Dear Chump Lady, I guess you can say I’m a chump-variant in that I had a runaway cheater. Married over 24 years to someone I thought was my best friend of over 26 years, D-day came the day after Christmas 2009. He moved out within the next month and was gone from my life forever. […]
Standing on Lies
Thank you Dr. Anna Fels! I urge every chump to read the opinion piece in the New York Times “Great Betrayals” by Dr. Fels. It’s the rare article on infidelity that recognizes the traumatic injury of deception — especially the sort we encounter here at Chump Lady — making sense of the double life. Fels […]
Where You Thought They Were, Where They Really Were
After you’ve been chumped “working late” takes on a whole new connotation. As does “Appalachian Trail” and “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.” We’re a trusting bunch, and if you say you’re doing a Thing, we’re inclined to believe you’re doing that Thing. When in fact, you may be Doing a thing. Trust being […]
What It Looked Like, What It Was
Today we’re doing to take a deep dive into spackle. Chumps often put things in the best light — which can be a very nice quality. Take children’s art work, for example. While some may see a squashed vessel and guess “tumor” — you, the proud parent, see artistic potential, genius even. All the other […]
