Category: Telling people

DNA Test Reveals Cheating Ex Had More Kids

Hi Chump Lady, I found your blog shortly after D-day and it saved my sanity. Backstory, married for over 30 years. Marriage with ups and …

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The Other Woman Is a Therapist

Dear Chump Lady/CN, First of all, thank you for curating this resource; it’s been invaluable to feel less alone throughout this incredibly isolating experience! FW …

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Narcissist Goldfish

Advice on Confronting Dead Cheater’s Schoompie?

Hey Chump Lady, My husband of 36 years was killed by a drunk driver. I discovered he was cheating on me. I plan to confront …

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I Told Her He Cheated and She Married Him Anyway

Dear Chump Lady, I had a long-distance thing with a guy who jerked me around for about a year. I thought we loved each other. …

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When Schmoopie Is a Public Figure

Dear Chump Lady, My story isn’t a new one. In fact, it’s a classic. I’m just one more chump whose wife left him for the …

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When the Cheater Is in the Family

Dear Chump Lady, Thank you so much for this site. I’m a chump myself, now in a much better place having gotten to Tuesday and …

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Am I a Bad Friend for Not Supporting Friend’s Affair?

Dear Chump Lady, I am a fellow chump who 4 years ago was betrayed, gaslighted, emotionally abused, on and on, by my partner of 8 …

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Why Does Everyone Assume Cheating Is the Chump’s Fault?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve recently been pondering something that irks me, and would really appreciate your opinion. In various conversations with some friends over the …

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How Do I Explain My Divorce?

Hi Chump Lady, Could you please offer some advice as to what to say on your dates regarding why you’re divorced? Like you, I’m twice …

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Mindfuck blender

He Denies He Cheated… And Our Friends Believe Him

Dear Chump Lady, I am 33 years old and two months post-discovery of my ex-fiance’s affair, which was two months long with a sleazy girl …

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Did the Affair Partner Tell You?

One of the lousier ways to find out you’re a chump is having the news sprung on you via the affair partner. There are worse …

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Should I Tell the Other Chump?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband had an affair 4 years ago, which I recently found out about. They are no longer having a sexual relationship, …

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‘My Sister Is Cheating on My Brother-in-Law’

Dear Chump Lady, My identical twin sister recently confessed to me that she has been cheating on her husband. We were out with two other …

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Can I Break Grey Rock Just This Once, Please?

Dear Chump Lady, Divorce papers have been filed. Cheaterpants STBX moved out 7 months ago. Fill in the gaps with your stereotypical serial cheater husband, …

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Telling People… How, When, Regrets?

So, following up from yesterday’s post about not going quietly, I thought a good Friday discussion would be about chumpdom disclosure. Who did you tell? …

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Alice Evans

Alice Evans Will Not Go Quietly

Dear Chump Lady, I would love to read your opinion on Alice Evans and how she is handling her betrayal and divorce. I’m torn between …

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Should I Tell Grandma She Was a Chump?

Hi Chump Lady, I’m writing today because my 95-year-old-grandmother’s dementia is progressing and it has me thinking about the story of her life (and what …

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‘Hero’ Cheater Is a Deadbeat

Dear Chump Lady, December marks three years since D-Day with the 21-year-old babysitter (among others). We had been together for 5 years, married for 2. …

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UBT: ‘Accept My Truth’

Dear Chump Lady, My children, 4 and 7, and I had a talk the other day. I asked my son why he thought his parents …

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Friends Disapprove of Her Divorce

Dear Chump Lady, Plain and simple here is my question. After many, many years of suspecting my husband of adultery, he finally told me after …

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