Hi Chump Lady, Could you please give some advice as to how I can stop obsessing about cheater apologists? Absolutely nobody except those who have been cheated on seem to get it. My own mother told me that she can’t judge all cheaters because she doesn’t know the circumstances — there could be gray areas. […]
I’m Forced To Live with My Cheater Right Now
Dear Chump Lady, It’s been five weeks since D-Day here. I’m a lesbian, we have been together 13 years, we have one small child that we created together, and four kids I already had from a previous marriage. She cheated on me the first time back in 2008, right after our wedding ceremony, when she […]
Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says don’t tell anyone he cheated
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she cheated? My marriage counselor (MC)’s advice was that the reason for the separation was not anyone else’s business and said that by telling the truth (i.e. their spouse cheated) the betrayed […]
When Men Are Cheated On
If Google analytics are to be believed (and they know everything right?) about half of the people who read here are men. Where are they? Mostly lurking. (Assuming they aren’t your stalking ex. Google doesn’t have a break down for that. Yet.) With 26 million-plus page views and nearly 5 million unique visitors — that’s […]
All Those Times You Didn’t Cheat
If you believe the popular commentators on infidelity, unfaithfulness is an affliction that can happen to anyone anywhere anytime. All of our relationships are under the constant assault of sparkly new acquaintances and old Facebook crushes. And the only bulwark against the novel pussy/dick menace is a $399 “affair-proof” your marriage webinar. Affairs, we’re told, […]
Dear Chump Lady, Do cheaters blameshift?
Dear Chump Lady, I was wondering if this is a common saying that chumps hear on D-day. Upon discovering my husband’ s texts to another person, he quickly said, “I’m done!” I answered with, “You’re done? I’m the one that’s done!” Here’s the kicker — he then says, “You’re doing exactly what she wants you […]
