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Fix Your Picker Tips

August 14, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hey, it’s Friday and maybe you have a date this weekend. Or a bad rash just thinking about dating. Or maybe there’s still a cheater snoring on your sofa. What you need are BOUNDARIES! Today’s Friday challenge is How to Fix Your Picker. If you’re a recovering chump like me, you need this skillset. And […]

Filed Under: Dating, What Not to Do Tagged With: Boundaries, Dating, Fix your picker, love bombing

Chumped by Dating, Still Heartbroken

March 11, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hello Chump Lady, I have a pretty straight forward situation. I was dating a man for about 8 months. I thought it was hands down THE BEST relationship I’d ever been in. I find out he’s cheating. Turns out he locks his phone with his birthday…idiot. I unceremoniously dumped him. It was fairly clear to […]

Filed Under: Dating, Deception Tagged With: Dating

Sex After Divorce?

December 26, 2019 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, I’m pushing almost three years out now from the bomb my ex dropped on our marriage and by all accounts I am the “King of Meh.” I’ve worked on all my baggage and done most everything about getting my life back on track before anything else. That said, getting back into the […]

Filed Under: Dating Tagged With: Dating, Sex after divorce

Pick Me Dancing for Love

December 9, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dearest Chumplady, Can you tackle this self-help notion I’ve been pondering for a while. Does anyone else feel like a lot of self-help books and well-intentioned advice still feels like pick-me dancing? Let me explain. I left a cheater 8 years ago, and rebuilt myself and my life. Moved 3,000 miles with my cats and […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Dating, Pick Me Dance, Rejection

Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart

July 29, 2019 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, I am new here, however, I am not new to chumpdom. I am a young chump (just turned 30) and am going through the second breakup with a man who lied and had an “emotional affair” throughout our time together, then proceeded to proclaim fucking the other woman officially the moment our […]

Filed Under: Dating, Emotional affair Tagged With: Dating, Know Your Worth, Thaddeus Stevens

Bitter Bunny Dating?

March 29, 2019 by Chump Lady

Okay, as promised, the Fun Friday dating profile challenge. Part of gaining a life is considering the sort of life you want. Which chumps don’t do a lot. We get tangled up in other people’s visions, their needs, their values, and tend to neglect our own. So write it down. I’m a Nordic left-handed lug-nut […]

Filed Under: Dating, Gain a life Tagged With: Dating

Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?

March 27, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Please throw some light on the very stormy waters of the dating world out there. The last page of your book encourages to love again strong and true, and I get this implicitly but WHERE do we meet these new guys? (Especially for those of us who were dealt the wonderful shit […]

Filed Under: Dating, Gain a life Tagged With: Dating, where are all the good men?

When your ‘match’ is a married motivational speaker

February 15, 2019 by Chump Lady

Friend of this blog, and interior design blogger superstar herself, Laurel Bern, recently sent me a funny account of her dating travails. Sick and tired of being alone after six years and with the writing on my meh mug, long worn off from repeated dishwashings, I put up a dating profile on match.  Yeah. I […]

Filed Under: Dating Tagged With: Dating

The ‘Bitch Be Crazy’ Red Flag

February 13, 2019 by Chump Lady

Here’s a situation I’ve encountered many times among dating friends. Friend will swoon with excitement over new man in her life. Man is divorced. Being the horrible Chump Lady killjoy that I am, I’ll ask why. (Sorry, Mr. Prospect. You don’t date someone I love without being vetted.) And invariably I’ll get the nebulous tale […]

Filed Under: Blameshifting, Dating Tagged With: Bitch Be Crazy, Dating

How Do I Fix My Picker?

January 31, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I have a question for the New Year — as we’re all thinking about new beginnings. It’s a simple question but I’m sure the answer is not so simple: Do you have any advice on how to fix a broken picker? I’m nowhere near ready to date yet. Not even close. But […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded, Dating, Gain a life Tagged With: Dating

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