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No Contact, Gray Rock, and Other Kinds of Mighty

March 12, 2021 by Chump Lady

go away

Rocking the gray rock? Today’s Friday Challenge is to share how you’ve mastered the art of low contact. In a perfect world, you could have total no contact, but for people still slogging through divorce, enduring in-house separation, or co-parenting with fuckwits, gray rock is the coping strategy of choice. It requires discipline — not […]

Filed Under: No contact Tagged With: co-parenting with a fuckwit, Gray rock, Grey Rock, No Contact

Can I Tell His Family He Cheated?

February 3, 2021 by Chump Lady

cheater manifesto

Dear Chump Lady, My STBX informed me two weeks before Quarantine Thanksgiving that we had to talk. I shut the lid of my laptop and asked, “What do you want to talk about? Do you want to watch something together?” (I was deep into an episode of something that he hated.) He said, “I want […]

Filed Under: Divorce, No contact, Revenge, Telling people Tagged With: divorce, Grey Rock

‘My No Contact Stinks’

May 28, 2020 by Chump Lady

no contact

Dear Chump Lady, My no contact stinks. You have discussed no contact in your book and on your website. Many of the CN regulars speak of NC in the comments and have given sound advice. It sounds great, I don’t know how this is accomplished with my situation. My cheater ex works as a physician […]

Filed Under: co-parenting with a fuckwit, No contact Tagged With: co-parenting, Grey Rock, No Contact

UBT: ‘It’s not all sunshine and rainbows over here’

January 16, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I separated last year after she had a year-long affair with a colleague from work. Later on it had become apparent that she had seen other guys prior as well, over years , she went to the city where her parents live and went out to bars to meet […]

Filed Under: universal bullshit translator Tagged With: Bad apologies, Grey Rock, Sorry Not Sorry, Universal Bullshit Translator

Dear Chump Lady, I went grey rock, he went nuts

September 23, 2019 by Chump Lady

no contact

Dear Chump Lady, My chronically cheating EX husband is unfortunately stuck in my life until one of us keels over because I had a baby with him during our marriage. Now, I love our child to death, but had I known my ex was posing as a photographer and taking lingerie pictures of 18-19 year […]

Filed Under: Blameshifting, Character disorder, Trust that they suck Tagged With: character assassination, Grey Rock

New Narc Strategy? Be Boring

August 21, 2018 by Chump Lady

Narcissist Goldfish

Dear Chump Lady, I’m writing to ask if you could write a post about how and whether gray rock differs from no contact. Thanks to your blog, I went firmly “no-contact-as-possible-with-shared-custody” very early on. It’s been years since I’ve communicated with the ex via any method other than text or email, and it’s only around […]

Filed Under: Narcissism, No contact Tagged With: Grey Rock, Narcissist

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