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‘The Other Woman Is Taunting Me’

October 30, 2019 by Chump Lady

other woman

Dear Chump Lady, The other woman is taunting me! She’s been in an affair with my husband for over 18 months now, and I’ve asked her numerous times to leave my husband alone and she refuses. My husband and I separated 12 months ago, but want to make our marriage work now, but it’s very hard […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Other Women, Pick me dance, Trust that they suck Tagged With: cake eating, Other Woman

Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker

November 19, 2018 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were good friends for 5 years, dated for almost another 5 and have been married for 8 years, have 2 kids, with our 9th anniversary coming up at the end of this month. Prior to marriage, she had dated only one other guy, I dated several others and […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Early days after discovery, Emotional affair, Limbo, Pick me dance Tagged With: cake eating, Emotional Affair

Dear Chump Lady, He keeps calling me “Babe”

August 9, 2018 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I told my husband I want a divorce today and stupidly gave him some criteria about what I’d need him to do to win him back — and he started trying to do them, but already fucked up. I said I needed to meet one of his OW “friends” and we needed […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Cake Eating, Limbo Tagged With: cake eating

Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust

July 18, 2018 by Chump Lady

broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — I like it when pretty people do things to each other. Sensing he wanted to wander, though, I’d negotiated three rules: he could do whatever as long as it was […]

Filed Under: How to leave a cheater, Monogamy Tagged With: cake eating, Ethical non monogamy, monogamy

Dear Chump Lady, He wants me back

July 9, 2018 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, Thanks in large part to a daily diet of your advice, things have gotten pretty good for me recently. I’m almost at my 2 year No Contact anniversary, during which time I recovered my sanity, made new friends and reconnected with old, started doing well at my job, bought a house, and […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse, Limbo, No contact, Trust that they suck, What Not to Do Tagged With: cake eating, No Contact

Dear Chump Lady, I feel trapped

June 20, 2018 by Chump Lady

broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, I need to vent. I have no one to talk to and I feel trapped. I can’t talk to friends or family because he’s a decent father but not so much as a husband. So…about 7 years ago I found out my husband went to those “happy ending” massage places for about […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Cake Eating Tagged With: cake eating, Stay at home mom

Dear Chump Lady, Am I an insensitive jerk because my husband wants to date?

March 28, 2018 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Am I being unreasonable for having a problem with my husband’s ongoing relationship with a woman he tried unsuccessfully to seduce? One night about a year ago, we both got home from our respective jobs and my husband burst into tears. I’m talking, deep, rasping sobs. With his head on my lap […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Cake Eating, Trust that they suck Tagged With: cake eating, Narcissism

The Unified Theory of Cake

April 19, 2012 by Chump Lady

cake

Cake eating is the preferred Nirvanic state of the unrepentant cheater. It’s the situation in which the cheater has the affair partner (AP) and the spouse. (“Having your cake and eating it too.”) In fact, cake is a preferred lifestyle for many. Ideally, the spouse is unaware of the AP, because that means the cheater […]

Filed Under: Best of Cheaters Decoded, Cake Eating, Cheater Tactics, Cheaters Decoded Tagged With: cake eating, emotional abuse, indecision, manipulation

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