Category: Spackle

Poor Nigel

Last week this chump metaphor caught my eye — as the world mourned the death of Nigel, the lonely gannet on a remote island off …

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What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was

How many times do we write “tip of the iceberg” around here? When faced with a D-Day, chumps never get the full picture. And, fact …

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Hopium

Dear Chump Lady, Why is the OW calling our house?

Dear Chump Lady My husband told me about his affair 3 years ago. (Which lasted 5 years.) He cut off contact with the other woman …

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When You’re the Parent in the Relationship

One common thread I see running through a lot of stories here is that the chump is takes a parental role in the relationship. Gah! …

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Cream of Mindfuck Soup

So, being a Texan and all, my husband loves to delight me with Ted Cruz news stories. For the record, neither of us can stand …

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Nice Vs. Kind

There was an interesting side discussion the other day on Chump Lady about the difference between niceness and kindness. Many people noted that their cheaters …

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Your Very Best Spackle, Please

At breakfast the other day my husband ran a spackle scenario by me. He  was reading “Chicken Soup for the Soul for Couples.” Let me …

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Duggar Family Dysfunction

I confess I’m watching the implosion of the Duggar family wholesomeness with keen interest. My husband is an inveterate channel flipper, and he often lands …

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Spackle & Spackle Associates

As chumps, it’s bad enough that we spackle. What’s worse is when the world spackles with you. Spackle, for those new to Chump Lady, is …

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50 Shades of Subtle Nuance

You want to get my knickers in a twist? Accuse this blog of “black and white” thinking. Ladies and gentlemen, some things are black and white, …

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Nice vs. Kind

There was an interesting side discussion the other day on Chump Lady about the difference between niceness and kindness. Many people noted that their cheaters …

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Dear Chump Lady, Am I guilty of splitting too?

Dear Chump Lady, This letter was spurred by your post about Love, The All Purpose Spackle. My problem is kind of the opposite. I’ve been …

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Love, the All-Purpose Spackle

Anyone else notice this phenomenon? On infidelity forums, you’ll read a thread describing a thousand horrors and humiliations and invariably it ends — “but I …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why does it feel like he’s better than me?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve written enough about my story, so you know my ex is a cheater, narcissist, nut job and creep of the highest …

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Hurt People Hurt People and Other Bullshit

My cousin Mike as a child was a terrible bully. All the kids in town were terrified of him. I remember in the first grade …

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Dear Chump Lady, I want to rescue my friend

Dear Chump Lady, Almost a decade ago, I lived with a man with NPD. I was fortunate: his sparkles ran out before he could cheat …

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Warning Signals

Chumps, did anyone warn you? And I don’t even mean about the cheating, but that too of course. Did anyone close to you, a friend, …

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Owning Your Chumpiness

Did anyone read the Modern Love column in this last Sunday’s New York Times– “Friends Without Benefits”? It’s the overwrought tale of loving an emotionally …

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The Power of Spackle

Do you ever wonder now what you ever saw in your cheater? Once they lit the moon, and now you’re mortified to recall your life …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is following your heart ever justified?

Dear Chump Lady, I recently read an article entitled “How To Live with No Regrets.” The author said something about listening to your heart. He …

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