Author: Chump Lady

Owning Your Chumpiness

Did anyone read the Modern Love column in this last Sunday’s New York Times– “Friends Without Benefits”? It’s the overwrought tale of loving an emotionally …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do you define cheating?

Dear Chump Lady, How does one define cheating? Obviously having sex with someone not your partner without your partner’s consent is infidelity. But on Huffpost …

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Healing from Infidelity as Competitive Sport

As nice is it is getting new readers to Chump Lady each time I’m published on Huffington Post, I have to say I’m getting pretty …

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Dear Chump Lady, Should I go after child support?

Dear Chump Lady, My boyfriend and I dated and lived together from 1989 to 1994. I paid the house payment, utilities, groceries, etc. and not …

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Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants to “be me”

Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I have been married for 24 years. We both have been very happy until recently.     We met …

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A New Monogamy?

Here’s a therapy mindfuck if ever I read one — after you’ve been cheated on and you want to reconcile the marriage — strive for …

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Shameless merchandising comes to Chump Lady

You may have noticed something a little different about the layout of Chump Lady lately. I’ve opened a Cafe Press shop to hawk chump stuff. …

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A letter from a child of a cheater — Don’t stay together

I got this letter sent to me after my last Huffington Post essay. Posting it to get your thoughts and provoke discussion. I did write …

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Dear Chump Lady, What’s inside the mind of the OW?

Dear Chump Lady, You have done such a wonderful job describing the cheater. Can you please give me insight into the mind of the other …

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Financial Infidelity

People who will screw around on you, will often screw you over financially as well. Are you in the dark about their affairs? You’re probably also in …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters cry? And why do we fall for it?

Dear Chump Lady, Why on earth do chumps (or any of us who have found ourselves in a skein of fuckedupedness of any relational sort) …

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The Forgiveness Imperative

God, I really can’t stand all the moralistic gobbledygook that you must forgive a cheater. According to one blogger over at HuffPo, Vicki Larson, it …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cake eater?

Dear Chump Lady, I have been in a serious committed relationship for two years now. We have had ups and downs, but mostly due to …

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Dear Chump Lady, How long do I wait this out?

Dear Chump Lady, Okay, here is the situation. After 23 years together he has reconnected with an old girlfriend on Facebook and wants a divorce. After …

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On Saying “Fuck”

Recently Chump Lady got taken to task by a commentator on HuffPo for saying “fuck” too much. The person wrote to say that he himself …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell his parents he is a cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, First, let me just say that I love your blog!  I just discovered it (via Huffington), and it came into my life just …

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Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?

Dear Chump Lady, I would love to hear your take on this: When my former significant other (SO) was sneaking around behind my back having …

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You Could Be Friends!

One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the …

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Dear Chump Lady, What part of her withering assessment of me should I own?

Dear Chump Lady, I have serious question that I have been wrestling with. I know my cheating ex-wife is a narcissist and tried to put …

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When the Holidays Suck

The holidays can suck at the best of times, let me count the ways. Credit card debt, over eating, dysfunctional family get togethers, box store …

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