 14 year old children. It’s awful. We knew them before they were […]
This Is What You Missed, You Idiot
Did anyone catch Jennifer Ball’s moving essay on HuffPo, “This Is What You’ve Missed”? It’s a recitation of the small and significant moments that her ex-husband has missed out on when he abandoned their four children for his mistress. Marrying her, having another child, and then having nothing to do with his original family ever […]
The Unending Punishment of Breeding with a Fucktard
If you’ve had the misfortune of breeding with a fucktard, you know that this misery just keeps paying dividends. You may successfully remove yourself from their toxicity, but your kids have to keep navigating this shit until they’re 18. It sucks donkey balls. It’s one thing to deal with their mindfuckery. It’s quite another to […]
This Mother’s Day? Take a Single Mom to Brunch
An essay I submitted to HuffPo divorce for Mother’s Day (no idea if it will run, if it does, I’ll post the link.) I was a single mom for most of my son’s childhood, and I have to confess to you as hokey and shameful as this is — every Mother’s Day I coveted one […]
