Hi Chump Lady! On this day, seven years ago, my divorce became final. After the judge proclaimed it officially done, I sat in my car in the courthouse parking lot and wailed as if my soul were being ripped from my body. A 25 year marriage legally erased. On the other side of a vast […]
Is Being Alone Worse Than Being with a Cheater?
Dear Chump Lady, Is being alone worse than being with a cheater, if by alone you mean something like “alone for at least the next 20 years”? Part of me thinks that despite my (wayward) partner’s flaws, the alternative is not to be with anyone at all. Not all of us are blessed enough to […]
‘How Do I Know Friends Won’t Betray Me?’
Dear Chump Lady, I am a year and a half out from discovery and four months since divorce. I am strictly keeping no contact. I’m pretty happy for the most part. One thing that I’m struggling with is inner conflict when making friends. During discovery, I found out that my husband had been cheating on […]
I Draw Naked People
Every Sunday morning, I take a brisk walk to Georgetown and draw naked people for three hours. You’re weirder than we thought, CL. Well, I generally don’t blog about myself. On weekends, I’m usually wading through my inbox and trying to get columns together for the week. But my CL email got hacked (fucking hell!) […]
Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
Today is my birthday and every year I rerun the first birthday column I wrote in 2012. It’s a meditation on craptacular chumpy birthdays, and what a difference a new life — and a new partner — makes. (Not that you can’t have the new life without a new partner. This always bears repeating.) Fair […]
Chump Lady Gets a Check
A little miracle happened Friday night — and I wanted to post and say thank you to Chump Nation. I came home from work, went through the stack of mail, and found a letter that looked rather ominously official. It was from the literary agency that represents my book — Leave a Cheater, Gain a […]
How Do I Gain a Life Before the Divorce Is Final?
Hi Chump Lady, I’d love yours and the input of CN on the transition between Leaving the Cheater and Gaining the Life. I feel I’m in transit, like I boarded the plane to Meh on Monday, and I’m about to touch down into Tuesday with a few bags and a little bit of hope. It’s […]
Dear Chump Lady, She was ‘going to make it up to me’
Hello Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your posts for the past three years understanding and yet ignoring all of your sage advice till just recently. Love is not only blind, it’s deaf, dumb, and stupid as well. I discovered 5 of my wife’s affairs in 2016. After a psychotic break and several suicide attempts back […]
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better, or is that just another lie that people tell chumps to cut down on the suicide stats? My STBX was a Boy-Scout-leading, Sunday-school-teaching, neighbor-helping pillar of our community, right up until the day I walked in on him and his skank in my guest room. He lied and […]
Got a Pep Talk?
A few months ago, I read about this research that found that one of the best ways to face a challenge is to give advice to someone else facing the same challenge. HellOOoo… whole premise of Chump Nation, amiright? We’re ahead of science! Quartz reports: Writing in MIT Sloan Management Review, Lauren Eskreis-Winkler, a Wharton psychologist […]
