Dear Chump Lady, I just heard from my mother that my soon-to-be-ex reached out to her pleading after I had made it clear I was done talking to him last week. All the things I had prayed to hear 5 months ago after D-Day. He ended it with her. He admitted what a low life […]
Is This Hoovering?
Dear Chump Lady I am no contact with my ex-boyfriend, and have been since August. He “wanted a break” in January, but I didn’t know that he already had his vastly inferior-to-me girlfriend already waiting in the wings. At this time, he would hoover me in once a month using some pretense (documents he could […]
Bitch Cookie: ‘He Doesn’t Blame Me’
Hi Chump Lady, Chump me is getting a divorce, after catching my husband cheating on me for the third time. It was a “three strikes, you’re out” kind of deal. I was the chump for even giving him one. He claims his affair partner is cut out of his life now. He has never once […]
Rocking the No Contact
Incoming bullshit? Repel! Today’s Fun Friday Challenge is to tell CN how that no contact’s going. In yesterday’s post, Dr. Chumphead commented: You know, since I have gone completely no contact, I am much better. Even when I did it in the beginning, I was better. But I didn’t set strong enough boundaries that he […]
UBT: “I Needed You So Much”
Dear Chump Lady, I was wondering if you could run this e-mail by the UBT. I received this letter from my ex-fuckwit after 18+ months of no contact. Brief background: Gay doctor chump. Ex-FW and I were together for close to 9 years, the last 4 of which began with the discovery of his cheating […]
UBT: The Couple Bubble
Dear Chump Lady, I got the following text from exhusband over the weekend: First: How to Create a Couple Bubble in Your Relationship Then: Hi, I’m checking text to see if there is anything new with today’s visit, and see that I unintentionally sent you this link. I got upset because I don’t want to […]
When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend
Dear Chump Lady, Last week, I left my boyfriend of 11 months. I recently discovered that before meeting with me, he had been in a relationship with a woman who had two kids and a husband for a year and a half. He lied about her for 11 months (the entire length of our relationship, […]
Coronavirus Hoovering?
Hi Chump Lady, Do you think that toxic relationships can be re-started — years later after both of you have had other partners and lived separate lives? So many of my exes are reaching out to me during this COVID time… I find it fascinating and traumatizing. What are your thoughts? Too Many Bad Options […]
‘He sent me a poem on Christmas’
Dear Chump Lady, I got this poem from my ex on Christmas Day. What does it mean? What is the point? “I just wanted to wish you Merry ChristmasYou were the best.I should never expecting anything lest.I’m sorry I was just a nuisance and a pest.I just wanted to drop you this rhyme.To let you […]
