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He Walked Out for OW But Doesn’t Want a Divorce

January 11, 2021 by Chump Lady

cake

Dear Chump Lady, My story begins four years ago. My narcissist had an emotional affair with a much younger (30 years..) girl at the local amateur dramatic group. Initially, they were just ‘drawn to one another’ after acting together in a play. He started flossing, shaving, taking his phone to the bathroom and changing his […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Divorce, Pick me dance Tagged With: cake eating, divorce, dragging out divorce

UBT: The Apology That Never Came

January 4, 2021 by Chump Lady

Hopium

Hello Chump Lady! I’ve got a fine bit of BS here and I’d like to see what you think. Brief background: My ex-wife had an affair with her boss, assumed it was going somewhere, and divorced my chump-ass without a lick of remorse. Last year, about 2 years later, their relationship ended. Still high on […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Hopium Tagged With: cake eating, Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse, Hopium, reconciliation, Remorse, Universal Bullshit Translator

When They Won’t Leave

November 6, 2020 by Chump Lady

There is no hell like the hell of in-house separation. You’ve been a good spouse appliance. Why should those perks end? What’s for dinner? I know many of you have had the sort of cheater who flounces off after the Schoompie(s) and just goes. But others of us get the hardcore cake enthusiasts. The sort […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Gay cheating, How to leave a cheater Tagged With: cake eating

Dead Bedroom? Cheater

August 5, 2020 by Chump Lady

cake

Dear Chump Lady, I recently found out that my wife of 2 years has been in an sexual/emotional affair with a old college crush for over a year (possibly longer). To make matters worse, we’ve been in a dead bedroom since the end of engagement. We went to couples counseling and it failed. I was […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Trust that they suck Tagged With: cake eating, Dead bedroom, Trust That They Suck

Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner

June 9, 2020 by Chump Lady

Stay friends

One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the affair partner! You’re a lot alike! You could be friends! The chump is absolutely gobsmacked by this (clearly, or they wouldn’t submit such nonsense to this blog). Which got me […]

Filed Under: Cheaters Decoded, Narcissism, Other Man, Other Women, Pick me dance Tagged With: cake eating, Ego Kibbles, Pick Me Dance

‘I Turned the Tables’

May 21, 2020 by Chump Lady

cheater manifesto

Dear Chump Lady, Married 31 years, chumped the last 2 (that I know of), 2 kids early 20s. I did it all, untangling the skein of fuckedupness, rode the unicorn for a while, smoked a lot of hopium, dined at the buffet of grief, anger, etc. and went back for seconds and thirds. Moved out […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Pick me dance Tagged With: cake eating, separation

He Left Me. Why Won’t He Agree to a Divorce?

April 22, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, How do you deal with a fuckwit who won’t do the things necessary to separate from you? On the very rare times I’ve seen my ex (child drop offs), he says under this breath, “we need to separate NOW!”, like he means business. So, I think to myself, “Yep, couldn’t agree more.” […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Divorce Tagged With: cake eating, dragging out divorce, withholding

Cake Speak?

April 3, 2020 by Chump Lady

Whenever I’m trying to categorize posts, invariably I file most under “cake eating” — the act of having both a chump and an affair partner (or 6) and all the entitlement therein. Which made me realize we have an entire sub-category of Stupid Shit Cheaters Say — Cake Talk! “After we divorce, we could always […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating Tagged With: cake eating

When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex

November 27, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, The holidays are coming and I was just wondering how to deal with the soon-to-be-ex (STBX) and holiday get-togethers. I actually thought we could stay on friendly terms since we have kids together and we will be seeing each other time to time. I really wanted it to be less painful for […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating Tagged With: Boundaries, cake eating, divorce, Holidays with ex

‘The Other Woman Is Taunting Me’

October 30, 2019 by Chump Lady

other woman

Dear Chump Lady, The other woman is taunting me! She’s been in an affair with my husband for over 18 months now, and I’ve asked her numerous times to leave my husband alone and she refuses. My husband and I separated 12 months ago, but want to make our marriage work now, but it’s very hard […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Other Women, Pick me dance, Trust that they suck Tagged With: cake eating, Other Woman

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