Dear Chump Lady, I am divorced from a shitbag who decided to have an affair with a married coworker. Yes, I know, I should have seen it coming. Not to mention I am positive I held some of his red flags for him while watching them wave in the wind. He probably needed both hands […]
‘My No Contact Stinks’
Dear Chump Lady, My no contact stinks. You have discussed no contact in your book and on your website. Many of the CN regulars speak of NC in the comments and have given sound advice. It sounds great, I don’t know how this is accomplished with my situation. My cheater ex works as a physician […]
Coronavirus and Co-Parenting with Fuckwits
Hello Chump Lady, I was married for 17 years, together 19. Left him in 2015, divorced 2016. I lived with him in a very remote place in rural coastal Alaska, to a small town southwest of here. I left because his job is the health care worker in a small native village no way I […]
‘Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?’
Dear Chump Lady, Can you please tell me why cheaters so badly want to remain friends? A little background information — my ex-husband and I were married for 16 years, have 2 kids (15 & 12), have been separated for a little over 2 years, divorced for one. I found out 2 days before our […]
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to organize their video chat?
Dear Chump Lady, Some backstory before I dive into my current issue: My ex-husband (as of July) told me he wanted to separate in January 2018. We are from Arizona, but were stationed in Maryland at the time. Oh, and I was 8 weeks pregnant with our second child. He encouraged me to move back […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep the OW away from my kids?
Dear Chump Lady, I tried to take the high road regarding my cheating ex-husband having my kids around the OW (who he had a long-term affair with). I’ve been divorced for two years, and he claims the OW isn’t in the picture any more, or around my kids. But my kids tell a different story. […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so mad at my ex?
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so angry at my cheating ex? I get flashes of it and it makes me tired. He’s off living his single life with affair partner and gets 50/50 shared custody of our child. (I’m happy with that, although I miss my child lots). He’s just become so […]
Dear Chump Lady, I want him to stay with the OW
Dear Chump Lady, I’m new to reading your column (just found it). I’ve been divorced 10-years after 14 years of being married. I found out from my then 2-year-old that her daddy was “naughty” because he kissed “girl.” We also had a 10-month old baby at the time. I knew from the look on his […]
Cool. Bummer. Wow.
Dear Chump Lady, Please help! I do not know how to navigate this entire divorce mess with my two teenage daughters. My youngest sees her father every other weekend. This includes time spent with the OW. This weekend they took a day trip and she took many pictures on her phone from the day. She […]
Dear Chump Lady, The OW dresses my children in her clothes
Dear Chump Lady, I am 15 months into this crappy situation now, have just wrangled myself a good settlement that my soon-to-be-ex’s stepfather had to pay (cheater has no money, how original), and am moving to my new property on Monday. My cheating ex is still with the low-rent staff member he left me for. […]
