Tag: Blameshifting

Which Came First, The Dead Marriage or the Affair?

Dear Chump Lady, I spend a lot of time thinking about the chicken and egg question — which  came first, the death of the marriage or the affair? …

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Blameshifting Jujitso

Today’s Fun Friday Challenge is flip the blameshifting script. Slam it on the mat and bounce it a few times for good measure. In yesterday’s …

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Dear Chump Lady, How did he turn into a douche?

Dear Chump Lady, First time chump and I would have bet my life on the fact I’d never be in this position. I had a …

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“I Didn’t Mean To” Debunked

Dear Chump Lady, I was married to a very lovely man for 15 years. He was “nice,” yet he needed parenting. That’s where I came …

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The Fog Comes Softly on Little Cheater Feet

I was going to write a column today, but I realized this morning I was out of milk. And that meant no oat squares for …

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‘Is it my fault my ex ran off with our nanny?’

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband cheated and ran off with the nanny. According to my ‘friends’ and family, it’s all my fault and they knew …

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Playing the Victim?

Dear Chump Lady, During my shock of learning and trying to understand why he cheated on me, when I thought we had a great relationship …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why do people assume cheating is the chump’s fault?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve recently been pondering something that irks me, and would really appreciate your opinion. In various conversations with some friends over the …

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Let’s blame the children?

An alert chump sent this article in Today’s Parent: “What happens after the affair—when you have kids?” Apparently, children are hindering Otherwise Good People from …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is pain a choice?

Dear Chump Lady As I try to heal in the most graceful way (suppressing my revenge fantasies) this is what I am struggling with… Like …

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Tell Me How You Suck

I have a confession. I make pasta wrong. Also coffee. Also stewed tomatoes. Moreover, I cannot properly close a drawer and because of this I …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do cheaters blameshift?

Dear Chump Lady, I was wondering if this is a common saying that chumps hear on D-day. Upon discovering my husband’ s texts to another …

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UBT: Thanks to your book, my husband wants to leave me

Dear Chump Lady, Please come take care of my child. I cheated. We were really trying to save our marriage. Then my husband read your …

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The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender

There must be a bazillion “How To Tell If He/She’s Cheating” articles on the interwebs. You know, the usual — new cologne, sudden penchant for …

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