Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an answer for everything. I don’t know left from right today. Today I’m rereading emails my other half sent to a woman he believed was a Craigslist honey wanting to get […]
‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’
Dear Chump Lady, I just found out after 5 or 6 years of absolute insane digging (mental breakdowns, trips to rehabs, gaslighting to the extreme, abuse that would cause anyone to want to kill themselves) that my dear darling husband’s side piece is no other than my fucking NEIGHBOR!!!!! I was on here about a […]
How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?
Dear Chump Lady, I have written before and asked for anonymity due to domestic violence, despite my ex being out of my house 3.5 years and fear his retribution. I wish to remain ‘behind the scenes’ as a quiet champion of your site and the amazing work you do. This site has literally saved my […]
‘We Had a Good Life. Why Did He Cheat?’
Dear Chump Lady, I come to you as perplexed and heartbroken. When you think about how many people experience this kind of betrayal, it is really a sad thing. I had been with my soon-to-be ex-husband for almost six years. Despite his two children from his first marriage, (and another child he found out about […]
When You Want to Leave, But Just Had a Baby
Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for almost 3 years and we have a one-year old. I discovered he was cheating with random strangers when we were engaged, and, in true Chump style, I paid for us to have expensive couples’ counselling. I chose to believe the arrogant psychologist who told me that he […]
Dear Chump Lady, She left me for her boss
Hello Chump Lady I am really struggling to cope with the end of my marriage because my partner has been unfaithful. My wife and I are gay. We have been together for 9 years and got married 6 years ago. My wife was really in love with me, and over the years would say I […]
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
Dear Chump Lady, First I want to say I am so glad I found your site, it is beginning to counteract the damage all the “save your marriage” sites have caused me. Thanks for exposing me to harsh realities. I wish I would have found this site in the beginning. I am still in the […]
How to Leave a Cheater — Your Care Team
Last week I got a letter from a physician, Kimberly, who told me part of her medical practice is dealing with the newly chumped. We all know the D-Day experience — the shock, the weight loss, the sleeplessness. Since I’ve done this blog, however, I’d never heard from the medical side of things. Kimberly, former […]
Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry with myself for not leaving sooner
Dear Chump Lady. I recently read your book, and it’s helped me a lot to not contact my ex-boyfriend (which had previously been very difficult), and to fully acknowledge his bullshit answers on evidence that never made sense. I first (yes, first…) discovered his cheating about three years ago. It came with the baggage of […]
