Category: Telling people

bless your heart

Infidelity Euphemisms

Cheating is such an ugly word. That’s why the Reconciliation Industrial Complex has so many euphemisms. Cheating? No, they strayed or were wayward. (Blown off course! Get it?) Fuck …

Read More
Allen vs Farrow

Allen vs. Farrow

Many chumps have reached out to ask me if I’ve watched the HBO documentary “Allen vs. Farrow,” about Dylan Farrow’s (alleged, convincing… utterly convincing) sex …

Read More
maintain your dignity

Don’t Send It, Three Reasons Why

Psssst! I have a little secret to lay on you…. People are not interested in your messy divorce. Okay, maybe your parents and closest friend. Certainly …

Read More
cheater manifesto

Can I Tell His Family He Cheated?

Dear Chump Lady, My STBX informed me two weeks before Quarantine Thanksgiving that we had to talk. I shut the lid of my laptop and …

Read More

Controlling the Narrative

Dear Chump Lady, My now soon-to-be-ex husband of almost 30 years cheated on me twice — that I know of. The first one and the …

Read More

When Your Kids Believe the Lies

Dear Chump Lady, What can you say to your adult children to make them understand that the gaslighting, lying, cheating, stealing, abusive break up and …

Read More
bitter bunny

‘My Sister Blames Me for My Husband’s Affair’

Dear Chump Lady, I just had a conversation with my sister about my cheating husband. I can’t seem to get it through her head that …

Read More
cheater manifesto

Is Reporting Him Revenge?

Dear Chump Lady, My ex cheated on me with a very good friend for almost 2 years. We were actually couple friends as well. She …

Read More
sadz

He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him

Dear Chump Lady, It has been 9 months since D-Day #2 and today would have been our 9th anniversary. A few days ago my STBXH …

Read More
Muffin top

How Come No One But Chumps Seems to Get It?

Hi Chump Lady, Could you please give some advice as to how I can stop obsessing about cheater apologists? Absolutely nobody except those who have …

Read More

‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’

Dear Chump Lady, I just found out after 5 or 6 years of absolute insane digging (mental breakdowns, trips to rehabs, gaslighting to the extreme, …

Read More
lies

6 Ways to Respond (or Not) to Character Assassination

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

Read More

Steal This Idea

So the blog-odometer flipped 30 million page views last week. (And I failed to notice until yesterday.) Which I thought deserved some sort of pause …

Read More
lies

Character Assassination: 6 Ways to React to a False Narrative

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

Read More
Jesus cheaters

He Says I’m “UnChristian” for Divorcing Him

Dear Chump Lady – I’m 6.5 months since D-day and filed for divorce 2.5 months ago. My daughters are 17 and 20. The 20 year-old …

Read More

Do I Tell Her Family Why We’re Divorced?

Dear Chump Lady, 4 months out from D-Day. Wife of two years confesses she had multiple affairs and abandons me for AP#3 to go off …

Read More

Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?

Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post-divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity.  My question is what happens to couple friends after divorce? Can anyone …

Read More
schmoopies

When You’re Married and ‘Fall in Love’ with Someone Else

Dear Chump Lady, I am a recovering chump, happily divorced and living in the State of Meh. Your blog saved me, and I still read …

Read More

No Tag Backs, OW

Hi CL! I’m a newbie chump (7 weeks going on 8) and up until now I behaved really rather well. I kept my cool and …

Read More
maintain your dignity

If It Feels Good — Don’t Do It

Psssst! I have a little secret to lay on you…. People are not interested in your messy divorce. Okay, maybe your parents and closest friend. Certainly …

Read More
>