Hi Chump Lady, I’m pushing almost three years out now from the bomb my ex dropped on our marriage and by all accounts I am the “King of Meh.” I’ve worked on all my baggage and done most everything about getting my life back on track before anything else. That said, getting back into the […]
Pick Me Dancing for Love
Dearest Chumplady, Can you tackle this self-help notion I’ve been pondering for a while. Does anyone else feel like a lot of self-help books and well-intentioned advice still feels like pick-me dancing? Let me explain. I left a cheater 8 years ago, and rebuilt myself and my life. Moved 3,000 miles with my cats and […]
Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart
Hi Chump Lady, I am new here, however, I am not new to chumpdom. I am a young chump (just turned 30) and am going through the second breakup with a man who lied and had an “emotional affair” throughout our time together, then proceeded to proclaim fucking the other woman officially the moment our […]
Bitter Bunny Dating?
Okay, as promised, the Fun Friday dating profile challenge. Part of gaining a life is considering the sort of life you want. Which chumps don’t do a lot. We get tangled up in other people’s visions, their needs, their values, and tend to neglect our own. So write it down. I’m a Nordic left-handed lug-nut […]
Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?
Dear Chump Lady, Please throw some light on the very stormy waters of the dating world out there. The last page of your book encourages to love again strong and true, and I get this implicitly but WHERE do we meet these new guys? (Especially for those of us who were dealt the wonderful shit […]
When your ‘match’ is a married motivational speaker
Friend of this blog, and interior design blogger superstar herself, Laurel Bern, recently sent me a funny account of her dating travails. Sick and tired of being alone after six years and with the writing on my meh mug, long worn off from repeated dishwashings, I put up a dating profile on match. Yeah. I […]
The ‘Bitch Be Crazy’ Red Flag
Here’s a situation I’ve encountered many times among dating friends. Friend will swoon with excitement over new man in her life. Man is divorced. Being the horrible Chump Lady killjoy that I am, I’ll ask why. (Sorry, Mr. Prospect. You don’t date someone I love without being vetted.) And invariably I’ll get the nebulous tale […]
How Do I Fix My Picker?
Dear Chump Lady, I have a question for the New Year — as we’re all thinking about new beginnings. It’s a simple question but I’m sure the answer is not so simple: Do you have any advice on how to fix a broken picker? I’m nowhere near ready to date yet. Not even close. But […]
Don’t Date This Person
Don’t you wish cheaters came with forehead stamps? Abandon Hope All Ye Who Date Me! Kibble Whore. Flaming Freak. But no. We’re left to our own faulty powers of discernment. After reading my umpteenth letter of Relationship Recitation with Waving Red Flags, I thought I should compile a list of People You Should Not Date. Feel […]
How Do I Fix My Picker?
Dear Chump Lady, Do you have any advice on how to fix a broken picker? I’m nowhere near ready to date yet. Not even close. But in all that I read, the message is very clear: chumps should go out, find a life, enjoy and grow ourselves. And this clearly will take some time. I’m okay […]
