Category: Untangling the Skein

word salad

Cheater Word Salad Attacks

Chump Lady used to be a think tank editor in her younger days. Think tank publishing is mostly vanity publishing and not every book was stellar. …

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Is This Jealousy?

Dear Chump Lady, CN support helped me avoid a mindfuck my husband was trying to impose on me. Thanks to CN, I got up from my …

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Hopium

Chump Won’t Stop Doing Her Ex Favors

Hello, Chump Lady. I am hoping that you and Chump Nation can help me help a chump. My cousin, who is like a sister to …

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How Do You Get Past the Revulsion?

Dear Chump Lady, Have you ever addressed how to get past the feeling of revulsion or “ick” when you finally see the cheater for who …

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‘Maybe He Was Right About Me?’

Dear Chump Lady, I was totally blindsided by my husband a year ago. (Before D-Day I’d say we were a happy marriage, you heard it …

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He’ll Send Support If She’ll Send Naked Pictures

Hi Chump Lady, Thanks so much for your blog that always keeps me on track. I have been no contact for 6 months. The peace …

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Voodoo doll

When You Need Cheater Twu Wuv to Fail

We’re all about Meh here at CN — that Promised Land of acceptance where the pain stops and you don’t really care what your cheater …

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broken heart

What Do I Do with the Phantom Pain of Abandonment?

Dear Chump Lady, First, thank you. Your truth is like a laser ripping through the threads of the tangled skein I’ve struggled with for three …

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Untangling the skein of fuckupedness

Did She Cheat Because She’s Bipolar?

Hi Chump Lady, You have a very unique perspective about infidelity that I appreciate, even though it directly contradicts everything I’ve tried to convince myself …

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Serial cheater

‘He’s a Different Person Than I Used to Know’

Dear Chump Lady, The past several months have been some of the worst of my life. Three months after having a baby, I discovered that …

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Untangling the skein of fuckupedness

Is He Gay? A Lost Soul? A Sex Addict?

Dear Chump Lady, I’m writing to you as I was forwarded your website by my therapist. I found myself in a shrink’s chair when I …

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unicorn problem

Cheater Doesn’t Understand Why Partner Is Reconciling with Him

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve cheated on almost every partner. My brain doesn register it properly and I usually just shutdown after and pull away. I …

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Mindfuck blender

He Thinks He’s Done ‘Nothing Wrong’

Dear Chump Lady, I am a month out from D-Day. After noticing a bunch of suspicious late night phone calls, I “accidentally” saw some Instagram …

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‘He Didn’t Suck’

Dear Chump Lady, Finding your webpage was the best thing happened to me lately as I was about to lose my sanity. I spent hours …

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Serial cheater

‘We Had a Good Life. Why Did He Cheat?’

Dear Chump Lady, I come to you as perplexed and heartbroken. When you think about how many people experience this kind of betrayal, it is …

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broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, I built my whole life around her

Dear Chump Lady, I’m feeling so lost right now after getting chumped… She left me May 19th saying she didn’t know if she loved me …

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Which Came First, The Dead Marriage or the Affair?

Dear Chump Lady, I spend a lot of time thinking about the chicken and egg question — which  came first, the death of the marriage or the affair? …

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Hopium

Dear Chump Lady, She changed him

Dear Chump Lady, I want to first say that I am SERIOUSLY thankful for your blog. I found it a little too late, and pick-me …

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Untangling the skein of fuckupedness

Dear Chump Lady, He claims he still loves me

Dear Chump Lady, You may have addressed this in the past. I’m leaving a partner of 43 years whom I’ve learned has been visiting prostitutes …

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broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, Am I the toxic one?

Dear Chump Lady: I’m not sure it’s possible to get through this nightmare of truth-trickling and gaslighting without picking up a maladaptive strategy or two. …

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