Dear Chump Lady, Your blog helped me to cut through the nonsense about staying with a cheater and I can say that I am now divorced and at peace with it. I am happy to report that I am doing so much better and am gaining a life day by day. I would like to […]
Are you a little less chumpy than you used to be? Can you sniff out bullshit a bit better after you found yourself mired in it? The Universal Bullshit Translator is a vain creature (given its insatiable appetite for both cookies and praise), but it bursts its sockets with pride to think it has spawned a multitude […]
Dear Chump Lady, I left my ex-fiancé a few years ago just as our daughter was born (standard cheater asshole) and amidst him marrying and having a child with someone else within less than a year of that, I suppose he got tired of her too, and sought to reconcile with me. I was not […]
Dear Chump Lady, About 2 months ago I got an message on Facebook stating my husband of 28 years was cheating on me and to look at his messenger for proof. So I did and found messages between him and a female coworker. And I got livid. Instead of sending the messages to myself for proof, I […]
Dear Chump Lady, Being the sleuthy sleuth I am, I discovered my husband of 15 years’ “emotional” affair (um yeah…her husband hired a private investigator that put that silly belief to rest) within days, since he suddenly went from sending about 300 texts a month to 7000 texts a month. All to my kids’ preschool […]
Hi Chump Lady, I have a problem that I am really struggling with. What do I do when I meet the ex and the OW at an event for the first time? A little background: was married 28 years , the last 2 years consisting of D-days and reconciliations. I smoked hopium and played the […]
In yesterday’s post, Lola Granola discussed the belief that so many women have about their own financial incompetence and ability to provide for themselves. Economic vulnerability is a real stick-with-the-jerk force, I get it. But I’ve also read here time and time again, that when you leave a cheater, you figure it out. You gain […]
My cousin got divorced yesterday and I noticed today on her Facebook page that she wrote a very kind thank you to her friends and family who helped her through this difficult “journey.” She didn’t mention what that journey was — divorce. Several people wrote “You’re in my prayers,” and “hugs” and other supportive kind things, a few […]
He left her for the OW. Now he’s back on weekends. Planting a garden. Buying her gifts. Having sex. Is this… reconciliation? Chump Lady wields the clue bat.
He butt-dialed her from the OW’s place. Now she’s wondering if they can still be friends. Chump Lady on why that’s a regrettable idea.