Hello Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your posts for the past three years understanding and yet ignoring all of your sage advice till just recently. Love is not only blind, it’s deaf, dumb, and stupid as well. I discovered 5 of my wife’s affairs in 2016. After a psychotic break and several suicide attempts back […]
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better, or is that just another lie that people tell chumps to cut down on the suicide stats? My STBX was a Boy-Scout-leading, Sunday-school-teaching, neighbor-helping pillar of our community, right up until the day I walked in on him and his skank in my guest room. He lied and […]
Got a Pep Talk?
A few months ago, I read about this research that found that one of the best ways to face a challenge is to give advice to someone else facing the same challenge. HellOOoo… whole premise of Chump Nation, amiright? We’re ahead of science! Quartz reports: Writing in MIT Sloan Management Review, Lauren Eskreis-Winkler, a Wharton psychologist […]
Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
Dear Chump Lady Here is a silly question. I have been through years of hell. In short, like most people here, my husband of thirty years cheated with a woman at his office 30 years younger then him. I went through all the usual crap including forgiveness, starting again, listening to him gaslighting, blaming myself, […]
Dear Chump Lady, I’m still broken hearted
Dear Chump Lady, It has been over 5 years since D-Day, and about 3-1/2 years since I have spoken or seen my fuckwad cheater. I just found a journal entry that I made at the time, and I realized that I am STILL BROKEN-HEARTED. Although I have put my life back together to some extent, […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
Happy Thanksgiving, CN! It’s that season again and if you’re in a bit of a holiday slump, this goes one out to you. For the survivors of previous sucky holidays, tell the new ones how you did it in the comments. Thanks! — Tracy Dear Chump Lady, I am six months out from separation. Facing holidays alone […]
What Advice Would You Give an Earlier You?
Who wouldn’t love a do-over? I’m sure a few of you navigated this shit perfectly right out of the starting gate, but most of us floundered in the most humiliating of ways. If you could go back in time (and no, you don’t get to wish your whole relationship away, the time machine only allows […]
Be the Support You Wish You Had
I begrudge no one their meh. It’s so hard won. But do me one favor as you move on to happier pastures — be the support you wish you had. I trust that you are. I also know how hard it is to out yourself to the world as a chump. But maybe if more […]
Connecting with Other Chumps?
One of the very best things about running this blog is that people occasionally send me their chump meet-up photos. Even better, they tell me how they gained that new life. Want to meet some mighty? Check this out from “indomitablechump”: Through the power of your website, I was able to connect with four other […]
Tales from the “Gain a Life” Side?
Dear Chump Lady, First of all I have to say thank you to everyone in CN for all the support and for sharing their experiences, and to you for saying it straight and the jolts of reality we get from you. My story isn’t all that different from the others, but I did indeed make […]
