Dear Chump Lady, It’s been almost 10 months since D-Day. Things are slowly but surely getting better for me after finding out that my tramp of an ex had been cheating on me for the past 10 years or so. It was a tremendous blow to my heart and ego, but I’m starting to realize […]
Cheaters Suffer from “Low Self-Esteem”?
If you spend any time on reconciliation boards, you’ll read a lot of creative excuses being thrown around about the deep shame and inadequacy that cheaters feel. Really, it’s there buried deep under their secret cell phones, dating profiles, and FOO issues. The whole time they were screwing around on you, somewhere deep in their […]
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get over being replaced
Dear Chump Lady, I was chumped big time. My once sweet, loving husband left me for a girl at work. Problem is, it was a total lateral move. She is about my age, has the same number of kids just like we do, is a full-time-working professional, like me. We even have very similar interests. […]
Chump Lady’s Book Now on AUDIO!
Hey guess what, CN? The Chump Lady book “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life” is out on audiobook, available for download starting on September 20! Tantor Audio bought the rights, and boy are they fast operators. I was surprised to see it would be available so soon! So if you’re interested, make my agent happy […]
The Health Costs of Staying?
So, at the risk of having a fun Friday challenge that sounds like a weekly phone call home to my aging mother, tell me about your health ailments! One common refrain at Chump Nation has been the health costs associated with staying in a toxic relationship. The strange rashes, the sciatica, the teeth grinding — […]
Dear Chump Lady, He won’t stop texting the OW in front of me
Dear Chump Lady, I am a relatively new chump. My soon-to-be-ex had what he claims was an “emotional affair” in 2011. I haven’t ever really fully trusted him since then because he has not been transparent about so many things. I have thought about divorce often over the past 6 years, but have been waiting […]
Dear Chump Lady, He exults in my parenting “mistakes”
Dear Chump Lady, Here is where I am at —overall, happy. I managed to get my divorce finally finalized more than a year ago. I have a full-time job, half-time parenting and a boyfriend. I have a home and a dog and all the basics that a woman could want plus a little more. I’m […]
Character Assassination? Expect It.
A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… and my cheater is telling people terrible things about me.” Both followed with “And what can I do about that?” Nothing. Sorry, chumps. You can’t do anything about what people […]
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think my cheater is like the other cheaters…
Hi Chump Lady, I am having a terrible time trying to make my cheater fit into the disordered, mindfuck, etc. category everyone talks about here. I’ve been married for 28 years and have four children, one still at home. My husband who was in the military for 25 of those years, retiring as a colonel, […]
It’s Taking Up Another’s Place
So, there’s this terrific early Aretha Franklin song you should all listen to (yes, I’m that sort of pedantic person who wants you to listen to her playlist, and control the radio dial, and the flipper, and… LISTEN TO HER GREATNESS!) It’s called, “You’re Taking Up Another Man’s Place.” You don’t want me And you […]
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