Category: Untangling the Skein

Looking Back and Marveling at the Spackle

Dear Chump Lady, I recently looked at family photos with my kids, including those taken with the ex. I hadn’t looked at them in a …

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The OW Calls Me for Advice

Dear Chump Lady, I have a unique situation that I would appreciate your take on. My husband began an affair (his THIRD affair that I …

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Is Every Cheater Mentally Ill?

Dear Chump Lady, I have a question: my soon-to-be-ex is a megalomaniac, socio-psycho-pathic compulsive liar. He lacks empathy and borders on sadism. No, no border. …

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Origami swan

Be Free, Unfold the Swans

Dear Chump Lady, When is a not-a-chump, a chump? See, seven months ago, my partner of 21 years, husband of a mere 17 and a …

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not a unicorn

Took Him Back, Now He’s Cheating with His Boss

Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for 18 years, and I have been with my husband for 24 years. I met him when I …

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mask

Everyone Tells Me He’s Not a Bad Person

Dear Chump Lady, I was chumped after 12 years of marriage, and a total of 16 years together. I was so blindsided, and devastated. I …

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mindfuck

I Need to Know the OW’s Identity

Dear Chump Lady, I learned last year that FW had been engaging in an emotional affair and physical affair for 6 months. He’s a massage …

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judging you

He Runs Me Down to Our Daughter

Dear Chump Lady, I’m 5 years into this shitshow now and mostly am fairly chilled about everything, albeit with the occasional trigger that sets me …

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timid forest creature

‘Broken’ Cheater Cheats Again

Dear Chump Lady, I need help, I know I do. My beloved wife of 26 years has cheated on me. Again. The first time was …

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He Was Not As Advertised

Dear Chump Lady, I dated a guy this year, for almost a year, and about 1.5 months ago he broke up with me. I’m divorced …

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Untangling the skein of fuckupedness

Was Anything Real?

Dear Chump Lady, My D-Day was in April when my daughter was 4 months old. My FW blames me for ignoring his needs since I …

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Untangling the skein of fuckupedness

Why Do Affair Partners Stalk Chumps?

Hi Chump Lady, Life is good at five years post-divorce. I haven’t talked to or seen ex since the settlement signing/final appearance in front of …

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vacations

He Took the OW on Vacation

Dear Chump Lady My husband, a school principal, cheated on me with his secretary, we are trying to work things out. He took his lover …

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Bulldog

Caught Him on the DoggyCam

Dear Chump Lady, First I just want to say I literally love you and your site has brought me so much comic relief into the …

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mindfuck

He Doesn’t Hoover, He Rages

Hi Chump Lady,  I’m 2.5 years out from D-Day (3-year affair with his assistant), divorce final a month ago, 20 year marriage, 2 great kids, …

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panopticon

Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?

Dear Chump Lady, I need your take on what is still happening to me nearly eight years after D-day. I went no contact almost immediately. …

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chasing unicorn

Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …

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schmoopies

Is Limerence a Thing?

Dear Chump Lady, Just curious what your thoughts are about the concept of “limerence”, and especially as it applies to midlife crises. After discovering the …

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He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’

Dear Chump Lady, I can’t believe I am writing this but I really need some help. 5 weeks ago I discovered my husband was having …

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Narcissist Goldfish

Why Are They So Petty?

Hi Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your site for a long time now and it’s been really helpful to me especially after my wife left …

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