Dear Chump Lady, My 4.5 year journey to divorce my ex finished in a German court at 9:41 on October 11th. It felt like my marriage was brought in on a gurney and then they called time of death. It was surreal. What I learned is that my ex is a walking cliche and that […]
‘I’ve Never Broken Up with Anyone’
Dear Chump Lady, I’m closing in on a year from D-Day. I feel like my mental and emotional well-being have largely recovered and I’m ready to move forward with conviction. But I’m not doing it. In fact, I realized that in my entire 43 years of life, I have never broken up with anyone. My […]
She ‘Can’t Decide’ Between Us
Dear Chump Lady, We’ve been married since 2012. Bought new home in 2014. In 2015 she acted so so happy. Turns out she was screwing a guy in Motel 6. She told me they just needed a private place to talk. Until this guy. Five years older than my son (I’m 49. My son’s 26). […]
‘I Feel Trapped’
Dear Chump Lady, I need to vent. I have no one to talk to and I feel trapped. I can’t talk to friends or family because he’s a decent father but not so much as a husband. So…about 7 years ago I found out my husband went to those “happy ending” massage places for about […]
5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater
Are you on the fence about leaving a cheater? Is this not their first rodeo? Here are some common traps that keep you stuck with a cheater and prevent you from moving on. 1. Hope. Codependency has been described as the addiction to the POTENTIAL of things. Are you hooked on a cheater’s potential? Wow, […]
How Do You Leave a Cheater?
Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an answer for everything. I don’t know left from right today. Today I’m rereading emails my other half sent to a woman he believed was a Craigslist honey wanting to get […]
‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’
Dear Chump Lady, I just found out after 5 or 6 years of absolute insane digging (mental breakdowns, trips to rehabs, gaslighting to the extreme, abuse that would cause anyone to want to kill themselves) that my dear darling husband’s side piece is no other than my fucking NEIGHBOR!!!!! I was on here about a […]
How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?
Dear Chump Lady, I have written before and asked for anonymity due to domestic violence, despite my ex being out of my house 3.5 years and fear his retribution. I wish to remain ‘behind the scenes’ as a quiet champion of your site and the amazing work you do. This site has literally saved my […]
‘We Had a Good Life. Why Did He Cheat?’
Dear Chump Lady, I come to you as perplexed and heartbroken. When you think about how many people experience this kind of betrayal, it is really a sad thing. I had been with my soon-to-be ex-husband for almost six years. Despite his two children from his first marriage, (and another child he found out about […]
When You Want to Leave, But Just Had a Baby
Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for almost 3 years and we have a one-year old. I discovered he was cheating with random strangers when we were engaged, and, in true Chump style, I paid for us to have expensive couples’ counselling. I chose to believe the arrogant psychologist who told me that he […]
