Author: Chump Lady

How Many People Knew and Didn’t Tell You?

Well, here’s a depressing Friday Challenge. Conspiracy. How many people knew your partner was cheating on you and didn’t tell you? One to five? Five …

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Looking Back and Marveling at the Spackle

Dear Chump Lady, I recently looked at family photos with my kids, including those taken with the ex. I hadn’t looked at them in a …

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The OW Calls Me for Advice

Dear Chump Lady, I have a unique situation that I would appreciate your take on. My husband began an affair (his THIRD affair that I …

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Holmes and Robach

Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes Get Canned for Workplace Affair

  Well, this happened last week — the Good Morning America hosts Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes — who were having a workplace affair — …

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Parasitic Boyfriend Won’t Leave

Over the weekend I had an exchange with “Cyn” — a woman being threatened by her parasitic, live-in boyfriend. As we corresponded, more details about …

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Wizard of Therapy

What Did You Learn from Being Chumped?

“The best thing for being sad,” replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, “is to learn something. That’s the only thing that never fails. You …

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He’s Checked Out for OnlyFans

Dear Chump Lady, I am so confused. My partner of 10 years, and friend prior to that, has been interacting and subscribing to subscription accounts, …

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maintain your dignity

I Feel Stronger Breaking Up This Time

Dear Chump Lady, I recently got back together with my cheater, after a horrible breakup of discovering he had a prolific hooker problem, (I’m going …

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Is Every Cheater Mentally Ill?

Dear Chump Lady, I have a question: my soon-to-be-ex is a megalomaniac, socio-psycho-pathic compulsive liar. He lacks empathy and borders on sadism. No, no border. …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: ‘I Like Me. A Lot.’

Dear Chump Lady, So, I finally left my FW husband of 27 years after enduring two years of mindfuckery after I learned of a series …

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UK Chump Meetup?

Hey, Mr. CL and I are going to be in London! We’re hoping to meet up with some UK chumps on Sunday afternoon, March 12. …

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lame excuses

Stupid Cheater Lame Excuses

Ever need something from a FW? Then you’ve probably witnessed a barrage of nonsense about why they cannot do you this one small solid. Yesterday, …

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Child Support Enforcement Can Bite Me

In the United States, child support enforcement is a joke. How big of a joke? A $113.5 billon joke. That’s the amount of promised — …

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butt face

Why Is My Ex Stonewalling Me?

Dear Chump Lady, I am 5.5 years post divorce. I got married to an amazing man last spring. I have rebuilt so much of my …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: ‘I’m in a Good Place Now’

Dear Chump Lady, So two years ago my husband of 25 years left me for his technician, immediately moved her in, got her pregnant and they are …

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shakira she wolf

Shakira’s Epic Takedown of Her Ex

 I know we say around here, “If it feels good, don’t do it.” But, if you’re Shakira and you have a global platform to …

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Singing Walls and Dementia

When I started this blog, I wanted to fill it full of stories of people who overcame chump heartbreak and went on to gain better …

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not a unicorn

Don’t Tell Me to Leave Him

Hello Chump Lady, I just started reading your blog. I found it on Reddit after looking up “can a cheater change”. I’m not really sure …

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Dan Savage

Debunking Dan Savage

(Sigh) I used to be a Dan Savage fan. Back in the 90s and early aughts. Read his column religiously in the DC City Paper. …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: The OW Sends a Self-Help Book

Hi Chump Lady! I wrote to you, detailing how my cheating ex got cheated on by his mistress and how karma, completely un-looked for at …

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