Category: Untangling the Skein
Looking Back and Marveling at the Spackle
Dear Chump Lady, I recently looked at family photos with my kids, including those taken with the ex. I hadn’t looked at them in a …
The OW Calls Me for Advice
Dear Chump Lady, I have a unique situation that I would appreciate your take on. My husband began an affair (his THIRD affair that I …
Is Every Cheater Mentally Ill?
Dear Chump Lady, I have a question: my soon-to-be-ex is a megalomaniac, socio-psycho-pathic compulsive liar. He lacks empathy and borders on sadism. No, no border. …
Be Free, Unfold the Swans
Dear Chump Lady, When is a not-a-chump, a chump? See, seven months ago, my partner of 21 years, husband of a mere 17 and a …
Took Him Back, Now He’s Cheating with His Boss
Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for 18 years, and I have been with my husband for 24 years. I met him when I …
Everyone Tells Me He’s Not a Bad Person
Dear Chump Lady, I was chumped after 12 years of marriage, and a total of 16 years together. I was so blindsided, and devastated. I …
I Need to Know the OW’s Identity
Dear Chump Lady, I learned last year that FW had been engaging in an emotional affair and physical affair for 6 months. He’s a massage …
He Runs Me Down to Our Daughter
Dear Chump Lady, I’m 5 years into this shitshow now and mostly am fairly chilled about everything, albeit with the occasional trigger that sets me …
‘Broken’ Cheater Cheats Again
Dear Chump Lady, I need help, I know I do. My beloved wife of 26 years has cheated on me. Again. The first time was …
He Was Not As Advertised
Dear Chump Lady, I dated a guy this year, for almost a year, and about 1.5 months ago he broke up with me. I’m divorced …
Was Anything Real?
Dear Chump Lady, My D-Day was in April when my daughter was 4 months old. My FW blames me for ignoring his needs since I …
Why Do Affair Partners Stalk Chumps?
Hi Chump Lady, Life is good at five years post-divorce. I haven’t talked to or seen ex since the settlement signing/final appearance in front of …
He Took the OW on Vacation
Dear Chump Lady My husband, a school principal, cheated on me with his secretary, we are trying to work things out. He took his lover …
Caught Him on the DoggyCam
Dear Chump Lady, First I just want to say I literally love you and your site has brought me so much comic relief into the …
He Doesn’t Hoover, He Rages
Hi Chump Lady, I’m 2.5 years out from D-Day (3-year affair with his assistant), divorce final a month ago, 20 year marriage, 2 great kids, …
Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?
Dear Chump Lady, I need your take on what is still happening to me nearly eight years after D-day. I went no contact almost immediately. …
Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?
Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …
Is Limerence a Thing?
Dear Chump Lady, Just curious what your thoughts are about the concept of “limerence”, and especially as it applies to midlife crises. After discovering the …
He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t believe I am writing this but I really need some help. 5 weeks ago I discovered my husband was having …
Why Are They So Petty?
Hi Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your site for a long time now and it’s been really helpful to me especially after my wife left …
