Dear Chump Lady, Plain and simple here is my question. After many, many years of suspecting my husband of adultery, he finally told me after 50 years of marriage that he did cheat. At first he said it was a one-time thing, which after many hours of “discussion“ turned out to be 15 years of […]
The Other Man Wants to Come to Mom’s Funeral
Dear Chump Lady, My mother died suddenly last Friday. I’d started grieving her when out of the blue this bloke called her phone and asked to speak to me. Turns out she’d been having an affair for 12 years. My parents were married for 54 years. All her holidays and weekends away were spent with […]
Ex Tells People She’s ‘Liberated from a Loveless Marriage’
Dear Chump Lady, After being quarantined with Covid for the month of November 2020 my wife came home and announced that she wanted a divorce. The month had been stressful as we have two young children, 5 and 3, and I worked from home as a teacher during that time. My wife had returned to […]
6 Thoughts on Character Assassination
A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… and my cheater is telling people terrible things about me.” Both followed with “And what can I do about that?” Nothing. Sorry, chumps. You can’t do anything about what people […]
Therapist Says Not to Tell Anyone Her Husband Cheated
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she cheated? My marriage counselor (MC)’s advice was that the reason for the separation was not anyone else’s business and said that by telling the truth (i.e. their spouse cheated) the betrayed […]
Enough with Divorce Shame
My cousin got divorced yesterday and I noticed today on her Facebook page that she wrote a very kind thank you to her friends and family who helped her through this difficult “journey.” She didn’t mention what that journey was — divorce. Several people wrote “You’re in my prayers,” and “hugs” and other supportive kind things, a few […]
How Are You Changing the Narrative?
Today’s award for righteous sass goes out to KatiePig. When confronted with the faux sophistication of cheating apologists, here’s her response: This is me at this point in my life. I’m the person who replies “Oh cool, I’ll let everyone know your husband is available for fucking, since you think this is great. Oh hi, […]
Infidelity Euphemisms
Cheating is such an ugly word. That’s why the Reconciliation Industrial Complex has so many euphemisms. Cheating? No, they strayed or were wayward. (Blown off course! Get it?) Fuck buddy? No, mistress, companion, or lover. So much more sanitized. And cheaters themselves give us so many euphemisms! “Hiking the Appalachian trail” comes to mind. One of the things we […]
Allen vs. Farrow
Many chumps have reached out to ask me if I’ve watched the HBO documentary “Allen vs. Farrow,” about Dylan Farrow’s (alleged, convincing… utterly convincing) sex abuse by filmmaker Woody Allen and the custody trial Allen waged against his long-term partner, actress Mia Farrow. Quack therapists and parental alienation? Hysterical scorned women? Litigation abuse? This is […]
Don’t Send It, Three Reasons Why
Psssst! I have a little secret to lay on you…. People are not interested in your messy divorce. Okay, maybe your parents and closest friend. Certainly it sucks for your children. But the rest of humanity? I’m sorry. They do not care for the particulars. I know how unjust this is, especially if you’ve been cheated […]
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